RagingBull

He's probably setting you up as a backup if his current relationship doesn't work out.

How about an ice cream place instead of a coffee shop?

If you can do a formal presentation in front of a class then you should be able to handle a conversation. What you need are listening skills and practice. You sound like a structured guy to me. Just go with the flow and let conversations take their natural path. As far as ice breaking, the best thing way to approach someone is to notice something unique about them and ask a question about it. If a girl is walking a dog, I'd ask about her dog. After that discussion, I begin to ask her questions about herself. I once asked a cashier once about a pendant she was wearing that I honestly have never seen before. She openned up to me really quickly by telling me how she got it and revealed where she was originally from. That gave me alot to talk about. Throughout the conversation, she will start to reveal bits of information about herself. Remember these tidbits and return to them before the conversation abruptly dies. Remember to be fun and playful in your conversations. Humor goes a long way, especially with women. Feel free to PM me.

As a guy, I totally agree with muneca. My ex was particularly possessive and that caused problems between us because I'm a friendly guy. I loved her, and I would never have cheated on her. It's really unloving when your girlfriend won't trust you.

Yes, it's also called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) according to Psychiatric DSM-IV in the United States. Usually it hits people in season other than summer, so I'm not familiar with how summer SAD works. A major contributor to this illness is the lack of exposure to light. Thus light therapy is an option. I'm not sure if spending more time outdoors will help though.

I used to chat with a girl on IM for several months on end. I just asked how her day was and she would start talking endlessly. I learned a great deal about her. The thing was that I never volunteered any information about myself so she always had to keep in contact with me to learn about me. We would never run out of topics to talk about because she would either tell me about her day or I will ask about it.

FallenAngel101, Does she flirt with you in any way? Does she look you in the eye? What have you told her so far? I agree with goddess23. You must let a girl know that you're attracted to her in some way as soon as possible so that she can start thinking of you as romantic material. Hopefull it's not too late for you. Tell her that lately you find her attractive and then ask her out. Hopefully she hasn't already decided to only make you her friend.

I usually ask a girl about her day. That usually leads to a good discussion and you get to learn more about her.

Coming from a psychology background I was biased towards the use of psychoactive medications. That was until my Psychology professor whom I respect told me that she had made a mistake in sending her own daughter to psychotherapy without the use of anti-depressant medication. Her moral to the story was that psychotherapy in combination with appropriate psychoactive medication is more effective than any treatment administered exclusively. I am seeking anti-anxiety medication so that I may be able to think better so i can reprogram myself during cognitive behavioral therapy. I don't intend to use medications forever, just as a crutch until I'm done with treatment. The issue with me is time. I was able to overcome my fear of public speaking but it took several months and a college speech class. I discovered alcohol had an effect on me when I realized I can keep my mind focused on one task when intoxicated. I can think alot more clearly when I'm moderately intoxicated. Alcohol doesn't always work since my anxiety has hit me so hard sometimes alcohol doesn't work that I'm nervous and tipsy at the same time. I don't have a problem with approaching women though, ironically I love talking to people. It's at some random inconvenient time in the conversation that is going well when anxiety begins to build up quickly and I feel like I have to cut the conversation short and take a breather.

Being honest will make it alot less painful for him. Let him ask you questions, it'll help him get some closure and move on with his life.

I think it's not that you are ignoring her that make her "bug" you. I believe it's because you're giving her room to pursue you. It's like girls feel like they are in control of the relationship when they pursue you rather than you pursue them. My last relationship was where I let my ex pursue me 80% of the time. I found out that when I pursued her too much she got turned her off. Then again, alot of women, I've dated tended to be like this.

Just curious. What's the going rate for highlights?

I would suggest not setting a goal of walking every night, you'll get bored of that very easily. Perhaps just set a goal of walking a only a few times a week. Add in other forms of exercise on days you're not walking. Add aerobics, dance lessons, jogging, bicycling, strength training, martial arts, or a sports activities if you can. Try to have fun when you exercise. I'm looking into getting a portable MP3 player so I can listen to music when I run.

I don't think it really means anything, although it is a bit odd. Maybe he's used to girls making the moves on him.

Sounds like you're with a boring guy, quite predictable and consistent. Doesn't seem like he's being himself. Perhaps he needs more time to warm up to you.