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MelikeMI

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  1. open up to her ask her out if that's what you want to do don't ask her out if that's not what you want to do You dont have to ask her out if you dont want to
  2. "Are you ok? How are you and (enter b/f name here) doing?" You need to find this out before you go further. Why hangout with her if they're still together? Maybe she wants a friendly face maybe she wants to make him jealous by thinking she's going back to you. You already know what page you're one, now you need to find out which one she is.
  3. why did you and your ex break up? Is that problem solved? Nothing anyone will say can take the feeling of missing your ex away except you. You said he's starting to like you again, what happens when he starts to not like you again? If you don't like the new guy it's really bad if you lead him on. Have you and your ex really broken up? Just do what you think will make you happiest and learn from your mistake if you make one.
  4. Since she already know you want to be closer, shes fliting a bit more. I think thats a good thing, unless your hearts really, really in it and you feel you're going to be hurt. She feels good flirting with you and you feel good letting her flirt with you, everything sounds good to me. Have fun with it, keep it light, she already knows how you feel on need to tell her again for a while, just have fun with it.
  5. If you've been bitten by a dog three times already, would you be in a rush to do it again? It sounds like she she moved out there to get away from things and to start over. And if she is, that is going to take some time. How long?, well that is up to her. I think that the best thing for you to do is be patient, be by her side, day in and day out (not literally), you're going to have to prove that you're stable and you're not going anywhere. I should end it there but I have to say that there is a slight chance that your heart is in it, and hers is totally not, and she may try to take advantage of that, don't let yourself be used. Its a fine line between always there potenial boyfriend persuer and a sucker that allows himself to used because he loves her.
  6. How: Just be honest with her, you answered you own question. Tell her everything that you've just posted. Explain that: "I've been contemplating breaking up with her for about 3 months now but haven't broken up with her because I wanted to try everything possible to fix things before I ended it." " have already spoken to her several times about how my feelings have changed" "I still love you, I'm just not in love with you." How can you say that she's aware that your feelings have changed but she still wants to be together? I don't think she gets it if that were the case. When: For damn sure wait until the test is back before you tell her. I'd say one week after prom Where: her place, or somewhere close to her palce You're worried about hurting her feelings, I know but think about it, there really isnt a way to avoid hurting her feelings. It's going to happen no matter what. Well maybe if you get her a rose, some candy or maybe a slurpee, will lighten the blow. Slow things in case she's a thrower
  7. I have to say, you're in a tough situation and putting myself in your shoes, or at least trying to, i think I would feel the same way. Hopefully a women reading this can confirm it, but most women, when they dream about having a child don't dream of having it this way. I'd think that women dream of having a child as much as their wedding day, maybe even more. This is supposed to be a pain-fee 9 months of the best pampering she'll received in her whole life, and the fact that it's not going to happen that way may be the source of her meanness. She's just looking for security, which I'm sure you know. The woman you're seeing now is your wife under the kind stress that you've never seen her in before and may never again. I think you should hold off on the divorce, because I wouldn't think that she would want to raise the child with you entirely out of the picture. And I also suspect that as soon as the child is born you'll have a new mother and child that believe it or not will need you. Unless you think that she will make an unfit mother, your willingness to take custody of the child is a double-edged sword, what are you going to say when the child ask for his or her mom and why you two arn't together. When she said she didnt care to and never wanted to speak with you again, do you think that she meant divorce? are you sure? I know you're tired, but this something that tired or not will always be. I think you should see this as a transition period, a chance for you to prepare for your child to enter your world, make yourself strong enough to provide for your child. That being said I don't see this as your fault. She feels that she's the one pregnant and that's a mistake on her part. What you have to do is be honest with her, don't call her give her a chance to hang up the phone. Go to her house and tell her how you feel, even if you have to say it in a room full of people. (I have a feeling they know your business anyway) Ask her if there is room for you in her life, and don't let her avoid the question. She fell in love with you for a reason you should find out if that is still there.
  8. Cookies, girls like cookies, the homemade ones of course. If you can make them for her good, if your mom can make them for her even better. Trust me. You might also try a slurpee. Thats what I'd do, actually now that I think about the one thing girls like more than cookies are flowers but in your case one and only one is enough, don't over do it. One Rose
  9. First you say "I was not happy with the relationship b/c we never hangout and she always made up and excuse and stay home. We just didn't seem to be communicating as much anymore. " then you say " I thought we were made for each other", I'm a bit confused. You also, never mentioned her reasoning for the break up. Can that reasoning be dismissed? Working out is a much a metal exercise as a physical one, as she pumped those irons she was giving herself a reason to feel good even when she sat home alone, she was loving herself. Can you say you made her feel like that? Did you try? I think that what you're feeling is a normal sense of lose after any realtionship. I say, move on, she's gained her confidence and maybe moving on, maybe you should give it try. Why not try someone new?
  10. It sounds to me me that he's not ready for marraige, are you two even engaged? Does he really mean marriage? Is there an engagement ring, a promise ring even? You don't say if you are or not and that would change the perspective of the whole situation. Your relationship is only 2 years old maybe he wants to wait a while. The fact that he sees his job path as his business and none of yours is not all that bad, its bad don't get me wrong, but no that bad he may just a little offended when you offer career advice, like his mom nagging him or something. Maybe he sees it as a career choice, in most industries it's beneficial to work in the trenches for a while.
  11. Just like you said you relationship was "9 years and reached a point where we were both bored". There's your answer right there. I don't know if you've ever tried the atkins diet, or the watermelon diet or anything that makes you bored of something for an extended period of time, but the one thing you do when you get off of it is do the exact opposite of it. In my case, I ate all the bread I could find for a week. You see its just a normal reaction, to want or at least to try the exact opposite of what you've just been through. I have a feeling that, soon he'll be tired of this extreme change change in lifestyle and want something familiar. He may just feel that he need to grow for whatever reason and you truly agree that you were both bored maybe you can too. To become bored in a relationship takes time, something must have happen or not happen in year 8. Just a shot in the dark.
  12. Ask her to the movies. It's the best first date, you and her in a dark room watching a movie together, there's little talking so you don't have to worry about saying anything wrong and you're pretty sure she'll be entertained(don't see the passion of the Christ!). Now you can ask her to go just with you or you can get a group together, which is what I would suggest, it takes a bit of pressure off of you and, more importantly, takes alot of pressure off of her. How you ask her is up to you, you know where she works, now you have to know when she works.
  13. If fancy this guy so much? How could you really be friends with him? Ask yourself do you want to be his friend or his buddy with a crush? It's not really fair to him or you, if you pretend to be his friend all the while having these feelings for him. My thought is that maybe there is a chance that he is not gay.
  14. Move on, now don't get me wrong 5 years is a long period of time. However I think that her stating that, you'd see how things go instead of a yes or no answer is a sign that she's not sure what she wants. since you've been together for 5 years, there's a chance she wants you to always be a safe home base for her to return to when she's feeling down in life. But if you're post you mentioned that, she's cut off cantact with you, to me that's a sign that she's moving on, or at least trying to, and I think you should do the same. If love is truly there, it will be there no matter what
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