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dobbin replied to Nynnja's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
most days i'm happy. some days i still miss you. at times i still love you. never do i regret leaving you. it still hurts sometimes. friends and family still ask me if we could be together again. i still tell them no. hoping for brighter and better days. perhaps maybe one day my heart will open up again. for the time being it's closed shut. no one will replace me. no one will replace you. it is what it is. one day at a time. -
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dobbin replied to Nynnja's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
It's been over 2 years and I still find myself missing you. I never regret my decision to leave, but you're the only man who has ever my heart. I still pray for you, that you would come back to that being that wonderful Christian person that you were when we met, purely for your salvation, not for us to be together. For the most part, I've moved on. Gotten used to living this single Christian life with our furry kids. Now stop looking at my social media profile every week would ya?! -
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Exactly 3 weeks of NC. I feel I admit that I miss him and our relationship. BUT let's leave the past in the past. I won't put in any effort to initiate anything. I don't hold out any hope though. I know him better than the back of my hand. I just keep myself busy and take it one day a time. It sucks sometimes and I just want to get drunk to ease the pain but I won't sabotage myself like that. Two guys at work tried flirting with me today. It's nice to get the attention but I am clearly not ready to date. Still sticking to my plan of taking a year off to work on improving myself and growing as a person overall. I need a year to only focus on myself and make me a priority. At this moment, I feel like "sucks to be me" but I know I will be better tomorrow. The second month has been mostly content and peaceful. Christmas is coming and I still have no plans to get in touch. Or New Year's for that matter. One sided relationships don't work.
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another day of NC. I have to get the last bit of mail from him by the end of Dec which means i have to contact him. i dread this everyday. i dont want to contact him at all. erase. delete. delete permanently.
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almost 3 weeks. feeling alright today. just got that weird instinct feeling that he's thinking of me ALOT now that he just got back after 3 weeks away for work. oh well. working on myself am starting to really like this NC thing. it does work wonders after a while and it only makes me feel better about myself and happy to be away from a bad relationship/situation.
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dobbin replied to Nynnja's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
You don't deserve me You are flying back tonight but I won't check up on you You are waiting for me to call but I won't I deleted all your means to contact you I still care, just don't care enough to reach out to you You won't get another chance to treat me like dirt because I won't let you I won't even contact you for Christmas, New Year or your Birthday I have learned to put myself first and you are no longer my priority Just because I loved you doesn't mean I would let you mistreat me Now you can go spend your time and money on yourself You never loved me anyways Honestly it was hard for the first month because you dragged me through hell For the last month it's been much easier because now my head is thinking rather than my heart I see your true colours and you are not someone I want to be with anymore Makes everyday so much more beautiful now that I can focus on making myself a better person I thank the Lord every day that I am not living in sin anymore and I am grateful for my family and friends He sent my way to serve as my support I am so much happier now. I am at peace. I love and respect myself so much more for being able to stand on my own two feet after making a very difficult decision to put my values first and not the things of this world Christmas will be very soon and I feel very much at peace and content without you -
2.5 weeks cannot keep track of days anymore. thats a good sign. off to bed to pray.
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Day 14 - That is 2 entire weeks of NC!! I need to celebrate! Feeling psyched right now! Stay strong fellow ENA!!! We can do it and we will see that we are much better off without them! It's broken for a reason! Never let someone be your priority when they only see you as an option!
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day 11 another sad day. i missed him alot. still love him. i am being strong and staying away. no contact. not even tempted to contact him. just see the relationship for what it was, not through rosy glasses but to accept the ugly truth that he never loved me and only strung me along to keep him company great relationship eh? how stupidly bind was i? lesson learned.
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Day 10 :sentimental: I am a wreck. It doesn't show on the outside because I hide it so well. I miss him so bad. I feel lost without him. What happened to my lover and my best friend? How did we get here? I cry but it doesn't ease the pain and heartache I feel inside. I love him so much. I wonder if he misses me at all. Praying this pain goes away.
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Day 9 already? Feeling really down tonight. Guys giving me attention boosts my self-esteem but at the end of the day I still love my ex, always have, always will. Maybe when he starts dating other girls and they toss him aside and treat him like crap...maybe he needs to go through that (again) to appreciate me. I will not contact him. I have too much dignity and self-respect. If he truly loves me he will come back to me.
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day 8 - moving along nicely getting attention from some cute guys but i have no desire to date anyone. why bother it all ends sour anyways the attention from these hot guys definitely boost my confidence though. but i dont want any of them because....i am still in love with my ex i know with time i will heal and get back on my feet. in the meantime it will just be me myself and i
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day 7 - glad the day is almost over. i felt down all day not because i miss him or our relationship but because i failed despite all my efforts this weekend was very productive got some paperwork done. packed, moved and unpacked all my things. a step closer to a clean break up and ready to erase him from my life forever one month makes such a difference if you focus on your goals of moving on. my family and friends are very proud of me for all my accomplishments and are surprised at how strong and determined i am to step away from a difficult situation knowing that I deserve so much better than what my ex had to offer.
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day 6 - felt very happy and at peace all day long!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am loving this NC. i feel happier and more confident with each passing day. i am determined to keep this NC in full effect not to get us back together, but to make myself feel better and to give myself a clean slate to move on and start living my life.