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  1. "Fire Bringer" by David Clement Davies. If you like books like "Watership Down", "Redwall", "Ga'Hoole", or "Warriors", then you'll probably like this one.
  2. Oh it hasnt quite hit yet, but it's going to hurt soon considering how much I love her daughter.
  3. An update: The engagement is off and it's completely over After emailing her and telling her my feelings I had asked her for some space while I thought about everything. She wouldn't let up. She kept emailing me, calling my friends and trying to pry info from them, and even went so far as to have her mom and 3 year old daughter call me. After a few days I finally emailed her today. This is what I wrote: "In my last email I had ended it by asking you for some space. Space is not emailing me 3 times a day or having your mom and daughter call me (you claim you family does not get involved in your business, yet everytime we have problems your mother calls me). The truth is that I still don't know. So either you can give me a bit of space or we can end this as you implied earlier. I NEED SPACE." Well, according to a roomate she dropped off a box with the engagement ring, and everything else I had given her. Thanks alot to everyone who listened and gave advice. Time to move on with my life...
  4. Thanks for your input *sigh* Now I really don't know what to do...
  5. Thanks alot for your input, everyone. It's really going to hurt considering that I love her daughter to pieces, but I think I know what must be done.
  6. I've been engaged to my fiancee since x-mas eve. I was not able to buy her the engagement ring she wanted to due financial reasons. Nonetheless, the ring I bought for her is beatiful and by no means can be considered cheap. I dicussed this with her and she was alright with it. Last night after getting home from work she calls me on my cell phone and asks me to stop by. When I arrive she pulls out a ring that was similar to the one I bought her, but with a thicker band and larger diamonds. She told me the ring was about 600 dollars more than the one she has, but I can get it for her at 100 dollars a month. I asked her if she was unhappy with the one she has and she admitted she was. I told her that It is the meaning behind the ring that matters, and not the ring itself. I also said that in a few years when we're already married I'll buy her another nicer one when we're financially stable. She got upset and said that many of the women she knows have rings with larger diamonds and that it should be because it's a symbol of our love. Angry and hurt, I left and went home. This morning on the phone she tried to push it even further. I put my foot down and told her no because I simply can't afford it right now. She then said that she is going to take the ring back to the store and forget about it, and take her engagement ring off and put it in a box. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. Did I overreact by getting upset? I had always thought that the MAN was supposed to pick out the ring for his soon-to-be bride. Not the other way around....
  7. Well, the night before she had a friend call me. She told me that my ex was very confused and depressed over the breakup. I basically told her everything that happened between us and that I needed to think. I wake up yesterday morning to find a message in my voicemail. It was my ex. She claimed that her mother was lying about her wanting to break up with me and dating her co-worker. She said she doesn't want to throw away a year and a half of the relationship we built together and that she loves me. As I'm getting dressed she calls. She asks what I want to do and I tell her that I just want to be friends. She claims she couldn't be friends with me because she loves me so much and that she hasn't been able to sleep or eat because she is so upset. She also apologized for the way she behaved over the phone that day we had our fight. At that point in the conversation we were both crying. I tell her that I need to think things through and that we'd talk later. An hour later she calls back saying that she's on her way home because she couldn't work in the state that she was in. She wanted to come over and talk, but I had to leave for work. 7PM her mother calls and asks me to come over for dinner. I tell her that I can't because I had planned to go out to eat with friends. She pleads with me to stop by just for a few minutes and I finally comply. So I go. My ex and I say hello and her little daughter gives me a big hug. She's obviously missed me. My ex'es mom talks to me about how relationships aren't perfect and you constantly need to work at them. She also said that it was foolish the way we were behaving and that we needed to make up. So I went downstairs where my ex and her daughter were. We chitchatted for a few minutes and I told her that I had to get going to meet my friends. She kept asking me to stay, but I didn't want to break plans. I gave her a big hug and left. Its nice that we're finally talking again, but I just don't know what to do anymore...
  8. An update. last night I went out with some friends and had a good time. She had called my cell phone and I didn't answer because I couldn't hear it ring. She left a message that went something like this: "Hey, Rick. You're being bogus I see. I've tried getting ahold of you tonight and it seems impossible. I don't know if you're still mad at me or not, but call me back if you want. If not, then I guess its over. Have a nice life. Bye." This was the first I have heard from her since our argument Saturday. I don't know why she seems to feel that I'm the one with the problem. Should I call back, or just forget about it and just wait until she decides to try again?
  9. Thank you for the advice and kind words, everyone. This really means alot to me. I am glad to know that I'm doing the right thing by not contacting her. Even if we never see each other nor speak again I guess that's the way it has to be. Y'know its really funny when you think you've found "the one", only to realize an entire year and a half later that she really isn't. May would have been two years for us. This is the longest relationship I've ever been in. I'm going to miss her daughter's smiling face so much. It really sucks, but I need to be a man, dry my tears, implement NC and just move in with my life. I need to quit rushing to my cell phone to check messages, and I need to get over the urge to drive by her house. I'm actually going out with a couple of old friends on Saturday and Sunday. I think this will help. Spending time with friends and family. Oh, and to answer your question Raykay, she is 22.
  10. I have been with a woman for the past year and a half. However, I feel that it may be over. For the most part we had a good and loving relationship and she has the cutest 2 year old daughter whom I absolutely adore. We have had our share of problems though. She didn't like me going out with my friends as she was constantly worried that I would find a girl and cheat on her. I never would have cheated on her, and I have no idea at all why she was so worried about this. I was constantly having to prove to her that I loved her and was faithful. She also would scroll through the call log on my cell phone to see who would call me. After 4 months of us dating she began trying to push me into proposing to her and moving in together. I would tell her that we should take it slow and have plenty of time. From time to time we would have this same argument over and over again. Then things really changed. In December, her daughter's father got out of prison and began calling her. They would always get into arguments on the phone and she would end the conversation by hanging up on him. I tried to stay out of it and let her handle it, but one day I snapped and picked up the phone and gave him a piece of my mind. I know it was wrong, but she seemed grateful that I did this. Abot 2 weeks ago she began arguing less with him, and they started getting on friendlier terms. She recently got a new job. She would come home and tell me about the same guy who would always flirt with her and ask her out to dinner. She told me she always declined, of course. While she was at work one day about a month ago her mom and I were chit-chatting. She told me that her daughter said she wanted to date this guy but couldn't because she was with me.Her mom also mentioned that she had mentioned on a couple occasions that she wanted to break up. Ever since my gf's baby's daddy got out of prison her personality had really changed. She was irritable, cranky, and often blew up at me over small things. Our sex life also went from being great to nonexistant. Last Sat. she called on her way home from work. Her cellphone connection was very bad and I asked her to repeat something she said. She then got angry and insulting and shouted at me. Out of hurt and frustration I got sarcastic with her. She swore at me and I hung up on her. We haven't spoken since. Its been almost a week now. In that time I've come to the sad realization that we simply weren't meant for one another. However I still do love her and her daughter. The very thought of her daughter asking where I am brings tears to my eyes. It breaks my heart. The advice I got from family is to not call her and just move on. I've been doing just that but I find myself checking my messages constantly and getting the urge to drive past her house. She still hasn't called, and I haven't driven past her house yet. I wonder if she's feeling the same way as I am. I wonder if she's with her daughter's dad (who was a very abusive person and a criminal) or with her admirer from work. All I know is that it may be pretty much over. What do you all think?
  11. It's going to be a tough Valentines Day for me. I feel an impending breakup with my gf that I've been with over a year and a half. Not looking forward to it at all.
  12. For me lately, its been Whitesnake's "Here I go Again".
  13. This morning my girlfriend and I of 11 months broke up. See, she has a two year old daughter and thereforeeee couldn't get out much. Yet, when I went out with my friends (which really isn't often) she gave me a guilt trip. Last night I went out with my best friend who just came back from Texas and is currently going through a divorce. Of course, I want to be there for him because I know he needs the support, and because he wants to spend time with me because he's been living so far away for two years. We repeatedly called my girlfriend from the bar to invite her along, but she refused. I even offered to go pick her up. This wasn't the first time this has happened. Next month I am going to Atlanta for a cousin's graduation. She got upset and kept saying "you're leaving me and Natalie (her daughter) for an entire week." Anyways, this morning I asked her why she sounded upset over the phone last night. She says she doesn't like the fact that I'm hanging out with a divorced friend because it seems to her that we're out looking for women. I had REPEATEDLY told her that I'm not cheating on her, and would NEVER do such a thing. She claimed to have loved me, but its obvious that for some reason she doesn't trust me. I onestly don't know what I ever did to make her distrust me and make her so jealous. Breaking up with her wasn't the easiest thing to do seeing how I have also grown to love her two year old daughter. Was I being self centered in wanting to spend time with a friend for a night?
  14. I've actually been wanting to ask that question myself. My girlfriend is very affectionate and loves to kiss, but she is a smoker.
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