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  1. Yes this does account as NC. NC is basically trying to wipe your ex out of your mind. That means no looking at his facebook picture (might as well block him to help you out). Try to limit talking to his friends and try not to talk about him if you do.
  2. If the mail is important, you should text her about it but do not tell her that you are upset at her for not saying hi. Do not bring up any feelings that you have for her. Be nonchalant as if the break up does not affect you. Continue to heal and you will be fine.
  3. Damit. Broke NC today. Apparently I butt-dialed my ex and she sent me a text. I shouldn`t have responded but I did. We just texted back and forth just catching up. She ended up just ending it quickly by saying she is tired and about to pass out, and it felt as if she was not even curious about me at all. I feel like crap now after 3 months of NC down the drain. FML
  4. Day 92 Wow ALMOST broke NC today but stopped myself. Its been over 3 months now and I still miss her tons. Sigh... sometimes I wish I never met her so I don't have to fall in love and go through this crap.
  5. Yup these are what the book says. Also I heard its only a quick fix. From what I've heard it works but it doesn't last long. The reason is because the dumpee is making the move and also one month is too short for any change so once you are back together, that "oh ya" affect kicks in and next thing you know you are apart again.
  6. Day 83? Wow almost 3 months of NC. She did contact me a few times but I ignored her. I feel pretty good. I'm finding happiness in being single. I do miss her and still want to talk to her but I don't think I'm ready to break my silence just yet. It does get easier to those who just started.
  7. These break up books gives you the same advice as the people of ENA here. The books just says to go NC for at least a month, take that time to get over the break up and make improvements on yourself. Than give your ex a call to go out for coffee or something and try to attract them again from there. From what I've heard, it kinda works but it doesn't last. There might be an initial spark that occurs after the NC but after that the "Oh Ya" effect kicks in and the relationship will be fall apart again. Those books are basically try for a quick fix but thats about it. Just follow the advice of the people here instead of reading those books because its the same advice. Remember though, those books are very general and each relationship is different.
  8. Day 56 I have less anxiety then I had the first month but I still miss her tons. I decided to really try to put memories of her in the back burner and try to focus on whats important and that is to finish my studies and graduate and get my career started but its hard because I wanted her to be there next to me and support me. Just gotta take it day by day.
  9. day 34: Getting those weekend blues but got through it with by being with family. She sent me a useless email the other day, probably trying to reach out to me so we can become friends but thats not what I want so I did not respond. Makes me feel better knowing I'm on her mind so continuing NC to keep that uncertainty in her alive.
  10. A friend of mine that is helping me get through my break up got back together with his ex. He dated her for 2 years and she wanted to marry him, however he was not ready to make such a commitment and therefore she dumped him . After she left he decided that he wanted to be with her so he asked her to marry him but she refused so marriage was not the reason for her leaving. She started dating her co worker immediately who makes more money than he did and was more attractive. He was devastated but got his act together and disappeared from her life for 4 1/2 months in which he went to work on himself and made himself happy. She came begging him back after 4 1/2 months of strict NC with him in total control of the relationship now. At one point, his girlfriend was actually engaged to this new guy as well. Now they are still together for another 2 years and he is planning to propose to her soon.
  11. Day 22: Yesterday was Sunday and Sundays are the worst for me. Happy that it is over and now looking forward to my week of exams. Hopefully the next Sunday will be ok.
  12. I know eh. The previous weeks before the breakup, my ex was talking about marriage and she was excited and couldn't wait for me to finish up my studies so we can have a nice life together. Then in a span of 1 week it all fell apart. Don't lose hope though, if your relationship was very good, there is no way they will forget about it and will return. It may take a while thats why use this time to move on with your life, do some soul searching and do something new.
  13. I'm going through the same thing. My ex of 2 years broke up with me because of this GIGs crap. They do think about you but not in the same way anymore. With another person involved its going to take even more time for them to think about you and the past relationship. Thats why disappearing from her life is essential.
  14. Day 20 Each day getting a bit better. Still miss her tons and hope she is still thinking about me. I know that in the future we will be back together since our relationship was full of love. I have to let her realize this so gotta stick to the plan.
  15. Day 17: Up and down day. This morning missed her, tonight not really. Sigh I hate going through these.
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