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  1. It sounds like you already know this girl at least a little bit, so walking up and talking to her shouldn't be a problem, right? Well, if you're nervous about rejection or worried that it will be really awkward if she doesn't agree to a date/giving out her number, you can just start a converstaion with her and then sort of jokingly drop something in there about her number. I can't think of an exact line right now, maybe others can help you with that, but do you know what I mean? Make a joke about it, so that she knows the suggestion is out there and can respond by giving you her number, but if she just brushes it off as a joke, she has shown she is probably not interested, but you are left with a not quite so uncomfortable situation.
  2. When a guy asks for a massage, if I like him, I will usually agree to give him one, as long as he plans to reciprocate. One time after I had been massaging this guy I had a crush on for about ten minutes, I told him it was time to switch, and so he started giving me a back/shoulder massage. Well, he massaged me for about 30-40 minutes with no complaints, and also started massaging my neck, scalp, behind my ears, and just letting it get a little more sensual, you know, just running his hands through my hair, gently tickling my neck, etc. It started out just as a massage (which felt great) but it ended up being both really sweet that he was willing to massage me for so long and the way he did it really turned me on. It was subtle, but we both knew what was going on......too bad there were other people in the room at the time, because if there hadn't been, I think I would have jumped him on the spot!
  3. I would definitely say go ahead and approach her....it is good that you had the sense to wait a few weeks until she seems to be getting over her ex. But don't be surprised if she is not completely over him yet, depending on the length and nature of the relationship, it can take a while, especially when you are dumped for someone else. And, even if she is over it enough to consider getting involved with someone else, that does not necessarily mean that she is completely over it on all levels. I don't know if that made any sense, but trust me, I'm speaking from recent experience--that was four months ago, NOT a serious relationship, and I'm still smarting a little even though I have dated other people since. Anyway, I think it is good to approach her, but asking "Am I wasting my time?" seems a little direct--if I was her, I think I might be scared off. Instead, try talking to her, flirting with her, and if you feel you are getting positive signals from her, simply ask if she'd like to get together sometime. If she accepts, it seems like she's interested, and then you two will have more time to get to know each other and find out if it could really work out between the two of you, one on one. Good luck!
  4. Nexty, Having a boyfriend can be a fun addition to your life, but it's also great not to have one sometimes! You can't define yourself by whether or not guys like you.....and just because you don't know of any that do doesn't mean they're not out there. I'd say there's a good chance that there's a guy or two out there with a crush on you, but you just don't know it. Work on building up your friendships and getting involved with things that make you feel good about yourself. By getting out there and doing things that you enjoy, you will not only distract yourself from your concerns about boys, but you may also meet some great ones! Don't give up, things can get better at any minute, you never know what is going to happen. Just remember that there are people out there that care about you. Sometimes it helps to confide in someone and you have taken an important first step by looking for advice here. Keep your head up and please keep us posted on how things are going for you. Never give up, there could be something great around the corner.
  5. I agree with the previous posts that communication is always good. It sounds like you have already discussed this to some extent with your girlfriend and know what she wants. So, my advice is, do the best to give it to her, at least to the extent you are comfortable with! As far as making the first move, find a place where the two of you are alone and know you will have some privacy, whether you are watching a movie, just having a conversation, or just hanging out. When it seems like an appropriate moment (maybe the movie just ended, there is a pause in your conversation, etc.) just reach up and cradle her face in one hand, lean in and kiss her. Once the two of you are making out, feel free to continue to take the lead. If you know she wants to try dry humping, try to do this is an area where you will have a little space to manuever, such as a bed or a wide couch. Once you two start getting into it (i.e. laying down, possibly one of you on top of the other) just start slowly (and not too hard at first) grinding your hips against hers. She will likely respond to this and start doing the same. As you go on, continue to make your motions gradually faster and harder (but not too rough, especially if you are bigger than her and are on top, you don't want to hurt her) or if she is on top, grab her butt with your hands and pull her towards you in the motion of your grinding. Once you get started, it really should come natuarally, and it can definitely be a very sexy without being too serious. As far as oral sex, take things as they come--making out and dry humping are a couple big steps behind oral sex, so get a hang of that first before you try anything more serious!
  6. Casual Guy, I think you are completely out of line to say that!! If he isn't ready, that's completely fine and normal! Just because Zid is a guy doesn't mean that all he should want is sex, and the fact that you assume it has something to do with is size is also completely unfair. Zid, stick up for yourself and don't do anything you aren't ready for. If this girl really likes you, she won't hold it against you.
  7. Definitely don't be afraid to give her advice on how to improve. If she hasn't done it before, it is likely that she is feeling pretty insecure about her technique, too, and would welcome suggestions. I have never given head, but the first time I gave a hand job, I didn't really know what I was doing, and was really nervous about it. My boyfriend really helped me out, though, by telling/showing me what he liked, which helped both my confidence and technique and his pleasure. Communication is always a good thing, and it will benefit both of you!
  8. If you care about having a friendship with him this much, you need to put aside your fears that talking to him about it will be "random." To be honest, it might be, but that doesn't mean it doesn't need to be said. I know that two months seems like a long time, but when you're trying to get over someone you cared about that much, it can seem like a very short time. Even if it is displaced, I am guessing he is still working his way through the stages of loss....including denial, anger, guilt, and just plain hurting. It may take a long time for him to come to terms with this breakup--after all, two years is a long time to be in a relationship. I say go ahead and talk to him, though. Find a time and a place where you two can have a private, and, if necessary, lengthy conversation. Tell him how you feel and what you want, and then give him time to tell you.....and make sure he knows that you want to know the TRUTH about what he is feeling, that you don't want him to just say what he thinks you want to hear. Good luck!
  9. I don't think that's going to be easy, or even possible. As a thin girl stuck with no butt like you (although a lot of women are probably envious that you are wanting to GAIN weight), I'm not sure there's much we can do. I have a feeling that, if you do gain weight, it will not be in the areas that you want to gain.
  10. You say that you have seen him glancing over at you before. When?? Do you two have a class together? Some kind of extracurricular activity? Any kind of interaction where group work/study groups might be a possibility?? If not, do any of your friends know him. If a friend is willing to start a conversation with him on your behalf (of course, without letting him know that this is the intention) it is easy to walk over and casually start talking to your friend while she is talking to him......making it much easier to start a conversation with him. If none of these options looks like it would work, I would suggest trying to get in some kind of casual conversation with him.....I'm not reccommending just walking up one day and saying hi, I know you don't want to do that and I can understand why. But how about just some little offhand comment to him on the way out of class, about the teacher, and assignment, test, anything really! Good luck, and don't worry that he's a freshman.....I've definitely had crushes on people more than a year younger than me on occasion, and I am usually one, like you, to go for guys who are a couple years older than me.
  11. I agree with the previous posts....tilt your head back and enjoy. You can also run your hands over her back, shoulders, neck, or in her hair, or make some soft noises if you want to show her you are enjoying it. As a girl, I love getting kissed on the neck, but I am often unsure if guys enjoy this or not, so it is always nice to get some encouragement!
  12. You sound like you are very angry, and like you said, none of us has walked in your shoes, we cannot possibly know what you have gone through, and none of us claim to. You say that you are a religious person, yet you are not willing to turn to God because you feel that your problem is not important enough or your situation serious enough to warrant help. Well, I don't know what your religious beliefs are, but I personally believe that there is no problem big enough or small enough that it is not appropriate to ask God for guidance. The church I go to has had a couple sermons lately that affected me very deeply, one that I think pertains especially to your situation. The website is link removed and you can listen to the sermons online. The "Twelve Feet of Separation" one seems very relevant to me, so just give it a listen and see what you think.
  13. It's likely that the breast thing isn't in her mind. I know a lot of girls whose breasts sometimes are tender and/or change size slightly at different times during their cycle. If you're really worried about pregnancy, go and buy a home pregnancy test just in case, to ease both of your minds. And DEFINITELY start using contraception!! You don't want to be on edge like this every month waiting and holding your breath hoping your girlfriend gets her period, and you definitely don't want to have to deal with a baby!
  14. I would say I average about once a day. Sometimes it's more, sometimes less, depending on a number of factors. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood, or if I don't have the opportunity, it doesn't really bother me. Other times (like a lot of times the week or few days before my period) I do it three or four times a day. I think a lot of girls do it as often as guys, they just aren't as willing to admit it.
  15. Go for it and give her a call! I hate to admit it, but I was really quite drunk when I met my last boyfriend (he was a friend of a friend) and we really hit it off and flirted a lot that night. We were with a bunch of friends at the time, so nothing really happened that night, but he was really sweet (although he was a bit drunk at the time, too) and gave me a kiss on the cheek goodnight and we exchanged numbers. I have to admit that I was a bit nervous about our first date when he did call me (because I wasn't positive if the way I remembered him was the way he really was......sometimes a bad consequence of being drunk), but everything went really well and we had a great time with each other for two months before he left for college. Just because she was drunk doesn't mean she won't remember you or won't want to see you again......go ahead and call her, but take things relatively slow and don't assume too much.
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