Thank you catfeeder. Yes, if and when I am in a relationship again, I want it to be peaceful, without disrespect. And I agree with you, my ex-GF's "style," her anger simmering just beneath the surface, definitely kept me from reaching her. It wasn't just the dramatic episodes of the silent treatments or the blow-ups, it was the tension in her voice and body when I asked her to repeat something if I didn't hear it, or to explain something if I didn't understand. I really wanted the best for her, to be her friend as well as partner, but she made it very difficult.