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Hi- The thing that should always happen in a relationship, is both the man and woman should always feel like when they first met. My wife and I have been one for 24 years. When you come home from work, you see the same person you did 24 years ago, and your heart just leaps in your chest - you are so happy to see them! The warmth of them, a certain smell of fragrance, a certain sound, a certain word spoken. And we can't forget the sacrifices each one does for the other. As a person gets older they sometimes feel less wanted. Or they might say, they've conquered, and will ride out the result. I think we must not be shy with one another. Someone else may pick up the baton. Show every ounce of love that you can to your Mate. If they are thinking the same, they will respond to you. In an encasing and crazy world, we can not let it stand in Lovers ways. True love can not be denied. Think of it this way. One day in our futures, this person will be gone to the grave and ground, leaving you alone, or them alone. Just touching on this, should drive your spouse into open arms or the other way around. We must live our love today. We may be alone tomorrow? Every day of love together means so much more for couples. This person accross from you breathes life. There is nothing better than a long-term relationship. I wish you the best. plain&simple

Laura- Years ago, I thought most was lost! My mother was a drunk and an abuser. I was 24, and always looking for a soul-mate. And then my life took an immediate turn. In the matter of one evening, my future wife came into my life, driving a second time through a park. We lived 500 miles from each other. The chances of meeting were a million to one. Keep your chin up, Laura. When you least expect it, someone may come into your life. And besides, God loves you deeply. We wish you the best! plain&simple

As my wife knows I am writing this, as I showed her, we have seen some pretty interesting times of sharing on this. I would do anything for this girl or to this girl, even on the subject of sex and love-making. We fell a little short, watching porn on our own, and climaxing to other things. We now believe we've made a mistake. We have shared our feelings with other things that are readily available. We are regreting this. We agreed, that feelings of a sexual nature should not leave the position of the married couple. Let me explain how I feel. If you reach orgasm to a book or porn channel, my wife summed it up, bless her heart. She stated - I don't want to give myself to a book. I've made the same mistakes. I believe we were giving away our feelings. The example that I have is this. -When you are making-love, and the woman (my wife) climaxes... she grips onto me, and we share her pleasure together. Even during the times when I go down on her, and she reaches orgasm, she grips my body or arm twice, sharing it with me as a closeness. I do the same. When it is my turn, I look into her eyes, or grip her shoulder, or things of this nature. When we were going it alone, it has no comparrison whatsoever. We actually hate ourselves for ever going that avenue. And re-grouping, we are so close, the sex is unbelievable. It is even more drawn out, and we are willing to make each other forget about those months of porn. Again, from the very old school, I would do anything to her that she asks for in sex, and she does ask. Anytime, anyplace, anywhere. This woman will receive whatever she asks. It is the least I can do for her. We were both very hurt. We try very hard to concentrate on each other, it has been almost 25 years. Almost 50 years old, I have a very high sex drive. She has also been so kind as to make sure that I have been satisfied. Why we went to the porn is just another thing. I'll get over it in time, and she wishes it as well. We have agreed, that what ever our needs are, we will respond to each other. She has mentioned, that if I'm working nights, she will call me at work - come home I need you now. I have offered her the same. This woman is a sweetheart! She has said, "That she has only been lucky once in her life - and that is finding me." I believe the same. We just went a little outside the boundaries. I really believe that the bed on a whole, is some of the closest things that two people can share. The person accross from you is giving themselves away to you. You are accepting their body and a part of them. Thanks everyone for your input. We found out that we are human. The woman that I have is a knockout at 47 years of age. Better keep treating her like that. Best to you all!! plain&simple

I'm getting this off my chest - I'm not sleeping at night, and it is getting confusing. Bare with me on the subject. It hits the heart plainly. Wishing I hadn't gone there, my wife and I have checked out the porn channels on satellite quite a few times. Over time, we both have had the chance to be side by side and reach orgasm, while watching the events. It gets tricky! Someting hit me in the head so-to-speak, because I am one jealous son-of-a-gun. We've elected to stop watching, and doing things that way. Now...yes, over time, and by myself, I have used the channels to reach orgasm. Quite a few times, I won't be bashful, and she doesn't know. Here's where the kick in the stomach comes in. Sharing the other night in the closest of conversation, because we do share - I get hit with, well she told me that she used the porn channels to climax by herself at least 5 times. Please help with this if you can? I am going crazy with this, because I have looked at it from two view-points. I do it - it bothers me now, but I'm a guy. And I must have did it 20 times more than her, going it alone. Now, knowing that my wife was laying down on the couch, turning on the channels and getting herself there, is almost to much to bare. I've had time to think about this, and people I'm having serious anxieities over this. I'm trying to blame myself for my own, yet I'm devastated by my wife getting off that way and enjoying it. She gets a fairly good climax when we were together doing this. I hate to think about what's happening with no one else there. Why is this bothering me so? I can't seem to grasp it, and I don't know which way is up. I should be focused on my own usage, but her getting there by herself is to much for me to deal with. Just the thought of her enjoying it, and letting go to something else has me shell-shocked. She says it was about 5 times. 5 times to much for me it seems. She has stated the last couple of days that we can put it all in the past. Not easy for me to do I'm afraid - my wife's panties were down, and she was reaching orgasm, and loving it I'm afraid. Then there's me. I out-clocked her by 20 times sadly. I feel bad, but it is affecting me differently. I can't rid myself of these feelings, and I'm losing the struggle fast. I should never of asked her to start with the channels. Now I'm choking on the results. If you know where I'm coming from, my wife enjoyed watching other men with women. This is very hard to swallow, and I haven't managed it yet. How can a man pass on his own usage, still hurt, but yet be devastated by his wife's getting off to it. To me, when you use porn, you mainly focus on it. That means she was completely focused on it while I was at work. I can relate of course, but her end of it has me going crazy. Your wife releasing to other things is very personal to me, but I was a culprit as well. I can't win. Just that sticking thought, of her reaching that sexual plateau by herself is...brutal on me it seems. Pay-back is a bitch, I guess. I'm not going to get over this any time soon. Give it to me everyone - I need ideas!!!

EVERYONES HELP- THANKS. Under investigating this all, she sincerely realized that it was truly bothering me, and we sat down and cried together, sharing what had all gone on in the past few days. My prying in this subject, had me go in through the backdoor of this, and also uncover the truth in a forum. To many things at the time, were being a coincidence, just plainly bad timed for us. Thanks everyone for your time and ideas! plain&simple

Hi Everyone- In my unusual situation, it seems the computer just might happen to be the battlefield. With me taking a more of a monitoring stance, she has countered it seems, with taking out his profile, certain e-mails, signing off with MSN for a bit. I wasn't born yesterday however. Through satellite (long story) - she can reach him as a member in this forum. That's where she met the man. Whether it is just bad timing, I noticed a new e-mail came in, featuring a new or changed password. I'm really sad about this whole event. She sees how it affects my personality, and she still wants to chat with the fellow. Everyone, I have even turned the tables, to put myself in her position. I can't talk freely to a lady on the chat lines about maybe personal type things, one on one as friends, a stranger. I have to go to work this evening. Being distraught, I know they may talk - she's waiting. He tried to contact her twice since yesterday, and I seen the sign-in - told her...and she's staying away, won't contact him at this moment. I guess the article in the papers last year doesn't help my situation. On-line affairs, on-line cheating...the new adultery. Some of the things in the article I have already seen with my own eyes. It's coming to life as the beginning of something. So sad! Broken hearted...

Everyone- Thanks thus far in this matter. I've always been a jealous type of guy. Some things I just can't do I'm afraid - and chatting with a woman freely on the Net about things, is one of them. To me, something would be missing in my life if I had to do that. I know it isn't about sex and such, and sorts. I'm almost fifty years old, and I can still run with Austin Powers! Maybe just maybe, she may feel like her life is now passing by? She needs that little kick, the flicker of excitement. I would do anything for that lady...she is something very special. I'm taking the bullet for her right now it seems. It is right out of character for this woman. It seems, she looks forward to talking with him. Hopefully the discussions are in good taste? But I can't tell yet. There's not enough evidence to supply the case. I just hate pursuing this - it makes you feel a bit empty I'm afraid. I've always hated suspicion, it does nothing for your life. But again, I do appreciate your help. There is something becoming of this though. I'm going to throw the weights around a bit, or go chase the dog's toys. (Just kidding about the toys. I'm not quite there yet. Thanks.

From the horse's mouth. Been married for 24 years. I look at simple porn, it seems to be just habit, and I have such a desire for love-making. Why he choses it over you I have no idea. Just an example: My wife and I have both been side by side on the couch while porn was on at the time. We both reached orgasm. We are very open in our relationship that way, sharing what works on different occasions. He might be doing this by habit. But if you are presenting yourself to him, what man would refuse such closeness? As for being unattractable - even my Mrs. says that. The beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We are all the same turned inside out. A serect of thought. I look at porn - why...because in my case, it reminds me of my wife before we met - positions with her boyfriends. I said it! Share everything with him. Hopefully this man sees the fire in you? Good luck!!

Presently, my wife of 24 years has begun to chat with a fellow almost every second day. He is married as well. Being the jealous fool that I am, I need some ideas with this. Let me explain thus far. -The gentleman is chatting with her. He is one of the only contacts in her message or address book in e-mail. And he is the only one that is in her outlook e-mail. He has sent a picture of where he lives, and she has filed it on the computer. Only gone on for a week, they are chatting maybe everyday now. Maybe my imagination, there has been a couple of times, when I have just left for work, and they have talked, the times showing up of course on e-mail. The timing may be just luck. Most conversations are being deleted not long after they originate. Yes, I have asked her - I feel uncomfortable with it all. She stated...that if it really bothers me, she would stop chatting. I don't want to seem like her keeper, if you know what I mean. I am starting to lay awake at night on this though. HELP!!