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  1. I haven't read the full three pages of posts, but what exactly was the argument about when he did this, may I ask? I know you are hurt, and rightfully so, but this WAS before the pregnancy of your son, correct? You say he's 5 months old and 9 plus 5 equals 14, not 18. So... it was all before you got pregnant. I'd be worried about VD if it was me. But I think in his heart, your fiance knows what he did was a BIG mistake, and now he's terrified you will not only leave him but take your son also. You guys need counseling. I'm sure why he did it wasn't that your sex life wasn't good, it was for other reasons. You need to get to the bottom of those reasons, i think, to start the healing on this problem. He's not copping to this because he fears the consequences probably. I wish some of the guys could comment on this. I am sorry this happened to you though, girl, I'm sure it's very hurtful.
  2. What would be embarrassing about a guy getting a boner when he kisses you? I think that's flattering. It shows you turn him on. If he's not getting any reaction at all, I just have to wonder if he's really into you at all. Besides, it feels so nice to snuggle against the 'boner'! LOL... hey... we have sex drives too, guys! LOL.. anyway... I was dating this guy awhile back and we slept together after not seeing each other for many months. He didn't seem to have a boner or anything all night long. In the morning too, I just tried to caress him down there and he got all defensive, saying he "didn't want to be played with". I think that guy needs a case of viagra! I hate guys with no sex drive! Or who knows, maybe he was gay! He really wasn't very affectionate in the first place, and NEVER ever showed any public displays of affection. He even wanted me to call HIM instead of him calling ME! Some guys are so weird. Needless to say, I'm not dating HIM anymore! Anyway.. yeah... it's not unnormal at all for guys to get erections when they are making out with someone they are attracted to. Hey.. if erections didn't occur, would any of us even be here??.... lol I gotta ask though... I hear that guys can make their erections go "away" by sort of doing something to their penis, kinda of like pushing it down. I saw a bf do that once, and it seemed like he was being rather 'mean" to his penis, but i guess it worked. Like another female poster said, I don't have this device either, so I guess I'm in the dark about how they work sometimes too!
  3. Thank God Corvidae, You seem like a down-to-earth guy. I can't do that. I mean I literally can't do that. It's not 'me'. 6
  4. I'd tell him I didn't want to hang out with these girls anymore. There is definitely an "ick" factor here, so that's why he's covered it up for so long. Sure, he's into you not them, but really, if they are trying to befriend you, it would make me uncomfortable knowing they've had sex together before. Ugh!
  5. Quietgrl is right. I hate paying $20 just for the priviledge of some keyboard jockey being able to chat me up, lead me on, demand my pic, and then be on his way! Hey.. i'm not Paris Hilton. I have bills to pay. Even yahoo, you gotta pay $19 per month. I'm just not into it, and the photos of the guys I've seen online in the site I'm not attracted to, so to me it would be a waste of time kinda. I've tried it too, and it just never panned out for me. Not to say it wouldn't work for someone else or maybe myself down the line. I just cannot see wasting anymore of my time in front of my computer hoping someone will be interested in me, spending weeks chatting with them, getting my hopes up, having them arrange a date, only to cancel or come up with some excuse. I found it to be a waste of time. If yahoo wanted to make their personal site free I think that would be great. And you would think by this time, they really got the buck to do that. Come on, yahoo is huge now! Anyway... you really only get the sense of whether you have chemistry with somene if you meet them in person. Cuz someone can always doctor up their photo, or put someone else's up there. I had a friend do that to me. I thought he was great looking, and wrote him, and when we started chatting he admitted the photo he sent wasn't him! I guess cams are good that way cuz you can see someone in person. But too, people seem to be more promiscious online than in person. I really really don't want to date a guy who thinks it's okay to be masturbating off a bunch of strange girls on the internet or asking them to show off their breasts to him on his webcam. And that seems very prevelant these days. I want someone with class, and also too, not everyone who's good looking is that photogenic! I take a terrible picture myself. I met this guy IRL who was a gorgeous guy. I saw a picture he had taken of himself. I would of never ever looked him up if I had seen his photo cuz he didn't look attractive at all in the photo.
  6. I agree with whomever posted this, " agree with Survictor.I could only give a blow job to a man i love.Yes i would like to practice and men have offer their penis to me but i'll wait." I really have to feel a definite sense of intimacy that's much higher even than intercourse to want to give a bj to a guy! I just couldn't do it to a guy I wasn't really into... It's such an intimate and selfish act, i guess, i dunno. I also hate it when the guy wants a blowjob all the time but won't ever reciprocate. I feel basically that type of guy is a very selfish individual and i'm not sure i could have a relationship of any long term with such a person. I do feel that oral sex is integral to a healthy sex life, but that's just me. I like a variety of things, including cuddling, and manual sex too. I'd feel strange if I had a bf and we never had oral sex.
  7. Well, i'm str8, so i won't know and would never ever dream of getting sex from another woman, but thanks, happywither for this comment, "from my experience its been straight women i have always gotten off a lot sooner and more intense but thats just my experience" I always try to give my man a pleasurable experience when giving head. I think it's sort of an art form and you really have to WANT to do it, not just do it to please him. It's a strange thing but i just think the penis is such a pleasurable thing to fool with, I love its texture, the skin is so silky and it's so responsive, and then getting a man off, wow, what a power trip. I love it. Maybe cuz the first time I had oral sex, my bf made sure it was very pleasurable for me. He never insisted I give him some in return, but I wanted to, since he made oral sex such a great experience for me!
  8. Oh. gosh, Annie, your line about the brain-cells totally cracked me up... "why are you still even giving him the time or day, or even wasting your brain cells thinking about him?" You are just a nice girl anna, who fell into company with a guy who's in obvious need of being taught some decent manners. I'm sure he's got his good points, but he's also a very foolish guy. He had a good thing going and he's blowing it with you. I'm sorry you are going through this. Why is this so common behavior in men nowadays???? Are they teaching young boys to be ultra disrespectful to girls in the school system nowadays?? Geez.. i just don't know. I just got "used" too. I know this guy. He's staying with some friends of mine. I thought he was a sort of cool guy. I saw him outside this store I had to go into, so i stopped and chatted. I was surprised that he was so friendly to me... but he did say to me, "stop by and see me after you come out of the store" I just thought he was being friendly and liked me (he even asked me if me & my male platonic friend were an item, so i was thinking, maybe he likes me). Then he hits me up for a ride. Uggggh!!! Large groan. I hate it when people ask me for a ride. For one, my car is full of stuff I just don't feel like moving around. Then too, the same people who ask for a ride also.. when they see me again, won't even speak to me. Okay.. i gave the schmuck a ride. I now know he's not much of a gentleman and thereforeeee not my type at all. he even insisted I give him a ride back to my friend's house. I told him no.. i was heading in the opposite direction and i'd just drop him off at the next stop i made. I'm sure they are all sitting around now talking dirt about me cuz i didn't follow their wishes. Wow.. who needs these kind of people for friends. The next time i see him, i'm going to just ignore him!!
  9. I don't know about the whole "he's not into you jazz". IMHO, that guy who wrote that book has got everyone and his dog thinking this catch phrase to describe a guy, who basically, is just not a nice guy. Nice guys DON"T send there gf's pix of other girls, let alone ones in bikinis and wanting to see if the GF thinks she's hot too? What on earth is going on here? Is he trying to figure out if you are bisexual, I'm assume that you are certainly NOT! I'm not trying to be offensive here to you, but his behavior is offensive to me. I got a friend who does similar behavior. He's admitted to me that lots of his gf's have been bisexual. I'm heterosexual so i could care less where the hot girls are or what they look like. They are nothing to me but competition. Show me a hot guy. But.. he will do stuff like, after we've been out to a nightclub or something, say something like, "Wow, did you see that hot brunette (blonde, whatever)??", practically salivating when he says it. Mind you, he's got a girlfriend and she's a pretty girl, so why he's even asking his female platonic friends if they've noticed some girl in a club is beyond me. I find his attitude sophomoric (which means grossly immature) and quite annoying. I sort of feel sorry for his gf, cuz to me, it shows a tremendous lack of respect for her. I know you say the sex is great. Sex is usually great with a player cuz they've had alot of experience with women, so yeah, practice makes perfect. He just sounds like a player to me. And the fact you've driven FOUR hours to see him, Wow, i'm sorry, but this is shocking. His behavior is appalling. I'd tell him to take a long walk down a short pier if it were me. Find yourself someone better. You know, guys get tired of guys like this too. I was just talking to a male friend of mine last night, and HE was remarking how he also found it really annoying when guy's who have girlfriends flirted or made crude remarks about other women. So.. even guys (good guys, that is) find this behavior deplorable. Find yourself a good guy. Life is too short for this jerk.
  10. No.. i think you do know blueangel.. You've said it pretty well. Yes, are subject to pressures from all kinds of things that guy have no clue about. Not to say that guys are clueless, but let's be honest, we have alot more to contend with just growing up than guys do. Guys don't have to worry about getting pregnant when they have sex. I often wonder, if guys, after they've had sex with someone, don't worry or even think, that possibly, someone they've had sex with might be pregnant by them. I don't know... that's just something I wonder about. Guys have no way of knowing for sure, whether they've impregnated someone they've slept with, unless they spend 2 months solid with that person. Women are conditioned to act a certain way. Hey, we are not even supposed to get angry.. that's considered a "bad" trait in women. And we are evil and bad-tempered if we do. Man, on the other hand, are expected to stand up for themselves. It's okay for guys to get mad, to even hit each other. That's NOT okay for women. We don't really have too many escape valves when you think of it. That's probably why so many more women are depressed than men. Women often have a hard time doing that, cuz if we do get angry, we are often put down, for being too aggressive or hostile. There's tons of pressures that girls are put through that guys don't even have to think about. Just look at guy's clothes nowadays. While women's are mostly skintight to be considered "hip", guys pants and shirts are so baggy, they could be 30 lbs overweight and no one would even suspect!! You try to conceal an extra 30 lbs in today's women's fashions! Good Luck! lol
  11. I'm asking the single dads, not the single moms, cuz men and women simply do not think the same way. Which is perfectly fine, but I needed to know other single dads think about dating women without kids.
  12. Yeah.. it sounds more like a bf/gf thing than a simple sex buddy thing. Most FWB things i know of, allow, and even encourage each partner, to be able to seek out other people. But you both don't want this.. Why is he hesitant to make you his gf? I must ask you Batya.. you say this, "I don't think it's fair to a three year old to get attached to a woman who is not married to his father or even engaged where she and he are not willing to be an official couple - that sounds like a very unstable arrangement for the child" Do you think that's true of just a toddler.. or an older child, like 7 or 8 years old, would you say the same thing. Reason I ask, is I see, so many divorced guys with young kids under 9 or 10, who just want a FWB thing. They are often not opposed to letting you meet their kids either. Do you think a FWB is bad for a young child to see their dad involved in? Especially if the kid is allowed to hang out with their dad's sex buddy? I don't know why guys are so opposed to having a simple gf now.. It doesn't mean you are heading down the aisle! I guess it just boils down to alot of guys wanting their cake and eating it too. That is.. they want the benefits of a relationship, regular sex, being able to contact their sex partner whenever they want, but they don't want the commitment of it. It seems like someone's gonna get the short end of the stick unless all they also want is to screw someone they know. I myself, cannot have sex with someone I am attracted to and care about, without getting emotionally involved. I guess I'm just not wired that way. I also, in no way would want to be sharing my sex partner with anyone else! That's just SOOOO risky with all the incurable STDs out there now!
  13. Ah... thanks Spanky. I do have alot of love to give some guy. I was shocked that guy would make so much of it, that i hadn't had kids yet. It was like I had to be some soccer mom to quality for his circle of friends! Geez.. what's funny is, that since my early 20s, i've been dating mostly guys with kids. I've never run into this kind of narrow-minded attitude before! I had recently become friends with this other guy too, who has a kid who's like 25. he seems to look his nose down on people, also, who don't have kids yet either! Wow.. there are some narrow minded people running around. The funny thing is, the guy with a kid, doesn't have that seem to have that much money to spend anyway..he's living in a tiny place... it doesn't look like he can support his kid and some else's anyway, I don't know why he'd care if you didn't have a kid!
  14. Wow.. somebloke, that is the most inspiring post I've ever read on here! Kudos... I like your thought process... Cynical, it's HARD to be positive when you are surrounded by negative people. Dude's right, you are only 19, hang in there. How about getting a job at a music store? You sure got that interest in the bag. All you gotta do is stock equipment and show people instruments and accessories and stuff. Half the time you just stand around. Do you live in a big city? Sacremento ought to have at least a few music stores. Go check them out. Even if they didn't want to pay you in cash, perhaps they could pay you in equipment, i dunno. You are old enough to make your own money though. Why.. has anyone ever worked at McDonald's or something and it was awful? I've been even thinking of going this route. I've applied all over town and cannot seem to find a job anywhere! I've got 2 college degrees too. This town is pathetic when it comes to jobs. Don't worry, cynical, you aren't the only one discouraged.
  15. So where does a single girl stand a chance of meeting a cool guy if she's single and not a super model. I can go out to clubs but honestly, the girls in my town outnumber the guys by 3 to 1 and most of them are young things in their early 20s.. I don't want to be competing against college kids.. but that's what it's like in my town. Besides the fact, i'd like to meet someone over the age of 30.. I don't have too much in common with a 24 year old guy! I'd like to meet someone who's not living with his mom or his roommate.. and lately, i've only met those types, even a 40 year old guy who still lived with him mom, even though she was in great health! Where do we go to meet a decent single guy?
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