brandnewday47

It is difficult to think that though we never dated officially, I need no contact from you. Limerence is a beast that has been tearing me up. I hope that things will subside in time so we can be back to what we were; I don't know though. I know you may never understand what I'm going through.

I suppose though technically we never dated, I've come to the realization that I'm just into you more than you are me and that probably will never change. I hope that I can go back to how things used to be, before I started to think of you as more than a friend and possibly much more. Not sure though at this point.

H, I'm really not sure what to say here. It's been over two and a half years since you ended it. Took me about half that time to get things emotionally under control, and straight in my head. I briefly dated a girl last year for a month or so.. but things never really materialized. I dated another girl for about four months, and that ended in dramatic fashion of which I'm just recently recovered from. Then I find out... that your now moving accross the country, probably to live and marry the guy you dated shortly after we went out. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad you've found your mate and I hope that he is a wonderful father figure for your daughter (who, I hope has forgotten me long ago). I guess I just feel empty. Not sure whether to respond or not to the email I recieved. I was BCC'd on the going away announcement, and I'm not sure what to do. I figured all of my decisions about moves to make regarding you were done with long ago. Anyway, from the bottom of my heart thank you for the part you did play in my life. I'm a changed person from the one you knew, but try as I might have earlier you will always have at least a small part of me. Take care, and always be careful crossing the street! Me

Hi H, It's been 600 days since our last contact and I've since dated a few women.. and though one of them ended in epic fashion (far more drama than ours, and ours was a lot!), none of them were you. Even though it has been two plus years and I imagine wedding bells are near for you, I do miss having you in my life even just as a friend. Happy Birthday H! Hope you have a great day and your family, friends and guy make it a great one. Take care always..

Day 50 with the girl; Day 30 with her current guy I'm pretty happy with where things are for me in life now... but need to be vigilent in staying there. I'm long over her, but my 'friend' who she is with now... time will tell how that goes.

We were in a meeting for about 30 minutes today. Not sure what if anything you got out of it... but I was able to look at you and realize your just a girl, just a person like all of us. Flawed, like all of us. I'm flawed too... but I love my flaws! This was a good thing for me. I was much more easy going and business like than you probably thought I would be. With all of the great things happening for me in my life, I don't have time to worry or be angry with you or your man. As an aside, based on a facebook post your guy might not be happy with me.. he was (is??) my friend for a long time before you guys started dating. Unfortunately he doesn't seem to realize we all have lives that don't revolve around him. If I already have plans and a stacked day, I can't just bail on stuff and hang out because he wants to. Yes, he has flaws too... and they don't look so cute and innocuous when your on the other end of it. One way or another things will work themselves out though, and I know I won't be on the short end of the stick. BTW, not sure about the lipstick and makeup....

Well, well, well... looks like we will both be in a meeting tomorrow afternoon. Pretty much first time face to face in an extended setting since early December. I'm actually quite looking forward to this to see how stable the positive vibes I've had within myself recently are. Are you? I guess we will find out. You dating one of my friends, and having to potentially face each of you at work daily is forcing me to be comfortable in my own skin and not needing an ego boost from anyone but myself. This might be the first time in 15 years I can say that. You and 'K' I'm sure are happy.. but this is a blessing in disguise for me. So many great things have already started going my way since my mindset has changed to a positive manner, and more things are surely on the way. This would never have happened if you two hadn't started dating ... so while the short term it was bit of a shot to the ego, this just might have been the life altering event I needed to figure out many things internally that have held me back. Not contacting you is easy now. At one point I worried that you were mad at me... but not anymore. My path is my own now, and I'm so comfortable with myself that I wouldn't trade places with anyone in the world. I don't hope anymore... I just know good things are on the way. I'll see you tomorrow, should be interesting

Just hit day 30 again with the girl, 11 with her guy (my buddy).... I think I'm going to stop counting as at this point, counting is just keeping me in the past. Really, this is all about me. Not them. Thinking about them is a source of negativity; and I firmly believe like attracts like. So my mindset will be positive and any interactions at work will be postitive but business as usual. Free of the tethers that I had around them, the future will almost certainly bring great things.

I just woke up from a dream (or nightmare?) of a big party at my friends house. As he left for a smoke, you gave him a kiss that was distinctly yours. Now I dread going into work running into either one of you.

Day 23 - ex gf Day 4 - ex-friend (her new bf) Though it's been a little over 2.5 months since the break up, this week was monumentally difficult. Having to deal with the news that a mutual friend - who I've been close buddies with for 8 years or so - dating her as of a month ago burns me hard. Telling me a month after the fact... just totally disrespectful.

Not sure of the day at the moment... but have a lot of anger a hostility towards the ex and my "friend" who she is with now.

So this is it. It has finally gotten to a point that I've lost respect for both of you. No matter what happens, my friendship with your new guy (and who was my longtime friend) is forever scarred and will never be the same; I don't know how much or if it can be repaired. But I'm too old for these games, and don't have time for people who don't show me the level of respect that I show them. Good Luck; who knows if either of you will even miss my presence in your lives, but i'm more than prepared to cut you both out for good so that I don't have to worry about it.

Thank you, I do appreciate it. Funny thing is I've been through breakups that were worse and I actually was moving forward quite nicely... until this. I'll just have to suck it up and be professional; I've worked there for over a decade and enjoy my job (except this) and am pretty well respected in what I do. Not sure I'll be able to easily find a job that provides such as this does either. That part I've actually had to deal with in the past and it isn't impossible. Heck it wasn't even that long of a relationship. The toughest thing thinking about this 3/4ths of a day later is the real possibility of losing my friend for good over this... as well as the possible splintering of our group of close knit friends. Time will tell I suppose. You can do this Melting.. I work in a situation as well that is certainly not fun.. but you can do this; not saying it is easy though

so how is this going to turn out? You've done a great job driving a wedge between two old friends. Of course, my "friend" seems to have made his choice as well.

Sooooo.... you and one of my long time best friends decided to date? Not even a month and a half after the BU that didn't really end on good terms. My head is all over the place.. i feel so betrayed by you and my friend. I've never really been in a worse post BU situation. I hope my friendship isn't burned down just like our doomed dating experience.