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  1. Sometimes you can tell by the way they carry themsevles but it's not accurate. The only way you can tell is when you conversate with them. It's a person's lifestyle that determines, among other things, if they are materialistic. Personally, when I first meet people I let it be known that I have goals I'm striving to achieve which require me to invest the majority of my money. While I have time to enjoy it I can't spend it irresponsibly. If the person isn't interested they will not call me again. If they call then they are interested in me or wanting to see what I'm investing my money in to determine if they should stick around for the reward. The key is to communicate and watch their actions to see if it consistent with what they say. Also, where are you hanging out and meeting women? Certain places have a particular clientele. Frequent places that seem to have more down-to-earth individuals who are striving for similar goals.
  2. Maybe I'm weird but the sexiest thing woman can do is to hold a decent and stimulating conversation. Innocent flirting such as: 1. Intimate eye contact 2. Laughing and slightly touching the person 3. Dancing with the person allowing them to hold you close 4. And much, much more.
  3. In my experience, when a women attempts to stop an orgasm is she fears losing control or the feeling is too overwhelming. There have been times when I've been told, "it's a weird feeling that seems to come over me and I can't control it so I want to stop." What seem to work for me in this situation is to talk her through it. Take her to the point where she wants to stop. Then talk with her, have her explain to you what's happening at that moment. Then start again and attempt to take it a little further each time. When she says stop, you stop. Talk about it again. Another cause could be anxiety. You'll be amazed how it can prevent women from releasing. Make her feel more comfortable and I promise in time (usually within a month or two) she will be able to reach her climax and you will be rewarded handsomely.
  4. Yes! Some people can modify their cheating behavior. I'm one of them. However, it is very, very, very hard to do but not impossible. The person has to truly desire to modify their behavior. You cannot facilitate that. It has to come from within. I had to replace certain behaviors with new behaviors and ensure they became habits. Honestly, it can take a very, very long time. If I can recall correctly, it took me about five years of consistent action, modification and monitoring to get where I am today. Why would you desire to stay with someone who has cheated on you twice? Why would you want to continue to suffer? If you have a cheater then he is also a liar. And he will tell you whatever you want to hear just to stay with you.
  5. Dating can be expensive depending on the person you date and where you desire to take them. On the other hand, it can be inexpensive as well. As for who should pay I say the person who asked for the companionship. Let's face it, some people want you to pay all the time. Then there are those who will offer to take you out and pay. I guess if you focus too much on what is being spent and not enjoying the time with the person it can drive you nuts. Also, and this is important, be honest with your finances! If you can't afford to do certain things all the time let it be known. Women and men are very understanding when told the truth. There are many inexpensive ways to enjoy one's company without breaking the bank.
  6. First, be thankful she was honest with you. She definitey saved you from a major heartbreak in the future. Second, you can know what you want in the future but it doesn't mean it will come true. Finally, when I talk to women I tend to determine what is their purpose for being in my life. I attempt to place them in three categories: 1. Reason 2. Season 3. Lifetime I find most people I've met were in my life for a reason. Some for a season. And very few stay for a lifetime. You can 't just place them in the categories. It takes time to determine where people may fit into your life as you have to get to know them. Once you begin to understand their purpose for being in your life you can better handle the relationship. Hope I was helpful.
  7. Okay, I'll take a stab at this question. Just remember it's my opinion. I've noticed habitual cheaters are really good at lieing. So good that they can't tell the difference between a lie or the truth. I'm not making excuses here just pointing things out. Now, when a man gets caught there seems to be an automatic "cover my butt" switch because that's exactly what he does. It would be like breaking into Fort Knox to get basic information. At this point the man is not logical. It's really hard to explain he's just in automatic pilot giving short answers, if any at all. He figures, "The less I say the better off it will be for me. I'm already caught so just shut up and take the what's coming." Men are not stupid (although many will disagree with that statement). They know not to add to the fire. Why tell the woman what she wants to know when she's already angry and about to physically assault me? Hence, the be quiet stage. It's easy to say, "accept the consequences" but many cheaters rarely, if ever, think about the consequences. But they often think about what's happening leading up to the cheating experience and during. If they do think about something after the cheating it's usually, "When can I see her again! I had fun." Hope I was helpful.
  8. wlfpack81, Too bad you don't see the beauty in yourself and in the world that makes life worth living. Actually, I'm glad you disagree with me. Nothing wrong with having a different opinion. Just remember the world is bigger than you think. The moment you accept that you just may see a different one. One more thing. The life you live is the life you create each and every day. Think about that. I do wish you success on your journey!
  9. I'll keep this short and sweet. If he is jealous of your cousin how do you think he would act if you hung out with a male friend? It seems he is very insecure, controlling and could end up being abusive. I know it may be hard to let go but would you rather suffer for weeks, months or years dealing with a guy who doesn't trust you? If I was in your shoes I'll leave him and be with myself. There are tons of guys who will trust you and not question your every move. I believe you know what you must do and probably don't feel comfortable doing it. You must do what's best for you! If you won't who will? The longer you wait the harder it will be to leave. Trust me on that one.
  10. Everything that was mentioned, with the exception of having the last name, can be obtained in a committed relationship with another and doens't require marriage. I guess the real question is, "Why do people want to get married?" Is it because the piece of paper provides a way for people to confirm, to the public, how the feel for one another? If so, think about this. If a person is committed to another but not married and chooses each day to spend their life with that person without a piece of paper to keep them there isn't that just as good? To often people are in love with the idea of marriage but truly do not know what it takes to keep a marriage working. Personally, I feel a lot of people throw the "marriage" word around too much when all they really want is companionship. I'm not against marriage by no means. However, I am aware of what it really takes to make a marriage work. It's not easy but worth the effort with the right person.
  11. Kenatgnet, Don't worry about it! I'm serious! I'm 5'5". Yes, it will be tough. I won't lie to you. But, and here's the good part, there is much more to you than your height. I knew at an early age I wasn't going to be tall so I had to be very good at everything I did. In sports I created a name for myself to the point where people didn't see my height they saw me. It's the same thing in life. Yes! Many women feel safe and protected with a taller man. But it's all about perception. Don't allow what others think to determine who you are as a person. Be the best you can be. Do your best at all times. And trust me the women will slowly gravitate towards you. I've dated women of all heights and never felt uncomfortable because I knew who I was. Have fun! Get to know women. And forget about your height. Literally forget about it. You can't control it so don't worry about it. I still get teased about my height. I laugh about it and joke with people. My height doesn't make who I am. But my heart does!
  12. parisian_pink, You took the words right out of my mouth. That was an excellent post. Life has its own purpose and in time we all come to understand it. Sometimes it's not meant for us to get the things we want when we want it. Yet, when we truly need them they seem to come right on time.
  13. Brandell, There are usually four options when getting over a break up: 1. Force yourself 2. Sit back and wait for it to pass 3. Lose control and go on a binge 4. Go back with the ex because it's too painful to be without them In my experience (and others will chime in I'm sure) is to force yourself to move on and get your life back. Even when you don't want to do it. The hardest part is to get started. Once you start doing it you will begin to realize it's not that bad. Hitting "rock bottom" is not a good option although it does serve as an enlightening wake-up experience. It is truly a tough road to go down. You don't actually set out to "love yourself." You attempt to deal with the problems and issues that plague you. During the process you begin to love yourself for you know you deserve more, you know you're not a bad person and so on. I have noticed there is often a "spiritual awakening" that occur when you begin to love yourself. I'm not sure if it is necessary though. Have to look into that. moneypennyxx, Unfortunately, there isn't a timeframe in which one can be guaranteed to get over their ex. If that was the case so many of us wouldn't suffer for so long. There are so many factors that come into play. With that said, on average, it takes anywhere from three months to two years or more. This depends on how long you were in the relationship, what you felt for the person and how the relationship ended.
  14. Your post will definitely inspire others and let them know the pain and suffering will pass. More important, I hope they don't overlook one simple statement you made that holds the key to happiness... If more people would take the time to really get to know themselves they wouldn't settle for less than what they deserve. I've always said, "Relationships are not complicated. People complicate them." I truly wish you the best Shazza.
  15. I find this post rather interesting. Sometimes people forget that it takes two to get engaged and married. It's rare for individuals to want to do it at the same pace and time. With that said, "Why put a deadline?" Who's to say that a man not wanting to commit means he is 'commitment-phobic? I agree a woman will be in pain. But, if the man doesn't bring up getting engage and the woman constantly brings it up what does that tell you? The guy is not interestd in getting married no matter what you do. So, why give a deadline? Ahhh...there's the culprit HOPE! Even after the deaf ear, silence, avoidance and everything else women hold on to HOPE. That hope is what causes the problems. Okay, the milk is free. But he didn't take it. It was given. Sure, many men may say what you want to hear but after a while you can tell when someone is not as "serious" for you as you are for them. Also, if a woman wants a man to buy the milk then state it upfront and stop playing games. If you want to get married let it be known upfront. Let him know the timeframes. That way he knows what he's getting himself into before he get involved. I wrote the above for the "devil advocates." However, I do agree with the following. As I man, who is serious about life, I know the techniques below actually work. I've seen it in action and someone is using the first one on me... However, keep in mind that no one can force you to do what you don't already want to do. The women are just motivating you to do it a little sooner than you would like too!
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