Jump to content

confusion123

Members
  • Posts

    28
  • Joined

confusion123's Achievements

Explorer

Explorer (4/14)

  • First Post
  • Collaborator
  • Conversation Starter

Recent Badges

1

Reputation

  1. hmm well all women are different i guess...but personally the i dont think anything feels better than to be loved. Money doesn't do it for me but being loved means that you can be happy. Thats not to say that its always smooth sailing, but if somebody loves you they do their best to make sure your always smiling content....what more can you ask for?
  2. hey jade, first of all id just like to say that you must have a lot of patience!! I do not blame you in the least for being upset or jealous, and to answer your question, no i do not think your doing the right thing! 21 and sitting on his lap=UNACCEPTABLE I believe that the stepdaughter is only partially to blame. The reason being is that her father "lets her". I do understand that she may be very out of control and spoilt if you like, but if he doesnt want her sitting on his lap then he wouldnt have her there! Your bf needs to set limitations as to how far she can go...if he respects the relationship between you two, then he would have the decency to at least speak to her firmly about what is and what is not acceptable. It's not rocket science. I don't think you should get him to choose between you or his daughter. However, marrying a man who has a daughter who is 21 and acts the way you have explained, well that would be the biggest mistake of your life. By the sounds of things, there is no gaurantee that she will change, and your bf isnt helping much (with all your respect he seems to have a weak personality and i believe that if he really wanted her to stop what she is doing he could achieve that...it's YOUR house! guess who's in charge? guess who makes the rules?) However the decision is yours? but i urge you to make your decision based on what logic tells you, not just with your heart. sorry to be harsh but just be careful Hope this helps
  3. hmmm well your not giving enough information...really it depends on the girl and her personality. If this is her usual behaviour then maybe not. Ask yourself: 1) Does she treat others in the same way that she treats you? 2) What are her facial expressions and gestures like when she's playing around with you 3) Does she play around in a flirtatious manner (it sounds like she that might be a yes!) 4) Does she make comments which hint to you that she is interested? After answering the above questions what she thinks about you should be made very clear!
  4. well like rasinbow has suggested...it depends on the girl. In general though, when it comes to muscles and body build..well your right in saying that many girls myself included dont like the overly bulky. "Toned" is the way to go, so that your muscles are not protruding when your not flexing. Just shapely and with curves that are not "too" defined is often what girls would go for... As for the face well again it depends..but usually having nice eyes can be really attractive and eye-catching..but if the guy has other feautures which stand out more (great lips or a nice smile for example) then your attention will probably be drawn to that feature. I know your not after the personality tips, but amany people do underestimate its significance. I say this because i have associated with guys who i once believed to be really attractive...after i discovered their true self the attraction faded and i no longer viewed them as being good looking (it was as though i wasnt speaking to the same person anymore) and as cliche as it may sound "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and such a concept is really important and shouldnt be ignored! hope this helps
  5. Well i am an 18 year old girl and almost a year ago now...i met my internet partner (who is 23) and everything has been really serious between us. I know that age is not a factor for him (although sometimes he makes me feel as though he knows better) and he says he loves me more than i can imagine and i think i believe him. He seems to always be putting me first and is often concerned about my well-being and safety so i know that he really cares about me and is totally commited....i feel very strongly about him But lately he has been making statements like "well i think its because you haven't had much life experience" and "who knows, when you go to university you might meet some nice guy". Well both of these statements may have a degree of truth, but sometimes it makes me feel as though he isnt as serious as i thought or wouldnt be bothered if i met somebody else...that really hurts me because i would be really heartbroken to loose him..he also has the attitude of "well if u meet somebody else, then its probably not meant to be" and it makes him seem even more carefree, yet i know and believe that he truly loves me (through his actions and how he treats me generally). So basically i feel like he contradicts himself and im confused as to how he really feels and what he wants. The weird part is that he seems 100% committed to me and he does his best to keep me happy but them seems like he doesnt care at the same time... I dont know if im overly analysing the situation but i do have a few questions... 1) Do you think he would be hurt to loose me to another "nice guy"? why or why not? 2) Is he making comments like the ones above to maybe observe my reaction, or does he mean them? 3) Are the things he says reasonably normal to any guy and no big deal? 4) What do u think i should do? all feedback is greatly appreciated
  6. well i understand and accept that different people have varying beliefs, morals and values but personally i do not believe a threesome is the way to go for multiple reasons... i just think you should consider all consequences before actually taking the act...ask yourself: 1) how would i feel watching my wife being so intimate with somebody other than myself and how would it make her feel? 2) do my wife and i share a special "bond" as gilgamesh has suggested, that could be destruyed by having a threesome? 3) Could this jeprodise our relationship in the long-term? The above are few of many questions which are imperative to at least consider...although it may seem that i am fussing over absolutely nothing, it is important that you realise how much damage can result from one simple act of having a threesome.....just be careful and think about what you have with your wife before making a decision!!
  7. thanks for your reply gilgamesh and just for the record i prefer small labia minora too (no pun intended ) and im pretty sure any guy would...and im not so sure id go as far as to have surgery like im too embarressed to even have a check up let alone be operated on...it really bothers me but oh well life goes on i guess...and thanks for your replies too itsabigfatsecret really appreciate it
  8. well the labia minora are on the outside...they are sort of like the inner lips rather than inside the actual vagina...i was very young when i started like 10 or 11 and playing with the labia over time stretched it...its totally yukkk i know but im too embarressed to see a doctor about it like its not something i could ever do
  9. well to answer your questions... im turning 18 soon, ive never had sex or had any sexual experiences apart from masturbation so no guy has ever commented on it, ive only ever used fingers and i havent really compared it to anything but i just feel it...like they never used to be that gross
  10. ok well many people will probably find this really off putting and disgusting so if your that type than stop reading now.. im a girl...and im finding that my labia minora (inside lips of the vagina) are really stretched out, large and wrinkly. I'm almost positive that this is because i started masturbating at a young age and always played with myself down there. I'm as grossed out as everybody else reading this and i hate myself for it..but there isnt much i cant do about Does anybody else have this problem? is there anything i can do to get my vagina looking a bit better?? and i also wanted to know how disgusted a guy would be by this? like i no its really revolting but would it stop a guy from wanting sex or wanting to be with me even if they love me?
  11. well personally, not for a second do i believe that he wasn't going to respond. He probably just sid that to sort of casualise the tone as if it was "no big deal" that you emailed him....when really he was quite excited. But like Mandy said, i dont think you should overanalyze the situation, and if you are in fact wondering if he would reconsider being with you, well i dont see why you would want to be with someone who divorced you..i mean that must tell you something for him to bring himself to do that. Hope this helps
  12. hey wolfy, well there are good and bad of everything, including women i just think you need to look in the right places..and i hope you dont take this the wrong way but i dont see how not drinking and partying makes you unique? Well the reason i say this is because i have never partied, never drink/smoke etc and i dont intend o doing so.. but i dont feel particularily unique My point is there are many women that are not into that kind of thing, yet they are able to respect those around them. Like the others have said, i agree that it's great that you've stood up to her, and you never know she might get the point and if you feel strongly enough about her things might work out for you guys. At least she'll know what your standards and limitations are and hopefully change for the better. All the best
  13. hey crinklecat, i am only 17 (turning 18) however, i can really relate to what your describing but its more my dad than my mum. I have always felt distant from my dad, and it isnt because he is a bad person, its just certain qualities and characteristics he has that i dont possess myself. My father is the controlling type...the type where its "my way or the highway". Things like taking my cup to the sink as you were saying...that can turn into a big argument and thisis often the case. Little things like me forgetting my thongs in the living room or leaving a book in his little study room can turn into a much bigger deal than what it is. He can never let things pass or just be...and always seems to be complaining. When i was younger nothing irritated me more than my father. I didnt understand why he fussed over things which were just so insignificant in the course of life. Well it still bothers me but i am starting to learn how to control my temper. Heres the trick.... I think its a good idea to research your mums past...and in saying her "past" i mean the way she was raised and brought up. I found that my dad had adopted many of these irritable characteristics from his father who was very much like my father, apparently only worse. This may seem silly, but identifying possible reasons as to why your mum is like that may help you in sort of empathising with how she is feeling and not get so angry with her. It is a slow process but it does work. I am starting to learn that this is how my dad has been raised and trying to change him now isnt going to work. I think you need to just learn to accept the way she is...because whether she being nice, friendly, loving caring or distant well it is difficult to change her at this stage of her life. There are probably certain things that you know really get on her nerves, although they shouldnt. maybe try to avoid doing these things just for the sake of keeping the peace. Just try it, by the sounds of things you have nothing to loose. All the best of luck hope this helps My p
  14. hey eve, i couldnt agree more with lokagirl..I know what its like to be jeaolous and i know that its a really bad feeling. What i dont understand is why do you let him treat you this way?I mean he clearly stated to you that nothing you could do was going to stop him from seeing this girl. This tells me a couple things 1) you are not his priority...not even close 2) He has no respect for you or your feelings 3) you are obviously not satisfying his desires I dont know how and why somebody would put up with that. You also said that you hand broken up with him a couple of times and you always accepted him back...well i believe that is just another reason for him to use you as his back up plan and disrespect you (im sure that a lot of the time he is thinking "ah well even if she breaks up with me surely she'll take me back".....which is probably true but you need to change that!!!) My advice would be to break up with him once and for all. The fact that he was not willing to discuss such an issue with you tells me that he knows he is guilty and doesnt want to talk about it....who likes admitting they are being a major !!*#$%??? This boy needs a lesson and i suggest that you give it to him!!! hope this helps
×
×
  • Create New...