Hannibal

This girl is doing the same crap to you that my ex did. "its not cheating because there are no feelings involved" is what she said. I told her to stick that where the sun didn't shine because its a load of crap. If she can take a bath with another girl, well then why can't you aswell? I promise if you tried to do this she would freak out and you'd be the cheater. In my books, cheating is anything that you do that you know your partner wouldn't be comfortable with you doing. I'm sure that you're not comfortable with you girl taking baths with another girl and I would call this cheating! Seriously think of what would happen if you tried to do what she does. Do you think she would be perfectly ok with it? I highly doubt it. However she's getting away with it because its with another girl and they were "just being 'girly' and 'acting like little kids'" I would be extremely angry if I were you.

I believe in clinical depression. I deal with it because I have it. You know what? Your mind has the power to make you feel extremely crappy but it also has the power to make you extremely happy. There are lots of things that you can do to battle with depression. You just need to find that reason to do it.... and i know its hard when you're depressed but it can be done.

Thats exactly what I'm talking about! And the road out of "suicidal-feelings-land" can be a long one (it was for me anyways) but don't worry, you'll find your way out in due time. I found that offering my advice really aided me in getting away from that land as it forced me to really look at what I went through and why I went through what I did in order to give advice that I thought would have helped me when I was feeling poopy.

Again whats wrong with being lost in your own thoughts? I spend the majority of my day in my head and I see nothing wrong with that. Everyone thinks about themselves a hell of a lot. Its only natural to think about yourself quite a bit, you do live with yourself most of the time right? As for the projecting yourself as how you want to be seen by others bit. Just try being yourself, don't worry what other people think about you. At the end of the day it doesn't really matter what the hell other people think about you, just what you think of yourself. I can't remember who said this, or the quote exactly but it went something like A bad conversationalist is someone who talks about themselves A good conversationalist is someone who talks about an idea A great conversationalist is someone who talks about you.

I've been around for a quite a while. I've seen a lot of things on this forum. I've even been through a few suicidial times myself. Many people helped my through my tough times, both people on here and very close personal friends. I've always held all the advice I get close to my heart and never forget what people have done for me. Now I find myself in a very good place in my life and remembering what was said to me and done for me when I was down. That always makes me want to "pay it forward" I guess. So anyways enough with the rambling.... What I'm really trying to get out is that there is a lot of people that come through these forums needing help and suicide is a very difficult thing to deal with. What I ask of those people who come here for help, is that when you begin to feel better (I know, given time you will) and things start to look up in your life that you remember what others have done for you and try and "pay it forward." Once you get through this you'll be amazingly equiped to help someone else in a similar situation because you've already been taught by the best teacher of all.

Once again I didn't read the whole post just the first few messages. I agree totally with the first one. However in regards to a bad day everyday.... Having a bad day is all in your mindset. I found that when I was really depressed I didn't laugh very much at what happened during my day. Now that I'm feeling better I find myself laughing at a lot of things that I see during my days, I actually have a lot of fun just going through my day.

I just read your most recent post. In it you said you would much rather be dead..... Tell me, what is so great about being dead? Dead people seem pretty boring to me.

I didn't read through the entirety of your post. However the major points I extracted were that you got hurt by a girl and you're out of a job. Well the simple solution to the no job part is to get out there, put in applications and find a job. You're not going to find one if you don't look. As for the girl I recently got dumped by a girl who cheated on me, with another none the less. Then she went out with this guy who she left me for and her and i continued to sleep together for quite a while. I went through all the crap that comes with everything that happened. I did miss her for a while, but once I finally cut her out of my life she found her way into my head less and less until i realized one day I hadn't even thought of her in 3 days. Now I have finally realized that she was no good and I'm actually quite glad to be rid of her. Looking back she was just a pain in my side anyways. So what I'm trying to tell you is that what ever is wrong is only temporary. In time you'll find a job and a better girl and forget all about the no good one. Just try not to force anything to quickly, let yourself heal at a normal pace. Suicide is a very permanent "solution" to these temporary problems. My younger brothers friend took his own life almost a year ago now and I often find myself wondering what his last thought was as he hung himself. I promise you that it was something along the lines of "What the hell am I doing? I can't come back from this." By then it was already to late. If you want to talk about it some more then send me a private message. I've been through the works my friend and let me tell you, it does get better.

I ask you this... Whats wrong with going to bed alone? Theres no one to kick you in the night, steal your sheets, snore, make it to hot in the bed. The list goes on. As for dealing with the loneliness Why is it so imperative that you get into a relationship? That wont solve any of these problems that you speak of. You need to be happy being on your own before you can ever hope to be happy in a relationship. Next time you're out for a walk, stop and smell the flowers. Doing that simple act has helped me tremendously when ever I'm feeling bad. It really opens your eyes to all the beauty there is in the world. Learn to enjoy it my friend.

Whats wrong with thinking about yourself? If you want to take your mind off of yourself try volunteering and helping other people maybe? And don't forget there is nothing wrong with being single! Just sit back, relax and enjoy what life has to offer you. Take it all in and love will find its way to you.

I get that a lot acutally. Mine varies from very rapid twitching on my bottom right eyelid to exactly what you described about the heartbeat type of feeling. I wouldn't be to concerned about this at all. Its just a muscle spasim and lots of people get them. Ask your parents if they've ever felt the same thing, chances are they have!

Today was really tough. I couldn't wait to get away from all the people around me. I couldn't even make eye contact with people i didnt know. I feel so dirty and empty inside..... Is that how you felt aswell? Please post more advice if anyone has any!

ok so my ex and i broke up about 3 months ago. She started to date another guy soon after and we continued to sleep together. That was hard enough. Anyways today I went to her place and we ended up in bed again. Then we went to campus and she texted me saying she forgot something at her place and asking if i could go get it for her. So I did. Then I saw some pictures on her computer from a time when we were together but she was in another city. The pictures were of her kissing another girl. This had happened before and I told her that I considered that cheating and wasn't very happy. It sounded like she understood what i was talking about. Now however after seeing those pictures I feel like the whole relationship has a taint on it. To top it all off the guy that she is seeing (he is the reason we broke up) was most likely the one with the camera. Anyways so I feel completely crushed. I was wondering if there was anyone out there who has been cheated on and what advice they could give me for dealing with this? Please share.... I really need some advice here.

I didn't read all the posts but I'll tell you one thing. I'm coming from the exact same place as you are. I couldn't sleep for 3 whole months and I'd wake up feeling so terrible because I'd be waking up from a nightmare and thinking about my ex. Well I thought it would never end either but then a couple of days ago I woke up and felt great. It was so nice to feel that way again. So trust me it will get better, it'll just happen on its own.

Today for the first time in three months (and i mean a solid three months) I got a decent sleep. I woke up from a happy dream of an engagement to someone other than my ex instead of a terrible and very violent nightmare. Let me tell you I felt like a million bucks. I forgot how good it feels to wake up normally rather then with tears streaming down your face and sweat pouring off your body. Unfortunately my friend is just going through a break up right now with his girl. I can't help but wonder if maybe waking up today feeling ok was a way to help my friend. I'm kind of intoxicated right now so please forgive my rambling.