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  1. That is both a chilling and wonderful poem. Thank you for sharing!
  2. There is a 'Search' option in the blue bar at the top of the screen. It helps, though, if you remember the person who started the thread. If you posted in the thread, search through your posts ( I think that's available in your profile). As for the talking to much...sorry, but I don't have much advice. I don't really tend to talk 'too much', but rather I tend to blurt out things that most people would refrain from saying. People my age find it amusing. I guess all the advice I have is to try not to talk too much about yourself, at least. I'm sure you'll be fine. Sorry I couldn't be of more use. Good luck!
  3. abcd1234, I was in the same boat as your girlfriend. Honey Pumpkin pretty much hit the nail on the head, but I'll add what I can. Probably the best thing you can do is listen and accept her as she is. It's really tough being the stronger person that she leans on...especially when she calls you in tears at 3:00 in the morning because everything is driving her crazy and she's already cut herself, or feels like she's about to. Never invalidate her feelings. Nothing is worse than being truly upset about something, upset enough to cut yourself over it, and have someone tell you "that's stupid" or "that's trivial". I doubt you'd ever do that, becuase it's obvious from you post that you care about her, but it's just a thought I'm putting out there. It sounds like your girlfriend, for the most part, is "past" or at least recovering from what made her cut in the first place. What worries me is YOU. It's normal to react strongly when someone you loves confides something like that...it's basically the same way my boyfriend(s) acted when I told them about my self harm. But you say yourself that you're depressed, and having (or almost having) panic attacks - these worry me. I don't know if you can quite confide these things to your girlfriend, seeing as how she's fragile already, but is there someone else you could talk to, or even a doctor to see if you need further help? I'm interested to see what other posters have to say about your side of the self harm. Hope my tidbit helps. For what it's worth, it's obvious you care about and love your girlfriend - your compassion is clear from you post. It seems like you're on the right track already, and all you need is patience and time and she will grow more comfortable with you and her scars. Trust yourself, and keep us posted. Good luck.
  4. I think it's stupid to date someone based on your star sign. I'm a Libra, and for the most part it describes who I am...but my sign isn't everything that I am, and the horoscopes aren't always right. In my opinion, it's one thing to read your horoscope and take it into consideration or treat it as a little tidbit of entertainment, but it was going WAY to far to base romantic or financial decisions on it. To me, dating or not dating someone based on their sign is as shallow and absurd as dating or not dating someone based on their weight or eye color.
  5. I'm sorry in advance that I can not help you more on this subject. I've never had someone cheat on me, at least, not to my knowledge. I am sorry that your boyfriend hurt you in this way. Unfortunetly, the only advice I can offer is to go through the archieves in this forum. There have been LOTS of posts one the subject...some people write about how they were able to get past the cheating and still work things out...some people write about the pain and ending the relationship... I'm sorry I could not be more helpful. Take care.
  6. I agree with Lady Bugg. Relationships are all about give-and-take, compromises, etc etc. But it sounds to me that he's taking more than he's giving. It's perfectly natural for someone to have "ticks", or things that simply drive them crazy - and it's natural for those who love them to try to avoid those ticks. But, in my humble opinion, this guy's ticks are too numerous, too focused on you, and he's over-reacting to most of his ticks....ESPECIALLY since he should be realizing that you are sacrificing and tip-toeing on eggshells to avoid setting him off. Do you want to spend the rest of your life living AROUND what sets this guy off? Wouldn't your rather live WITH him? Please work this out before you marry this person...
  7. Washing and cleaning are always essential. It's always possible that she ate something that affected her taste. (By the way, the same goes for guys. "You are what you eat" ) Ask her what she ate that day. It's probably because she just got off her period. Hormones all out of wack and all that. In the future, I would always wait until she was at least a day or two off her period (as opposed to the day of her last period). Please don't let this discourage you from performing oral in the future. Nothing is sexier than a guy who likes (or at least pertends to like) performing oral on you. For you, it may be an "acquired taste", but please try it a few more times before making a decision. And also, never tell a girl that she tastes bad. That's just asking for trouble. Hope this helps.
  8. Is it also the first time that she's received oral?
  9. I'm asuming that you've given her oral in the past, and she has tasted much better than this time. It's possible that there was still some menstral "stuff" since she just finished her period that day. Or, it could have been a hygeine issue...especially if it was at the end of the day and she hadn't showered since that morning, had just worked out, etc. Also, how you "taste" is somewhat dependent on what you eat. It's possible that she ate something that affected her taste in a negative way. I wouldn't mention this to her unless it happens again. This is a very delicate issue to bring up.
  10. I haven't been keeping up with your other posts, so I aploligize if the issue I address is redundant. Is it possible that you put your ex and a pedistal after you two broke up? What I mean is, did you idealize the relationship and liken your ex to "the perfect boyfriend"? If you idealized the relationship, that surely you would be disapointed when you get back together and things are not as perfect as they seemed in the past. I wouldn't make any brash decisions right now. Maybe there is something else that is causing you to be unhappy in the relationship, maybe some sort of unresolved issue that is still digging at your skin. Sorry that I could not be of more help. Best of luck.
  11. Haha we actually have that brand of soymilk (my brother is lactose-intolerant). I only drink the chocolate kind, though.
  12. Timlondon, I certainly hope you were joking. Nadine3110, I am also a virgin, so I don't have an exact answer to your question. But you could look at it the same way you view oral sex or kissing. Does he expect you to blow him every time you see each other? Does he expect a make-out session all the time? Do you?
  13. Thanks for showing me that I am not alone. I never thought about keeping any sort of diary before. That is a really good suggestion. I found a website that offers healthy alternatives. link removed I'm actually already on the B6. I'd have to look these up more in depth. Just because something is "natural" doesn't mean it won't interact with medication you already have. But as you mentioned, it's better to try something natural than something man-made. Although I may look into trying the One-A-Day Womans tablet. In truth, I really should be exercising more. Thanks for pointing that out. I'm a little too lazy to get up in the mornings and run, so I think I'll start out with taking my little dog for nice, long walks. Thanks again for all of your help.
  14. Thank you, blueangel, for listening and responding to my post. I have actually gone to a chiropractor. They did all the x-rays and other tests to see if I had a bone problem that was causing all those migraines. They didn't see anything wrong, but I ended up doing a few sessions of bone-cracking to see if it would help anyway. Although I personally enjoyed the sessions and thought quite highly of the doctor, they didn't improve my migraines and after that, the insurance didn't cover them. Laughter and being around my friends does improve my migraines tremendously. My boyfriend has commented numerous times that I never seem to get the headaches when I'm happy, surrounded by friends, and just generally having a good time. He insists that it's my home and family atmosphere that triggers them. I try to keep funny movies on hand and things like that, but nothing can quite subsitute your friends when you're home sick. I'm sorry that you too were manipulated by doctors, but I'm actually quite relieved that someone else has that problem. I was really afraid that someone would say the opposite. I did not know that there was an actual test out there to test your chemical imbalances. Thank you for that information. I have been conducting my own research on the internet and I'm afraid I'm turning a little bit into a hypochondriac. While I was in the hospital they could not decide on a diagnosis, ranging from "Anorexic" to "Catatonic Schizophrenia" to "Generalized Anxiety Disorder". My mother insists that I am depressed, anxious, and bi-polar. My father has decided nothing is wrong with me. I have looked up all of these, and none of them are quite me. I will take your suggestion and diagnose myself before allowing myself to be seen by any doctor. I don't know if she would listen, but it's worth a shot. Thank you very much for you support. I really appreciate your response.
  15. I agree, NC is definatly the hard route to go. Plenty of people here have broken NC, sometimes to their advantage, usually to their disadvantage. Don't be so hard on yourself. Next time you try NC, really stick to it. Copy down your ex's phone number, email, etc and put it in a safe place. Then delete all their text messages, all their emails, remove them from your cell phone, etc etc. Come and post on here if you feel like you're going to break NC. Good luck!
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