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Compelled to Control
Recovering Intimacy in Broken Relationships
by J. Keith Miller
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Paperback: 250 pages
Publisher: HCI; Revised (April 01 1998)
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Introduction
Something is wrong in America. A great, unseen vibration is shaking the country, causing ripples-then waves-of anxiety, stress, anger and shame. These waves sweep across boundaries of race, gender, class and education into the lives of almost everyone.

Discovering the Compulsion to Control
You're controlling my life! Sue shouted at Roger. Her face was contorted, beams of hot, red anger shooting from her eyes. You interrogate me about every dime I spend and then you go out and buy a brand new set of golf clubs.



Book Description

This exciting book breaks new ground in identifying the major cause of relationship failure as the need to control - in marriages and families, with friends and within organizations. Compelled to Control reflects Miller's sweeping knowledge as a thinker, a speakers and a writer. Going far beyond “how to control a controller,” Miller speaks from the perspective of experience and personal change.

“When a controller has the sense of life being out of control,” he says, “he or she reacts with an even stronger need to 'get things under control' …usually with the negative result of alienating the people who matter the most.” Miller tackles this deeply denied, seemingly universal phenomenon with compassion and offers a way out of the dilemma. He tells who to approach broken relationships in new ways, leaving behind destructive patterns of perfectionism and self-justification.

Keith miller is one of those rare writers who can combine intellectual acuity with deeply felt insight born of his own struggle for authenticity. Compelled to Control is an impressive contribution to the literature of recovery and personal change.

About the Author

J. Keith MillerJ. Keith Miller

J. Keith Miller is one of the nation's most widely known and respected inspirational speakers and authors. He is an oil entrepreneur-turned-author with degrees in business administration, theology and psychological counseling. Miller has more than 15 books to his credit with over 4 million copies in print. His books include facing Co-dependence and Facing Love Addiction, both of which he coauthored with Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miler; A Hunger for Healing; Hope in the Fast Lane; his classical spiritual guide, The Taste of New Wine; and The Secret life of the Soul.

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