dizzy_bruce

hi guys. thanks for the replies they've been really useful and made me feel a bit better too TO AILEC... yup its the same girl im really hung up on this one. sure she gives me headaches/migranes, but most of the time she makes me really happy and i'd like to think i make her happy too. i think maybe i do need help about the alcohol problem, i get through about 4 bottles of vodka a week at the moment. i am going to try on my own first, i think i have the willpower. i havent drunk today, and i felt pretty down i will see my doc about the depression issue too. thanks for you input ailec, it's always enjoyable to read and helpful! DEAREST RODEO-RIDER thee of little faith! i am half way to becoming a ''doctor'' (as you put it lol) at the brighton and sussex medical school in south England. medicine is 5 year long course - i started straight after college (being 18 ). Turned 19 towards end of 1st year, turned 20 at end of 2nd year, and am current 20 and halfway through my 3rd year! So there. DEAR RATHERBESAILING thanks for your wise words, they are soothing and rational. i thought i showed retraint in the situation, but my girlfriend obviously didnt think so! it just shocked me because didnt realise i had that in me! oh and i actually punched a whole in her bedroom wall (plaster board im not that hard hehe). thanks again guys, you're all legends. with the possible exception of rodeo rider lol just fooling. xxxxx

hey guys and girls, first things first... im an alcoholic, i suffer from depression pretty bad, and am halfway through my (stressful) training to become a doctor... i've been seeing my girlfriend for over a year now and suffice to say i've fallen for her pretty bad, i think i may even be enfatuated with her. a few months ago she cheated on me and lied about it, which obviously cut me up alot, but eventually i forgave her and we got back together. fast forward to last night - i had heard a rumour that she slept with the same guy again so all though feelings of betrayal and rejection came back. i asked her about it and she denied everything, and only after pressing her did she admit that she still liked him and had seen him. upon hearing this i went temporarily crazy and almost hit her, but managed to stop myself and punch a nice sized hole in the wall. this was completely contrary to my normal character - im quite a mild mannered and calm kinda guy. so the outburst scared me, and more importantly scared her, she ran away screaming and said i was insane. which i am kinda beginning to believe. heelp guys please i cant get her out of my head and i feel like im nothing without her advise needed asap. bruce x

Here's the deal. I've been feeling depressed for a while now, about a year, which is crappy. I tried taking some anti-depressants (SSRIs) and these helped me but as a side effect I felt very drowsy and worst of all, sex was pretty much not happening. So I stopped taking them. Fast forward to the present... I'm seeing a girl at the moment, and despite my best efforts I've become really attached to her. We have great sex and enjoy each others company (she is tolerant to my brief periods of insane behaviour). I hate to say it but I feel like she is what keeps me sane and stops me from drowning in my own misery. I feel like I've hit a brick wall at the moment - my depression is clouding my train of thought, I've become antisocial and irritable with people (including family and friends) and I generally can't function. So here's the problem - if I go back on the drugs I won't be able to sex my girl up (which may put our relationship in jeopardy), and the drowsiness makes my medical degree even more of a challenge. If I was to lose her I think I would just get depressed. lol. Input needed guys...

Hey I'm 3/4 Indian and 1/4 English. I'm about 5'10'' (height that is lol). I haven't even measured my partner in crime, but ladyfriends have told me it's pretty big. Well 'pretty huge' was their exact words. I think there definitely is a correlation between race and size. I think the trend that blacks are packing heat, and Asians/Indians are packing cocktail sausages can largely be explained by the variation in height. Blacks in general are bigger and taller, whereas Asians are typically smaller. I'm fairly tall for one of my race so I guess that explains the size of my manhood. Oh and as for the 'urban myth' that blacks are big downstairs... have you never watched porn before?! x

Wowee seems like I've stirred something up on this post... I disagree, I think that analogy is ridiculous. The point you're making is that 'instead of partaking in a potentially hazardous activity without using adequate protection, don't partake at all'. Perhaps in the context of 'street racing' this is valid - but for something like sex, saying 'oh don't do it in the first place' isn't a option. You may not want to have sex, but I sure do buddy. The logical thing to do would be to take proper precautions (I'm working on this) before engaging in a bit of slap and tickle. In essense your message is 'hey guys let's just give up instead of trying to find a solution'. I think Homer would be proud. Hope, thanks alot for your post. I think you misunderstood mine - I was joking about you calling me a hussy and the same goes to my comment about dying from an STD. Perhaps 'You're right really' was a bit too subtle. My bad. Much respect as I have for you Hope, I was a tad worried that you presumed that I had 'multiple partners' from when I said 'Last week I went home with this girl and I was about to bone her'. How do you know she wasn't my first sexual encounter, and the experience left me scarred for life. As a fellow 'health professional' giving the person in question the benefit of the doubt seems like the more 'professional' option. x

I think about having sex with my Mum. You should try it. (ps. I'm joking, but the fact you thought about your mum means I've succeded in being annoying).

Did anyone else crack up when they read Happytown's reason?

good post, slightlybent. word.

Thanks for the suggestion Hope. You've given me... er hope. But please don't call me a hussy. Besides I'd prefer to get a disease from sex instead of from bad food or something. Death by snoo snoo all the way heh. (You're right really Anyhoo. You know what really gets on my nerves - when people suggest abstaining as means of preventing STDs. People as a whole, enjoy sex (me especially Abstaining only suceeds if you didn't really want to have sex in the first place. Nowdays I find the most reliable method of contraception is being too drunk to have sex heehee. x

Forgive if I'm over simplifying, but this seems like one of those 'friends-with-benefits-situations-gone wrong', as they often do. It seems from the word go, you guys have had different agendas. He's made it quite clear that he doesn't want a relationship, and it seems like you do. I wouldn't for one moment blame you for this - in my experience, when girls have sex they become more attached to the guy, instead of vice versa. 'He says it's going nowhere but he still puts in effort to see me'... I dunno if this is a bit questionable to anyone else, but as I guy, I reckon I could make a fairly good guess why. 'He also says that he wants me to feel nothing and he wants to feel nothing.' I think this backs up my last point. 'And before anyone asks if it's just about the sex-he tells me that it's not important if I don't want to do it and that I'm more to him than just sex.' Okay so maybe being bit cynical here - but just as some girls fake orgasm during sex, some guys fake commitment and depth in order to get sex. I was in this situation (I was the horrible b****** guy not wanting the girl to get attached) and I've learnt that these situations can be REALLY upsetting. I'm definitely going to be less selfish in future. If your guy friend has no interest in a relationship and you continue to, stop seeing him asap. It seems like you enjoy the physical and personal closeness instead of the guy. Get out before you get hurt

Hi guys - thought I'd throw in my two quid about my experiences with this interesting issue. I've been to Amsterdam twice in the past few months, and as someone said previously hoes are 100% legal. The take regular STI tests, only accept 'customers' if they wear a rubber. Hells they even pay taxes lol. In case you're wondering, I've never been with a hoe (there are many other 'distractions' in Amsterdam aside from hookers) and I don't think I ever would. I would feel like I'm be failing in my duties as a male in the hight of my sexual prime. I mean it's kinda cheating if you just pay for it? Having said that... when I was walking through the red light district, smiling and waving politely at the hoes, I was well tempted! Some of them were incredibly hot, like model hot. And to everyone that says 'BUT BRUCE LOL WHY NOT JUST SLEEP WITH AN 'AVERAGE' GIRL FOR FREE LOL' - there is no such thing as free. Part of the appeal of a hooker is that there is no attachment, no expectations post coitus, no paying for dinner at expensive restaurants, no meeting the parents and so on. Finally, to those who say it's fine as long as both parties agree... whilst that does in a way make sense, I think you need to look a bit deeper. For example, a minority of hoes are forced into the business by scumbag, armtwisting pimps. They might be threatened or even intentionally given coke so they get hooked on it, so they rely on their pimp for a fix. She might say 'yes' but deep down she's saying 'sigh'. Think about it. x

Hang about... is your girlfriend a DRAGON?! Sorry that wasn't funny. I'll be going now.

100 posts! do I get entered in a prize draw of some sort?

lol.

Yeah good post mate, you made some good points. But the brain *really* isn't a muscle. bruce