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  1. I did the same thing by accident and just hung up. The next day I texted him "hey what's up, saw I called you by accident last night, my bad" and he responded back to it. Now we are seeing each other again. So I don't think there is anything wrong with apologizing the next day.
  2. Its up to you what you want to do. If you want more time then take it. If you want to just try and move on then do it. Guys ALWAYS come around. Just usually when you really don't care anymore. Its all about creating attraction again. I know you just need to get that chance. Stay positive because it will help you feel better about everything. That's what I am doing. Of course I start over analyzing about things and then get upset so I try to think of something else when that happens. Like doing sit ups instead. Anyway, I think you can give it at least one more chance but if you aren't ready for that then don't do it. Its hard to take that risk because you dont' want to get burned again. Trust me I know. Give it a week. See how you feel. If you are up for it I will try and help you with some witty clever things to say. . Thanks for the good wishes for me. Just have to be really smart and give him a lot of space now.
  3. Hey I am proud of you for giving it a chance. It does suck he didn't pick up the phone. Wait a few days, maybe even a week and leave a message next time. I will help you come up with a message if you would like. You don't know what he is thinking so try not to over analyze it. Maybe he was busy, or didn't have his phone by him...so don't stress or get upset about that. Its amazing how our mind wanders sometimes. At least you know you have changed and that's the only person you need to prove it to, is yourself! As far as your therapist says.... a stretch. I am no psychologist though. Just keep feeling really confident about yourself. I mean you are working out, stopped drinking, probably looking like a foxy lady so just keep that up and know your self worth always. Guys come around...they always do.
  4. well the only way you are going to find out is by calling. You can either continue to wonder and hope everyday he will call and who knows maybe one day he will, or you can grow a spine and just call. If you get his voicemail I wouldn't leave a message. You can always call a few days later or a week later if you want to. Don't stop by his house (that's stalkerish). If he doesn't answer the second or third time you call, either he is avoiding your call, or you can leave a message but after that then you might have to try and move on. You can do it. Be extremely confident. You have so much to be proud of. Look how far you have come and how much of a better person you have become. The longer you wait it just gets more and more frustrating. I would try and figure out a day that you think he might be free and set up a time to meet. I know if he says he doesn't want to, its going to be really hard, but I think he will. Just stay confident, fun, and flirty, an don't talk about anything too serious. Just do it!!!
  5. Remember, emails are really easy to avoid. I had texted my ex and got no response so I said F*ck it and decided to call him. I was so nervous but he accepted to meet with me. Then I even called him again to hang out one more time and we had the most amazing time together. Last night he came over, brought wine, and we had a nice night. So sometimes you just have to take the risk. Just put yourself out there a little bit. You keep on wondering so you might as well do it. I think he will want to meet up. But make sure you keep the conversation short and when it seems to be going well just pick a date and time to meet. Don't leave it up in the air.
  6. You have been really good about everything so why not give him a call. Ask if he wants to meet for lunch, coffee, you know something really short. I did that with my ex and we are talking again. Sometimes you just need to get the ball rolling. If he declines don't get upset, just be like OK, take care. I mean its been four months. Just say you want to catch up. Make the conversation short and light.
  7. what a piece of crap. Next time doin't even bother answering your phone, or change your number.....that will really get him. That guy sucks. Just get your things when he isn't home, and be really strong. You don't need anyone who put yo down. You are way better than that.
  8. well of course I am reading all your advice after I decided to call him. It was such a gorgeous day out so I called him to lay out and he said he already was and invited me to his pool. To make a really long story short, he kissed me at the end of the day after being really flirty with me all day. We went upstairs to get some water and he shared some dinner with me. I told him I had to go (which was soooo hard to do)Then he offered to drive me home (cause I walked over) and we kissed good bye for about 20 minutes and he told me it was really hard to stop kissing me. and to call him tomorrow. It was so amazing.
  9. SO my ex and I went to dinner on Tuesday and it went well. He IMed me the following day and we had small talk on the computer. So I haven't heard from him since then. I really want to ask him to do something again but I don't know if I should? I don't know if he will call me again or not and I don't want to be completely patient and then get shattered all over again. I am so torn because I want to see him really bad and he is a super shy guy so I know its hard for him to be assertive. I just don't know what the right thing to do is.
  10. I know how you are feeling. I just got out of a relationship and the guy was much younger than me too. We know we are too good for them yet something keeps us hooked on them. Move on....ha ha, yea right if it was that easy none of us would be on here. I know more than anything you want him back in your life because I am the same way. I gave myself 5 weeks of no contact before I casually called him to see if he wanted to meet up and surprisingly he went out with me. Of course now I am more confused than I was before. Anyway, make goals for yourself even if they are really small ones. It helps a little bit. Cross off days you don't talk to him. Try to give yourself at least 30 days. Work out everyday, even though you are exhausted. Just try and find distractions for yourself. Try to go on a date, even if you don't like him....its a distraction. Surround yourself with poeple all the time. I have a theory guys always come back....they just get freaked out and when you really just don't care anymore they come knocking on your door. Not to give you any false hope. You are going to have really great days, and not so great days. It sucks but you are surviving without them in your life. Too bad us girls are emotional basketcases. We have to try and grow some backbones.
  11. well he IMed me today and has been talking to me for like two hours.... I guess that's a good thing since he hasn't done that in five weeks.
  12. I just need to calm down. I am overwhelmed.
  13. Wow wow wow, this is so interesting. I spoke to a friend today and he gave me some really good advice that I want to throw into my sitation. He told me "you don't know what he is thinking and he is not a puzzle, so stop trying to put it together." At first I was just whatever about it but the more I thought about it the more I realized he's right. Honestly I know I am so emotional because I am completely overwhelmed with everything that just happened. The date was perfect. I mean if it was a first date I would have thought it was completely amazing but since there is history its hard because I have never gone out with him and not been affectionate. I would have liked a good night kiss of course but I know he has to be thinking about it just because I looked really really good. And his friend/server seemed to be flirtatious with me. I know I am just emotional about everything right now and it will subside. I appreciate everyone's take on this. All I know is by going out with him I realized how much I missed him. If he does ask me to go out again I will go just because I want to. I will not get physical with him at all unless he actually says he wants to get back which is going to be baby steps for sure. I know I was amazing last night. I think I am just over analyzing everything like crazy.
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