fridolyn

Even if we both live in a very small city, share the same friends, the same interests, she never tried to make contact with me. Never called, never wrote, never showed up at home, etc. And I now thank her for that because that helped me recover a little bit faster. Shes found a new boyfriend and shes one month from giving birth to a baby girl. I'm very happy for her now.

I could have written the same post 3 years ago mmaurer6. Exactly the same post, word for word. I know it's hard but you will get better. I know its hard to practice NC but its for your own good. One day, you will see everything from another angle. What's important now is you and you only...

Do the no-contact thing!! Not to have your ex miss you. but to start healing!!! It's going to take time, lots of time but day after day, you will start "living" again!!! Good luck!!!!

That's a very interesting thread!!! Im in a similar situation. For the last few weeks, I've kept telling myself if I should tell my feelings for her. From what I've read, I won't say anything. We've been friends for a long time. (I have had many girlfriends but I've never left sthat strong before.) Sometimes she gives me signs that she wants to be more than friends, sometimes its the complete opposite. We are always together, I dont want to ruin that friendship but I think I will have to distance myself from her in order to do a little bit of thinking, meet other people etc. A bit selfish but it's the only way I've found to stop the "torture". She will probably wonder what's happening, then I may tell her what I just wrote here... Fridolyn!!! PS English is my second language, sorry if my post is not very clear!!!!

I just asked someone out 10 minutes ago. I've done that a few times imnmy life and I've never been used to it. Its hard I know, very hard. And yes, the worst thing that can happen is to hear "no". You may even try later on and that time he may say "yes". Dont try a 3rd time though. Im often the one to ask out, but some girls have asked me a few times. And even if I've said "no" to a few girls, I've always found those girls very courageous. At the same time, you feel flattered. And I have never forgotten an occasion to tell them how I felt about them asking. (this paragraph doesnt seem really clear to me, I hope it is) By the way, my "date" said yes, we're going to spend Wednesday evening together. ***English is my second language***

Been there too. I just started dating a few months ago, everything is fine but I have not found anyone yet even if some of the girls Ive met were perfect (but not perfect enough for me). I really think that I (and you) should not lower our standards. We just have to give ourselves some time and one day, without expcecting it , we'll find that special person. Good luck!!! ***English is my second language***

I could have written that post. I had the same problems with my -ex-. She had only time for her social life, no more romantism, no more sex etc. One year after, I think it was just a way of letting me know that she was not in love with me anymore. I also remember the first time I saw her after breaking-up (she was and still is very beautiful but there's more in life than finding someone beautiful) I know it's hard but you will get through it. Just give yourself time. ***English is my second language***

I hope you had a good time anyway! Dont forget to come back here and give us news when you see her.

One year for me in 2 weeks. I think I will celebrate the anniversary. Last Christmas was the worst I had ever had. This one will be different for sure. I often think about the day she left me, last Christmas, the begging, the crying, the hurting etc. Im just happy to think about those moments because Im fully healed now and proud of myself because I went through it. I may even have a new girl to spend Christmas with. 2004 was just awful. I strongly expect an excellent 2005. Thank God, its over. ***English is my second language***

I've been there before. I live in a very small town where its easy to run in to my -ex-. It's almost a year since she left and I still find it a bit difficult to go somewhere when I know she's going to be there even if I dont want her back. My advice to you is if you dont know how you're going to react then dont go there. Im pretty sure it will set you back. Wait, be patient, give yourself some time. But if this "party" was planned a long time ago with friends and its a special occasion, then I say "go for it". At least, if seeing her there sets you back then you will have friends around or you will be too busy having fun (very important to have fun if you go there) with your friends to "care about her. If its another "common" night out with friends, do something else. I dont think you wil regret it. If your run into her, just say "hi", "how are you?" and leave. Act confident and have fun. I cant wait to hear from you my friend. Good luck!! ***English is my second language***

I have a couple of x's that have babies now. All I can say is "Thank God Its Not Mine!".

I've read somewhere that boys are more likely to come back (statistically). But, you should keep in mind that its over, that our exs are not going to come back and that's a good thing. Let's forget about them, we're better without them. Fridolyn ***English is my second language

Is she really your friend's girlfriend ??? Man, with a friend like you, your friend doesn't need an ennemy. I would never go out with my friend's girlfriend. Never. Consider the friendship as over if you guys get together. Second, I was with a girl friend last year. I met her at a bar. She was drunk, so was I. She told me all the nicest things about me. She said I was the man of her life and everything. She had a boyfriend at that time, I had a girlfriend too. She wanted sex that night, I refused. I couldnt stop thinking about her for weeks for that reason my -ex- left me because I couldnt care for her anymore. One week after the break-up, I saw the other girl. She told me that she had broken up too. So I said to myself, thats it, we,re going to get together. I told her if she had the same feelings now than before and she didnt answer. One year later, we are still singles. I still think about her a lot. I often see her but she doesnt care about me. I hate her now because shes the reason my -ex- left but on the other hand she opened up my eyes, I couldnt have had a long-term relationship with my -ex-. What have I learned from that experience?? Just that she wanted a one-night stand under the influence of alcohol. How could I be so stupid. Try not to repeat the same mistake I made. Wow, that post was hard to write. I hope its clear enough because you know that : ***English is my second language***

Just want to let you know that I lost 35 pounds. Ok, ok , I was a bit overweight but I lost those extra pounds anyway. Im a hockey player. Now, I dont have to accept bodychecks anymore, I'm off before they hit me. I just have "wings" on the ice. It feels good. I have also changed "inside" and this is even more important. Breaking up was a good thing for me. It had to happen to me. I know you feel the same one day because time is a great healer.

ok yes, I know how you feel. That was my biggest fear. i refused to go out for many months with my friends because I didnt want to see my -ex- flirting with other guys. She now has a boyfriend and Im happy for her. I feel better knowing that shes has a boyfriend than seeing her flirting. I often see them together and its almost not bothering me anymore. She had been controling me 10 months after the break-up now I AM IN CONTROL. I'm dating like I have never dated before. Im having the time of my life. can you believe it? But I know its hard. But time will help you forget about these thoughts. ***English is my second language***