Book Description

Traveling across the United States, Eric Marcus met and interviewed forty gay and lesbian couples who have achieved the dream of a happy, lasting relationship. In Together Forever, Marcus writes about their lives and the secrets to long-term happiness these couples have learned over the nine to fifty years they've been together.

From Together Forever:

On Meeting: "I said to myself, 'That's it.' I don't know what 'it' was, but there was just something that was apparent to me right then—it was just a very deep sense of recognition that something was there that you had looked for all of your life. And it was there when you least expected it. "—Anyda, eighty-six

On Difference: "The icing on the cake was after we had sex, after this very lovely experience with Curt, he said, 'Do you want milk and cookies?' And I thought, He's like a big girl, you know? And we're sharing vanilla wafers and milk in bed. And I finally got it at that point. That leather coat, the jeans, everything, it was just a fashion statement. "—Brian, thirty-five

On Monogamy: "I really believed in nonmonogamy as an ideal... I still think if we worked really hard on making nonmonogamy work, we could probably do it, but I can probably learn Chinese, too. Look, I'm a vegetarian, but I still have a leather couch. No one's perfect."—Lindsy, fifty-two

On What Makes a Happy Relationship: "I feel that it's the same secret between a gay couple or a lesbian couple as a heterosexual couple. It's sharing. It's giving a little, taking a little. Because if everything is going to be only about me, me, me, it's not going to be a good relationship. "—Stewart, forty-four

Most people long for a lasting love relationship. The couples in Together Forever have found it. Their experiences offer lessons to us all.

About the Author

Eric Marcus

Eric Marcus is the coauthor, with Greg Louganis, of Breaking the Surface, the number-one New York Times bestseller. He is also the author of several books, including Is It a Choice?: Answers to 300 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gay and Lesbian People; The Male Couple's Guide: Finding a Man, Making a Home, Building a Life; and Making History: The Struggle for Gay and Lesbian Equal Rights, 1945-1990.

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