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completely over 6 years we broke up 3 times once by me the other 2 mutual to get her stuff stright. she never cheated on me as far as i know i really doubt she did. our passed relationship was good both times we got together and she will say the same. we comminicate well with each other and were very understand each other at most.... we broke up because she is having difficulties with her passed that she cant accept and feels she was hurting me which in ways she was. she started seeing a consuler and i was happy she was cause she is getting better. she went stupid got drunk and got really stupid and i guess the condom broke. it happens but ud think a person would be smart enough to think better and not relate our passed sex life to one she had. anyways i got passed the whole pregnancy thing it doesnt bother me. i was doing my own thing and happy with it cause she was happy. but a few weeks ago she just drops it on me that she messed up and yea. i love this women i do and i dont expect anything anymore. i dunno anymore lol im lost im going oversea's thank gawd im in the military its kind of a an escape all need to figure things out lol ](*,)

hey yall, well my delema is really messed up. first off ive dated this girl for 6 years and we broke up so she can figure things out so it was mutual. she soon after got pregnant from another dude. i found out by snooping which i felt guilty about and she was planning to tell me i messed up on that part for invadeing privousy but i told her what i did and she was mad. she and i got passed that and i havnt tried sense. she a few months pregnant and i asked her a few months ago if she was still in love with me when i found out she was prego. she said no and my life just changed for the better cause i held on to her because she made it sound like we would get back together. well a few weeks ago she said she thinks she still in love with me and flipped my world upside down cause of this ididnt expect it and it came out of the blue. i love this women still and it does hurt she is having another mans child. she said this should of been our child and she made a mistake. i dont really know how to handle this, i have tried just to leave everything, but our friendship is really important to me. im there for her on the level she needs as a friend but im so lost in transitions now cause she told me that. i dunno what to do, i cant stop being friends i dont want that and nither does she. i just dont know how to handle this ne more i love her so much and im leaving less then a week over seas. i guess im waiting for an answer i was fine accepting what happened between us was all but i dunno what to tell her or say. i told her i wont wait around for her though, but how can i come out the better man in this lol.. if this doesn't make any sense im a lil tipsey and all elaberate tomarrow... any advice is much appreacaited

thank you all, umm as fair as compliments go, well im in the military and she happened to be at my house when i got off of duty, so she said i looked good in my uniform, she says im real easy to talk to from what she has told to a friend. i complementer her on how well she looks and she mainly comes to see my mother, but she'll come talk to me and asked me if i like her outfit or something cause i usely complament it.. when she has slept over i give up my bed, but she feels guilty and says she feels guilty and that i should sleep in the bed with her with a pillow in between. "i didnt at the time cause i had a gf." so i think i am more in the friend zone then the potentional zone.

okay im sure this has allready been asked many of times so why the heck not one or two more times... so how do you know if someone is interested in you? but not by asking the person? like to look for body language? comments? flirting? and how could u seperete a complement from flirting? or how do you determine which is which lol..... i know im confuseing. how can u tell if they are flirting with u if its not brought up by someone else? like what to look for? well thanks

anyone ever have a breakup where you both end up crying really hard cause you dont know if its the right thing to do? or cause your scared? my gf of 6 years and i broke up tonight it was mutual. she has some issues that she has to deal with her own and i know she needs to do this on her own.. i did tell her and ment it if she needed anything i would be there for her. i love her alot and care for her alot.. i want to marry this women. im leaving for afgan and its so hard cause i really want her there for me but she cant and i cant be selfish like that it wouldnt be fair.. we held each other and cried very hard it didnt seem like either one of us wanted to leave each others arms. i know ididnt.... i just hope i get another chance at this with her when she gets better. anyways im just venting and thanks for reading...

do you guys spend alot of time together? you guys may need to have some space from each other, its common to get annoyed with things like that when 2 people are around each other alot.

im sorry to hear that and it is important, err guys like him make me mad and give us a bad name. subjects like this make me upset cause i hate to hear that someone was violated. i dunno i say if he comes around again "and he trys worse things "id do something to his man hood for fear of ur safty that guys is a creep... and im sorry you were violated like that. i dunno if you will get passed it thats something that will come to. my hearts with yea and i deeply am sorry for what that sleeze made you do. know that not all males are like that. and my heart goes out to you

i wouldn't tell her that it would have a negitive effect. i would allso stay with the no contact cause a person cant miss you if your around, but if you most reply to her keep it short and sweet that your doing great and just fine. if she calls keep it to 5 to 10 mins and allways be the one who ends the convo. good luck man

well its really hard to enjoy any pleasure when you are uncomfortable. maybe your just not ready for that yet. it sounds like you care for your boyfriend alot, i think you feel guilty cause you think you would be making him quit. he should quit because its the right thing to do and it should show him your conncerned about his actions and not have to come to choice in that kind area cause he will prolly expect it all the time, but thats what i think doesnt mean its true.

why am not is because she wont go back on um, she doesnt want to. what i ment about that is should i walk away and let her figure out things for herself. i dont want to leave i love this women i truly do but this his her discison not mine i can only make suggestions not going to push her. i love her enough to let her go so she can be happy. if shes not happy with me im not happy cause shes not happy and its not fair to her, yes i do know she has feelins and i care about them other wise i wouldnt be on here in the first place. ive known this women for 6 years and i helped her out with so much. i love her and i want to see us make this passed this, but more importantly i want her to be happy. that how to fix qoutes?

rgr, but shes not on birth control anymore that was 2 years ago.. shes not on any pills atm or at least i dont think she is. yea consuling sounds the best right now but should i stay with her through this or i dunno confused..

well we have been together for about 6 years, first time i broke up with her cause i was confused and need space, secound she was on birth control and made her act really funny and she actully had a reason to be real mad at me. "no job or anything". and she was confused. no shes not on anything that i know of. consuling im not sure shes up for that which i agree she should go to. but she thinks its a waste of money i guess i dunno i will talk to her about it or i will let her write on here. all i know is i want to help her. she doesnt want to leave me i know that but she doesnt know what to do. thats why i asked the advice.

hey guys, this is more of an update, my girlfriend and i are heading for a break up i believe... we talked last night and she says she has been unhappy for 6 months. she says she been mad and she got tired of being mad at her self and started takeing it out on me"i dunno whats shes talking about" she says she wakes up every mornin feeling like shes lieing to me cause she says shes happy when i asked. i wish she would of brought this more to my attention. she doesnt know what could be making her unhappy. she has a good job, not fighting with parnts,and "she has one of the most careing guy in the world that loves her head to toe and is a big part of her past and present." i want to be there for her through this and work it out together and find out whats making her mad. we havnt been seeing much of each other this month do to shes a busy racer and all. which is kewl. but she says this month she has been really mad and we havnt really seen each other and she just wants to keep finding things to be mad about. she says she cant see me out of her life or with see her self with anyone else, but she may need to walk away for awhile. we both dont know what to do she is just maybe picking the easyier way to do things. i told her i will get her this site, and to give her a few days to think what she wants to do.. and its ur dicsion on what to do.. the thing is this would be our 3rd break up if it goes that way. the last break up i didnt handle well and it was a real dark time for me and i am not going back to that. nore well i wait around for that call. so this may not only kill our relationship but our friendship as well. i cant see her with another person it would hurt to much and i cant lose my bestfriend either... either way theres hurt. so i may have to walk away from her forever... all i know is i have to go through with it so she knows she lost something big in her life.. after we talked we did something odd and made love at the park and we left it at that. we decided to wait cause we really didnt know what to do. and i want her to think about this. so that is whats up, can some people give me some advice on how to help this sitituation out? i am lost and i dunno what to do. thanks for listening to me vent and sorry for the spelling and grammer

thats what i will find out tonight, i will repost when i get more info afterwards.. she been getting mad at me alot latly and been taking it out on me alot i guess? i dunno thats what she said and i dont feel thatway i think were great in alot of aspects but i dunno she says shes confused on something so well see all post back](*,)

hey guys, i have a feeling tonight will be the end of me and my gf of 6 years... shes coming over to talk and we sorta talked about it on the net. she doesnt know whats going to happen between us other then she flat out loves me and can see her self with no one else. i feel the same, but honstly want her to be happy and depending on what goes on tonight this may not only be the end of a relationship but as a friendship as well. shes is my bestfriend and i am willing to lose her if we break up, ive tried to do the other thing but it just ends up us acting like a couple. cause we dont know how to act around each other and it leaves hurt. i guess i want her to feel that if we end as a couple then she loses me as a friend as well. is that wrong to want that? i do want her to feel like shes loseing something big in her life and i know i cant do that if i am around. so if it does go down like that all go stright to no contact and not sit around waiting like last time there was to much pain and heart ache. its all about how i am going to protect my self from missleading idea's. what sucks most about this is i maybe leaving over seas soon and i was hoping she would be there for me while im gone.. i guess i may face this alone lol.. anyways i love her very much and i hope she makes the right discison on whats best for her. i just want her to be happy. anyways if u have any suggestions there wellcomed.. mainly i just wanted to vent. thanks