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  1. I agree, if you have already told her your true feelings then leave it at that. If you haven't then I definitely would do so. Have you two been in contact over the last 2 months? If so how has that been. If you are to tell her do make sure it is in person(face-to-face) not only will you be able to read her better, but doing it this way shows you are courageous enough to face your fears and tell her to her face how you feel. It will show you mean everything you say and will come accross better. I'd be interested to know tho, if you have had contact at all before you make this decision. If you have had contact and have expressed your feelings to her before then you will be pushing her more but if you've had some contact which was relaxed where not much was discussed then GO FOR IT!!!! It's been 2 months and altho I believe things are meant to be I also believe that we have a part in creating our own destiny. Think positively about it!!! cya
  2. A few months ago I was in work and got excrutiating pains...I went to the toilet and had started my period. I get bad cramps but this was terrible, I had no energy and the pains were in my back,thighs and knees. I couldn't work for a while but pushed myself to because we were so busy. about 1.5 hours later I was still in dreadful pain and decided to drive home on my lunch break. While walking through the car park I felt pressure and somthing moving from my stomach. I drove home so quickly(only 5 mins away from work) and when i went to bathroom there was a very large mass/tissue there. It was the size of the palm of my hand, was somewhat covered in blood and very much like skin. I was too nervous to tell my mum the size of it and said I thought I had passed a clot....I put it out of my head...my boyfriend at the time was away so I never told him. Recently I have been thinking about it and said it to my friend who said he saounded like a miscarriage. I have been on the internet looking up the symptoms and I experienced every one of them. If it was a miscariage, am I wrong to only feel now that I have lost something. Im quite emotional at he moment as I recently broke up aith that boyfriend. Im feeling sad and I dont know if I should or am I just being stupid. If it was a miscarriage and I feel this way,should I tell my ex(were still friends) or deal with it on my own....I'm so confused and sad.
  3. would anyone else have any advice....does anyone else think he is actually interested in me or should am I just looking for something that's not there.
  4. Thanks for that. I def have laid my cards on the table and told him i wud love to work things out...........do u think im picking up the wrong vibes r that i do know him and know whn he is being flirtatious r wants me.? im goin to give the no contact thing a try and then organise a nite out but wud b afraid to make a move on him.....anything else i cud do to maybe find out if he's interested... thanks so much for ur advice
  5. I think it would be great to get a guy's opinion on this ......i feel its good to see whether they think its drunken talk or wat he truly means.
  6. My gut feeling is that we are going to get back together......I always get feelings about things and to be honest I am usually right but could that be me just being in denial....the few times i have seen him since there feels like there is no change I still get the vibe from him he likes me and cares...........what do I do after a month of no contact....he asked me to get in touch soon and I said i needed space and he wont make contact...the ball is in my court
  7. hey. this is a terrible situation for u to be in,considering that u know he has very strong feelings for u.im in the same position but my ex wouldnt call me and say the things ur ex has. you are right to not be in contact and it seems that in doing so you are keeping him interested.i am of the same opinion that u can mak things happen and u have to fight for things. If after only 1 month he is thinkin he wants u and is so upset i think he will be back. continue the no contact...continue getting urself strong again and somewhat happy.....give it another month and see what he does...i feel this will work out for u...maybe i shouldnt say that but he seems to really care.
  8. went out with b/f for 1.5 years...we broke up he said he needed time alone and maybe in 6 months we cud get back together.......he had originally suggested a break but i said no to that.we broke up 6 weeks ago.we met up 2 weeks after to talk and i had uaual qs to ask...again he said he missed me so much,cared for me,he was sad and that we never know wat mite happen in the future.next week we met up as friens...it went really well but i found it too ahrd + said i cudnt b friends he said i wud after time and i said i wudnt.he had originally said wen we broke up he wanted to meet every 1/2 weeks and call/sms each other.we share mutual friends and i said i cudnt go on nites out cause i needed time and he said well lets do things on r own.anyway...wen i said we cudnt b friends he got really annoyed and we argued and he stormed off.at the weekend it was a mutual friends going away party...both of us were there.we got on great but i tried to keep distance but he kept standing near me,comin over and talkin,askin bout things i was doin that we had discussed when we were going out.my friends said anytime i was in his view he'd b lookin at me and his body language was always turned towards me.at end of nite on way home i got frustrated and got annoyed with him...he stormed off agin.i rang to apologise..i was sooo drunk and said stupid things.he called me today to meet up.we went out and talked,i apologised....we talked bout break up and he said it wasnt u at all..please know that...i said i didnt want toknow becuase i didnt understand and he hasnt the answers(we went out for 1.5 years,never fought had amazing chemistry emotionally and sexually)....i sadi i had gone out on date last week and that meeting that guy made me realise i have extremely deep feelings for him....everytime i said anything,even questiooned something...he put his head down and just said "mmmmmm"...i said i wud love to think we wud get back together but i didnt c it happening again he said nothing but "mmmm".i said it was unfair to say in 6 months we'll never know wat will happen and again he grunted...i said we hav to stay away from each other now. wen we were leaving each other...he said call me in while and tell me how u r and i said no and he said why and i said cause we cant........i said i think ur confused everything u hav said and done is so conflicting he said im not....give me examples but i cudnt......does he actually want me?r am i bein stupid?wat wud be my best plan of action after i do the no contact thing...?
  9. I think this is a very delicate situation to deal with. You do not want to get at her by giving out to her she needs people to be understanding and listen. I had a fiend who died after he committed suicide and it is the most terrible thing to happen. For those left behind tyour questions will never be answered. I would suggest your g/f go to hr parents in confidence and make sure her parents do not tell the friend that your g/f was there because this will push her away even further. She needs help and you are ao young to deal with this. I would go to her parents if they are approachabe and see what they suggest. If they are unapproachable I would then go to your school counsellor if you have one on xpert advice. This is such a serious situation that needs to be dealt with so carefully. She is lucky that at least you two have become aware and want to help her...that's a start.
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