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  1. I know how you feel, I often find myself without a clue as to who I am. I find that sometimes i begin to question the entire route I've taken with education and approaching the start of a career, alot of times getting the feeling that i seem to be falling through life (albeit rather sucessfully sometimes) and that i haven't really done alot to define who I am to anybody, including myself. I can't say I really have any advice for you, however i'd just like you to know you're not the only one with this problem. Perhaps if we both share a little more about our common problem we can help each other find a solution. Mtastic
  2. First off, I haven't seen the new version either on film or on stage, but i've seen the origonal movie several times, so i'll base my comments on that. In the context of the movie, the campy portrayals (I assume you're referring to the director and his assistant in particular) were just there to further add to the general chaos and wacky cast in the movie. Yes its an exaggerated stereotype, however pretty much every character in the movie is, as is the case with most "zany" comidies. Additionally, The Producers origonally came out in 1968, when homosexuas were generaly portrayed as very campy (Laugh-In is a great example of this) so at least looking at it in terms of when the story was concieved, one can see how the stereotypes fit in as part of playing to the crowds perceptions/expectations. Not that reenforcing stereotypes is necessarily right, i'm just trying to define the context a bit more. As I said before, i don't know much about the new version, or what was done in terms of rewriting it, athough I'm guessing the camp was kept to keep it true to the origonal source.
  3. Don't worry about it just yet. The secret to freshman year is to not be intimidated by others. Most freshman year programs are designed to be hard on students, to sort out the people who really want an education from those who don't. I see nothing wrong with your choice of classes, from what I gather you took less intensive classes where you could actually learn something instead of risking being owerwhelmed in a subject you're not completely comfortable with. The best advice I can give is to keep working and not to give up. Trust me, I was in a five year undergrad program, so I have five years worth of course related horror stories, and I came out with a degree.
  4. Format: Song - Artist (notes) 1.Brokedown Palace - The Greatful Dead (Nice Mournful Song about loss) 2.Race For The Prize - The Flaming Lips (Big upbeat "get up and go!" song) 3.Going The Distance - Rocky Soundtrack (another more inspirational song) 4.Dolphins - Tim Buckley (emotional song by a powerful singer) 5.We're Just Friends - Wilco (sad song about failed romance) 6.I Used To Be A King - Graham Nash (reflective, upbeat breakup song) 7.Natural Woman - Aretha Franklin (always sort of hoped i coud make someone feel like that) 8.Samba Pa Ti - Santana (ok, being geeky, but i think this is what love sounds like) 9.An Ending: Ascent - Brian Eno (very tranquil and relaxing piece) 10.And You And I - Yes (Epic love song) 11.Nothing Compares To You - Sinead O'Connor (breakup song) 12.I Just wasn't made For These Times - The Beach Boys (song about not fitting in, again being geeky, but its one of the few songs i feel i identify with) Thats all i could think of at the moment. mtastic
  5. Catgirl, I know how you feel. At least you have had some time to put some distance between you and the reationship, even if you still remained friends. I was more or less dumped by my ex for someone she had perviously known and started dating about a month after we broke up (and is still with nearly two years later). I know how it can feel, knowing they're happy with some. i didn't like how they could be so happy, and she could seemingly forget me so quickly, while it took me so long to get over her. For me, it really took too things to get over this. The big one was time, i think given enough time we gradually get over these things as our lives change. The other thing that really helped me was, strangly enough, seeing them together. A few months ago I happened to run into them on the street as I was walking home from school one night. It was pretty unexpected (it was in my neighborhood, which is not the same part of city where they live), and we didn't say anything to one another (she and I haven't talked since a few weeks after the breakup), but just seeing them actually helped. Honestly, they looked good together, they looked like a happy couple, and she looked even better than when we were together. So it made me realize, maybe she's better without me, and since she new this guy before (I'm pretty sure she knew him long before we dated), maybe being with me made her realize something about him and what she needed to be happy, so in a way I kind of helped her out. Of course, maybe I'm just trying to rationalize her dumping me, but at least it feels like some kind of closure for the whole situation. Ok, I guess I got to rambling a little, but the point is: there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Hope that helped, mtastic
  6. Ok, a major thing I've learned in my years of college (undergrad and grad) is not too look at your grade the way you did in highschool, usually what you get out of 100 doesn't really matter, its how you did relative to everyone else, so as long as you're at or above the class average on the test, you'll be fine. I've had midterms where the class average was in the high 30s (a rather notoriously bad professor who shall remain nameless). The best is just work harder, you said you asked the TA for some other book recomendations thats good, if you can find the right author it really helps. I also recommend you check wikipedia for any topics you need to learn about, they have everything, and its usally a good descriptive article, i use it regularly for both classes and research projects. Just try to work at it an improve. Another tip from experience is make yourself known to the professor, speak up during lectures, ask a few questions, go to him for help one or twice, show you're making an effort and get him to know you by name. That can go a long way, plus some professors are better one on one than in lecture. Hope that helps you out, mtastic
  7. Hi Catgirl82, As I guy in his early 20s, I will say this: yes, most of us are clueless and immature. Thats not to say some of us aren't looking for long term relationships, and I'm sure there are more guys than just myself who are trying to grow as people to get beyond immaturity, but it does seem like most people are age really don't care. To be fair however, I think this applies to alot of girls as well, I've seen too many who act immature and just get off on having this "wild child" image of themselvs as much as the guys I know. Its all about just finding likeminded people to hang out with. Easier said than done i know, if only there were some magical place where all these people hung out, we wouldn't be here complaing about our dating misadventures. I hope that helped, just trying to let you know there are guys out there who feel just the same way about girls as you do about us. mtastic
  8. Hi guys, Got a little situation I'd like your input on: So i've used link removed and yahoo personals for a while now to meet women, although recently i casncelled my subscriptions because Its getting a little tough to afford. Anyway, before i cancelled i decided to change my approach a little: after realizing that the majority of dates i got over match tended to only ever be a fun afternoon/evening out, and never progress on to a second date (in the majority of case's this was my date's decision), I decided to branch out a little more in terms of who i got to know, meaning instead of only contaxcting girls who I felt were more certianly "my type" to taking some chances, since worst comes to worst all i'd have to endure is one lunch/dinner/coffee/walk in the park/etc. with them, or simply not hear from them in responce at all. Honestly this didn't meet with much success in about the month and a half between making the decision and cancelling my subscription, although i attribute this more to the rather short period of time during which it was attempted and still fell the general concept is helpful in my continued attempts to approach women in person. Thats sort of issue one i'd like comments on, which is more just a general case. I mean, does that seem like a resonable approach to dating in general? Or am I just setting myself up for even more rejection by going appraoching girls i might not on the surface have as much in common with? Issue two is more specific, related to the points brought previously. About three weeks ago I sent a "wink" to a girl on match, as with my new approach she seemed like we would have somethings in common, but is not usually the type i would contact, and based on her photos she was attracitve to the point i can sometimes see as "too pretty to want anything to do with me." Anyway, I sent a "wink" just to see if she would respond, meaning this was just a notification sent through the site that i was interested in her profile, not any kind of personal email. Well i never heard back from her, so i figured "whatever, she just not interested." Well, with winter approaching and the weather getting less and less conducive to walking to school, I've been riding the subway more frequently. I'm pretty sure I've been seeing her on the train in the morning over the past week and a half or so, as she looks like the girl's pictures, albeit bundled up in a hat and scarf making it a little difficult to tell. My questionn is should I approach her? I mean if it is the girl from match, do i simply go up to her and say 'hey, do you have a profile up on link removed?" I'd think that might be a little embarrasing for her. Also, I'm not sure weither or not she recognizes me, and theres already a good chance going into it that she's not interested in me anyway. Plus, we're only together on the train for about 5 or so minutes, so whatever i say has to be pretty quick inorder to get any kind of responce. maybe i'm worrying too much, i always freak out when i think about ap[proaching someone in person. Any thoughts? Thanks, mtastic
  9. Hi Taffy, I was nervous when I started going to counciling as well, the thought of having to sit there and not only confront your problems but have to tell them to someone else can be very intimidating. Just remember that you're concilor is there to help you, and you'll get more comfortable with each visit. I've been going for over a year and a half now and i've found it to be very helpful. Good luck, and let us know how everything goes, mtastic
  10. Well, I'm no dentist. So my advice would simply be: go to the dentist . Getting wisdom teeth out is no big deal. It will hurt for a few days, but what better excuse for an all jello diet is there?
  11. Hi guys, Its been a while since i've posted anything, but i've still been around reading from time to time. Anyway, here's my post: So the last 6 months or so have been pretty busy for me: back in May, about two weeks before graduation from college, I got an offer from one of my professors to do some research work over the summer, which would then lead into graduate school come the fall. SO after a little bit of thought over it, I took the offer, as i thought i would capitalize on it since although my grades weren't bad, I didn't necessicerily think they were good enough to get me into grad school on my own. Anyway, my plan previous to this had been to move back home for the summer until I got a job and had saved up enough money to get a place of my own, but staying in Philadelphia meant i had to find an apartment quickly, so my last few weeks of college were spent rushing around looking at apartments and trying to find any place to live on about 3 weeks notice. This all worked out eventually, between a short term sublet and finding the place i live right now. The only problem was that both moves, downpayments, furiniture, etc. occurred before I had gotten my frist graduate stipend check, so even with some financial help from my parents it still depleted my finances. Just about the time this was settling down, I began having administrative problems with my application, forcing me to basically apply again. This eventually worked out as well, just in time for classes to start, to which I had to adjust to taking classes on top of working on several research projects. Its nearly the end of the term, and I've finally gotten used to balanceing all this stuff to the point where things have pretty much settled into a regular routine for me and I have a little time to myself now once i get home. The problem is now that i have that time to myself, it feels kind of empty. I've never been really good at making friends, and the friends i did have and finally start hanging out with towards the end of senior year have all gone off to their own things, either moving away from the city, or just moving on into their own lives. I recently made a couple new friends, but they live outside the city so i don't get to see them that often at the moment. As for the people I go to school with, I get along with them just fine in the lab or in the classroom, but nothing ever materializes outside of the school environment, as again these people seem to have developed their own lives that they're busy with, having wives and girlfriends, and people outside of school to hang out with. I've tried to get out a bit and go to places where i can meet new people, but its hard. First off, too many places and activities seem to be mostly people there with their friends, which makes me feel like the odd man out (literally and figuratively) as it seems like i'm the only one there by myself. Also, things like maybe taking some kind of class usually require time or money commitment beyond what i can provide (as a grad student I don't really have alot of either), and after getting done with school for the day, the last thing I really want to do is take another class. I guess I don't really have a question (and i'm not totally sure what the appropriate froum is for this topic, so mods feel free to move it if you find a mopre apt place for it) I'd just like comments/reactions from others. thanks, mtastic
  12. You can try to sneak some contact info into your profile. Syainmg someting like " I'm not a paying mamber at the moment, but the little yellow guy knows me as ______ wink" You can get that past some site, or try to state your email without putting it ion the usual form, like most sites have filters which wil cathc email removed but you can usually get by saying "I'm on link removed as name" or something like that. Be clever about it, it can actually be a way to screen people and see who can put two and two together.
  13. Technically The first drink I had was at about 13 or 14 when I accidenty had some of my dad's hard cider, which I had mistaken for my own palin-old cider. My first voulentary drink was at 21 at a party at my ex's. The only time I've ever really gotten drunk was in June when a girl i was interested in inveted me out to the bar with her and her friends, and proceeded to talk to her friends all night leving me with litlle else to do but drink. For most of my teen and undergrad college years i was pretty uptight about drinking, but have since loosened up a bit to the point where I've realized nothing bad will happen as long as i only have a few drinks in a night. I guess for me its always been a control thing as opposed to any moral issue, I like being in control and the process of letting go and not having control over myself frightens me to some degree. For a long time i was one of the people who believed that one drink would have me running around being a jackass, and have since realized that as long as one moderates their drinking, and knows their own limits, it ain't so bad.
  14. hi sugarandspice, You should be able to get help at the university as well, most universities offer counsiling services. I know that Drexel, wehere i go, also offers goroup therepy sessions as well, including one for eating disorders. I hear that other places have similar groups. You might want to look into what your university offers. As for getting good grades, as long as you work hard you'll do well, try to find some good people to study with. I think you can do it. Good luck, mtastic
  15. Thanks for the replies everyone, I hadn't thought of dehydration, that is most likely the case, I guess I haven't been drinking quite as much fluids as usual. I doubt its blood clots at the moment, as the soreness is present in both legs, and i'd think a blood clot would be much more localized soreness. I don't really do any other exercise apart from walking, however despite having a desk job I'm pretty active throughout the day. If this persists, I'll go to a doctor and get it checked out. Thanks again, mtastic
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