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  1. i think it's easier being dumped and not contacting the ex than dumped the ex and trying not to contact him at all. i decided to let him go after all and now i miss him so terribly. wanting so much to contact him. right now my head is in the war with my heart,,,lol. the only thing which can stop me from doing it is thinking that he doesn't deserve me!
  2. wow...what a similar story you have with me. The only different is you guys knew each other for so long. I dated this guy who still lived with his gf after 6 month broken up. Never told me until I mentioned I'd come over to see him when he was sick. Then later i found he was still carrying his gf's picture ID in his wallet. He told me he would never lie to me, and that he was in the process of moving out to his new house, etc. I liked him so much at that time too.. But after I found out about his ex-gf...he started to become flakey to the dates and stuff... he showed so much to me that he was a player. So he was out of my list!! Well, I think It was so wrong for keep staying in one place with an ex. If there's no other's feeling left, they wouldn't want to keep staying together. With the guy i dated, later i found out, they were still kissing (yes lips!) once in a while (according to him..but never know the truth..) Sorry if i dont help u much here... Thought of sharing what a similar situation I had with you.. -babybees
  3. thanks jeffrey for your opinion.. so i guess, it doesn't matter if we've just been a month dating right? I have every right,,
  4. I've been dating this guy for a month now. I'm so attracted to him since day one.. so we've been intimate faster than my previous experience (i used to do it until we'd been exclusive). The thing is that confusing me..he barely calls me. We mostly only chat on IM. He sent me txt messages quite often before, but since he knew i never response at work, then now he stops giving me one. He calls only if we're going to get together on that specific day for a few minutes. My friend told me that I should ask him about what he wants in his relationship since we have been intimate. I should be able to ask anything to him freely. At least I won't keep wondering and wasting my time if he didn't want a serious relationship. But on the other hand, we've just been dating for a month. I don't know if I should talk about this this early? Would this conversation scare him away? I read some posts about dating/relationship/fling... Now i start wondering if he actually wants/interested in me just for having sex...and thought I am just his fling? [he told his friends we're dating though] but,,,i don't know...im confused. Should I ask? Opinion please.... Thanks, -babybees
  5. yayyy..i had my fifth date!! anyways i learnt from my mistake. No sensitive questions to ask in early dating relationship. AND you're so right, Batya!! i did to your opinion...the "busy/not available" attitude really worked!! I ignored him one day, he texted me..i gave no response. and I was not online the whole day... Thanks for all the opinions.. -babybees
  6. Actually on NYE, he told me he'd call me to wish me a happy new year. Then I txted him happy new year after midnight, he txted me back an hour later. At 3am he called me and wished me happy new year (I was sleeping..zzz). The next morning we still chatted on msn. Then last night and this morning..everything seems okay..but i don't know if he pretends or not. Lily, how long after you asked your date with your question that made him acted differently toward you? I mean like bailing to the plans/dates, etc? I'm so hoping that he said what he said,,,and that he still wants to meet me again..(again,,finger crossing!!)
  7. We talked about that dating history thru messenger. So i couldn't tell exactly how was his reaction. He told me he was not upset at all with my questions. He called me last night and sorry that he couldn't spend the evening with me instead. He spent it with his family. I txted him happy new year and an hour later, he txted me back. We've been dating for 3 weeks. I will see if he will contact me again tomorrow or still wants to meet up with me. or like you said, lily...bailed on everything to the plans. [well i hope not.."finger crossing"] Do you think his action last night showing his lack of interest in me already? Maybe I'm just impatient or being paranoid...or again like lily said being obsessive. I can't help it. i just don't want to lose him!! aaarghhh.. I wish i could turn back time..
  8. I've been dating for 4 dates so far. We had so much fun together. I like him so much but I think I made a big mistake by asking his dating history last night. He told me whatever I asked. But then I asked him again how long he thinks we will last? (since he only had short relationship in the past). I feel so bad when he thought i felt bored of him already. Eventhough I already said NO. He probably thought I did. He planned to see me tonight, but he said he'd call me to say "Hi" either way last night. This morning I called him just to say hi, but he didn't answer the phone. And the whole day he was offline (it's like not usual)..maybe he's busy..i don't know. What should I do? I really don't want to lose him, but i think I blew it already. Do you think it's too much if I text him just to say "happy new year"? Or should I wait for his call first? If he never calls, then does it mean over? Is there a way I need to do to make him like me again? please help..i'm so stressful just to think about it..
  9. I've been dating with this guy just for 2 weeks. i like him alot. And xmas day is coming in couple days. I don't know if I should give him a xmas present or just a card? What normally people do to their brand new date? I confused because some of my friends told me not to give him anything since it's still too early. Is it? opinions pleaseee... -babybees
  10. Why not trying to put your profile in dating websites? It will boast your confidence when you get some men are interested in you too. Hope it helps. -babybees
  11. My x bf wanted everything he gave me back after we broke up. He said he wasn't treated fairly so he wanted them back to make it even. Do men actually do this kind of thing too? Any comments?
  12. Thank you for all the posts. So i guess from what I understand, the MJ (short for marijuana ) can really make the crave for the cigarette. If he tries to quit ciggies but keep the pot, you think he will eventually smoke pot even more? He's going to vacation with me for 2 weeks. And within that 2 weeks he can't smoke at all, but he's just going to have the patch. Is it true that within a week or more without smoking, a smoker will lose his craving? But if he's going to use the patch, what is the chance? Will it actually better without having any patches at all or having with? Thanks in advance. -babybees
  13. In my opinion, you need to talk whatever in your mind to your bf. Don't be afraid that he's going to be upset with you. You said he might not realize that he's pushing you away..you need to mention that to him as well that it's so bothering you how he acts toward you. Tell him that you don't want to lose him but if the situation won't change, he can lose you. Basically you need to communicate more with him. I know you mentioned that you both don't do the communication as much anymore. But ask him if he can spend a few hours just to talk with you. Hear what is in his mind, what bothers him and let him hear what yours. Hope it helps. -babybees
  14. Hi, I don't know if I post in the right section. Anyways, this is my story.. I have a bf of almost 2.5 years now. He is a smoker...cigarette and pot (I included his smoking pot habit since he becomes addictive now). So I asked him to quit smoking if we want to have a future relationship, meaning marriage (since I have a 3 year old kid, i think smoking environment is just bad). And he agreed to try quitting. But for him, smoking meaning only related with nicotine. So in other word, he is willing to quit cigarette smoking but not the pot. My questions are: 1) Can smoke pot tempt him to smoke cigarette again? 2) How bad is the pot compared the cigarette? (I know they both are addictive stuff) My bf's excuse for not willing to quit smoking pot is that stuff better than consuming alcohol and give a better relaxing feeling. In my opinion, it's okay to smoke pot for social thing once in awhile but not as a habit, and what he does is a habit already. So what should i do now? I know I can't change him if he doesn't want to. Please any suggestions will be very appreciated. Thanks -babybees
  15. i understand the rule...guy's night out, girl should not come along and vice versa. if the situation..the bf only goes out with his friend for having night out/drinking..but when it's the gf's asked, the bf said "let's go to bevmo" whenever my bf's friend asks to hang out either for drink or just for clubbing,,,my bf never says no. but when it's my turn, he says let's go to bevmo or it's pretty late, you have to work tomorrow morning so that's why sometimes i wanna join their get together. I've never joined them yet because i understand the rule. but why he never likes having a drink with me..happy hour or stuff? that gives me an impression of something you know.,.
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