sirhcorg
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Hi. I am in college and I am friends with many girls but I dont know how to make it into more. Most of the girls are in the greek system and some tend to date guys in the greek system, which I am not. Also, I know they like me but I dont know in what way. I dont want to risk the friendship turning into something weird if they didn't have that intention.
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Is there a way to tell whether a girl is single or in a relationship? One of my female friends asked me this and i said no but she said another male friend of hers said it is easy to tell. Personally, I cant tell since it seems most girls I become interested in have boyfriends. Is there a certain way they act?
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usually weight and appearance. age has a little factor since i'm still young and there's a little gap due to younger woman still needing to mature (high schoolish) and older woman are starting their careers and basically a new life.
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thank you for your reply. i think my standards come from my surroundings. i feel as though everyone is going to judge me and her and i dont want to be associated with anything "negative". my old girlfriend actually made it easy for me. she came after me and asked me to hang out with her and her friends and it just expanded from there. there were actually several people who didn't not really agree with the relationship and several people told me i could do a lot better, one being my mother. i feel as though i have standards that everyone else wants me to live up to, not just in dating but in everything else (ie becoming a doctor), which in turn makes me have high standards. i have a lot of female friends but i feel as though none of them really live up to the standard for dating/relationship purposes. yeah, they are really great people but they just dont have the thing that sparks my minds thinking, "hey, this person is good enough" i wish i didn't have it. it would make my life a lot easier and whomever is reading this time for something else.
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i have a problem with finding women. i have had one girlfriend and have dated a few others. i have what most would call "high standards" but even if i go for somoene that isn't in my "standards", i find that most are dating someone. the few that i find are single, i have fun with them and what not but when i feel that they are interested in me as well, my standards come back and i move on. the one girlfriend i did have was great. she wasn't in my "standards" what so ever. she wasn't the prettiest of them all but i loved her deeply. she dumped me because she said i was going to college and she thought it would be too hard for her when we're away from each other. it really hurt me but i managed to get over it though i really do regret not being friends with her anymore. almost 2 years since we broke up, i find myself alone and i'm getting tired of it. she made me extremely happy and i want to feel like that again but i'm not helping myself with my actions. i dont know what to do.
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With the last girl I was interested in, I asked her out to dinner a couple times but I just seemed to have bad timing (she had already eaten the first time and she already had plans with her friends the second time). I saw her in the caf tonight when I was eating with two of my female friends and didn't say hi to me when she saw me. She is always the first one to say hi to me whenver she sees me but tonight, she had a weird look and just walked past. My friends seems to think she might have the idea that she's just another friend or something and I was just asking her in a friend kind of way when I really wasn't.
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Hi. I'm currently in college and I'm having a hard time finding someone to date. I have a lot of female friends (I probably have a 65:35 girl/guy ratio out of my friends) and if I see any of my friends, I always stop and say hi or what not. My friends (guys and girls and girlfriends of my guy friends) all tell me I am very flirty but know that I don't do it on purpose. When I am interested in a girl, my best female friend tells me that she probley thinks I just want her as a friend since she probley sees me around all these girls and she's just one more. Is there any way I can change this or atleast send signals that she's not just "1 more"? Thank you
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this isn't just one girl though. it's practically every girl.
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Hi. I am having a problem with asking girls out. I have this fear that asking them out will change the relationship too much; maybe not always for the good and I dont want to lose what we had. I have a fear that if they say no, it might make things awkward or maybe others will be critical. Is there any way past this? Thanks
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I had a dream last night that I was at my friends house, it's actually my ex-girlfriends best friend that I've been good friends with even though my ex- and I broke up. In the dream, I don't recognize the location but my ex- pulled up and I ditched out the back door to avoid her. My ex-girlfriend came up to me and told me her mom wanted me to stay for dinner. In the dream, I stayed and actually had a nice conversation with my ex-, catching up on things and we acted like we were just friends. Now in real life, we haven't spoken in 1 year and when we did it wasn't good. I got a long great with her parents and think they are the nicest. I don't know what sparked this since I am over my ex-. Anyone have any ideas? Thanks
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I IM'ed her tonight but she didn't respond. Which brings me into my next question. How many times should i say, "hi" to her before i should get a "hint" if there is one being given?
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It's not that i can't date her, it's just i'm probley just being shy and dont know what she would think. I asked her out when i knew her for about a month or less but she was working during the event i asked her out to. I waited too long after that initial asking because i felt like she was a "level" above me, something i felt from her friends but we got along great. She ended up dating someone else and I started dating others as well. When I came home for the summer from my 1st year of college, she was finishing her last year of high school. I called her to see if we could do anything, first time we talked since i graduated, but she was seeing someone. She seemed really cheerful when I called and she said that we should hang out sometime, though we never ended up doing anything but that is what is driving me a little to see if she would like to do anything now. I would atleast like to see her or start talking to her again, friends or more, but i guess what's holding me back is it might come off that I only "show up" to see if she wants to date.
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she's also home for break for i'm guessing a few more weeks. i really didn't see her in person nor online during the summer so the only way i could really contact her was if i called her, which i did when i initally asked her out. i am still interested but would always be friends. talking on the phone was really great and she sounded pretty happy during it (laughing and had a happy sound it her voice). i just feel as though contacting her only when we're on break is a little ~~weird?
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I was good friends with a girl in high school that was a year behind me and we got along great and hung out at school. I was too slow at asking her out and she ended up dating someone else. I graduated and the summer after my 1st year, i called her to see if she wanted to do anything. we had a good convo on the phone but i found out she was seeing someone but she said that we could get together later in the summer to hang out (but that never happens). I am now home for break and see that she's always online. she goes to a different college than i do but i would love to talk to her again. should i try to IM her and catch up or how should i approach this? should i pull the, "i just got on this screen name and saw you online so i thought i'd say hi" approach? Thanks
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Hi. I am very interested in this girl but I don't know what to do along the lines of flirting with her to let her know I'm interested. We talk on the way back from class (after every class) to our dorm and in the caf whenever I see her. According to my friends, I have a very flirty personality. I'm myself around friends and don't really care about overstepping any boundaries and I'm act myself but when I'm interested in someone, I am afraid to overstep my boundaries so I don't really do anything or I don't do anything that I would normally do with my friends. Basically, how might I let her know I'm interested without overstepping the boundaries? Thanks