Two Choices: Works or Grace?
You have only one life to live, and you have a right to enjoy it. But one of the main things that will keep you from enjoying your life is works of the flesh. Works of the flesh are attempts to accomplish through your own energy things that are God's job.

Works That Don't Work
The Word teaches that God's people dug wells for themselves that couldn't hold water: My people have committed two evils: they have forsaken Me, the Fountain of living waters, and they have hewn for themselves cisterns, broken cisterns which cannot hold

Don't Work To Change Others
As I said before, I tried so long to change my husband, but it never really helped. As a matter of fact, it only made things worse because people rebel when they know someone is trying to remodel them. People want to have the freedom to be who they are.