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  1. Thanks for the comments, so I agree with, some I do not, but that is why I asked you for advice. As for whether I love my husband, yes I love him very much, but I do not know whether I am in love with hime anymore. As for being bored at home looking after two young children, no that has nothing to with it. I love looking after my children, and would not want that to change. i know they would be affected by any decision I make, but for now, any decision I will make will be based on mine and my husband's marrage. One thing I do know is that if I do decide that our marrage is no longer working, that I would not carry on with the marrage just for the sake of the children, that is not fair on myself, or my husband. For now, I am going to wait and see where my feelings take me. The love I have for my friend, is not just the lusty I want to have you type. I fell in love with him, well and truly, and lust was nothing to do with it. We were best friends, and were very close. I fell for his personality, it was later that I wanted him physically. I am not going to rush in to anything though, it's not like I was going to go round to my friends right now, and tell him I loved him, I will leave it until I know where I am in my own mind first.
  2. I am 22, and at 7years old I was left to live at my grandma's by my mum, who at the time was about 23. I wont go in to all the details, but I want to tell you that I have never forgiven my mum. It didn't affect me greatly when I was younger, but as I have got older I have started to have some emotional difficulties that stem back to my mum leaving. I have always found it hard to form relationships/friendships with people, and worry that I will be left on my own. I am now married with children of my own. I still constantly do things to 'test' my husbands commitment to me, even though we are now married, I just can't help it. He understands though, as he knows all about what happened when I was younger. I would strongly advise you against ging your son up for adoption. The best place for him is with his mum, who he loves, and feels safe with. Ok, you may not feel that you are doing the best for your son now, but I really do think that you will regret givng him up if you do. Please think long and hard before doing anything.
  3. I am 22 years old, married, with two children. I met my husband at 17, an it was a whirlwind romance. We had moved in together within the first 6 months of our relationship, and had our first child just before we had been together two years. My husband is a wonderful man, who I love very much. He is the sweetest man i have ever met, and I know that he loves me so much, and neither of us would ever want to hurt eachother intentionally. The problem I have is that I am in love with someone else. It all started 10 years ago, when I was just 13, and I met a kid at school who I fell instantly in love with. We never really got it together, even though we became best friends. We were very close, and although we did start dating at one point, circumstances meant that we broke up. However we were both stupid, like you are at 15, and did admit a couple of years later that we both thought we would have still been together if one little argument hadn't have ended things. We did have a couple of relapses, where we ended up kissing, but things never went any further, and we just stayed friends. Then I met my husband, and myself and my friend's relationship dwindled, due to the amount of time I was spending with my new boyfriend. We did speak occasionally, but we've not really had much contact over the last couple of years. My feelings for him where still the same, but I thought that after time these feelings would go away, but they are just as stong as ever. th efeelings I have for him are starting to make me realise that I do love my husband, but not neccesarily in the right way. My husband and I are very close, but for a long time after my first child was born we were unable to have a sexual relationship to the full extent that other couples would have, because of complications that I had, and I think this time made is in to best friends, instead of lovers. I am in two minds as to whether I should contact my friend to tell him exactly how I feel. I know that I am married, and there are two children to consider, but i am frightened of spending the rest of my life never truly happy, and always wondering what if? As I write this I am holding back the tears, especially as my husband has just telephoned me from work to tell me he loves me, and I feel so guilty for even writing this. But I do not know what to do. I feel being so young that if things did end between us that we are still young enough to start again, but I feel that if I feel this way in ten/twenty years time, it will be too late, as my friend will have married, and had his own family. I just wish that I hadn't been in such a hurry to get married, as I feel it complicates the matter far more than if we just had children. i know I am being selfish, but I just want to happy in my life. Please help me decide what I should do.
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