Tony Schirtzinger; ACSW, CICSW

Tony Schirtzinger, ACSW is a licensed therapist in Milwaukee. He works with a wide variety of people dealing with any topic, rather than specialize in any one field. He offers e-mail advice and telephone counseling as well as in-person therapy in his Milwaukee clinic. For more information please visit Tony's website at http://helpyourselftherapy.com, where you can find articles on a remarkably wide variety of topics related to personal growth, as well as contact information.

Articles
Clear Communication : Part 1 I am going to be telling you about some tricks you can use to communicate clearly with anyone. I call them tricks because most people do not know about them and because they often work so powerfully that they seem to give you an unfair advantage.
Feeling Like You Belong We all want to have the sense that we belong among people we know. You belong where YOU say you belong! The decision about whether you belong with others is your decision, not theirs. In the adult world, we are seldom kicked out or excluded from any
How To Talk About Feelings THREE DECISIONS: Whenever we have a chance to talk about our feelings, we make three quick decisions. We Decide: Whether To SAY What We Feel. Whether To EXPRESS The Feelings. Whether To WORK AT PROBLEM SOLVING. We usually make these decisions
Getting Enough Attention "HE'S ONLY DOING IT FOR THE ATTENTION" What a ridiculous statement! Getting attention is VITAL for all of us. As infants we would actually die if we didn't get enough attention, and as adults we are miserable and can actually go crazy i
Bigotry A MILLION KINDS OF BIGOTRY: Racism is only one form of bigotry. It is ugly and perverse and does tremendous damage to everyone blinded by it, but these same effects can be seen from ALL kinds of bigotry. Families and cultures teach bigotry against
Why Are You Treated The Way You Are? 95% Of The Time, We Get Treated The Way We INVITE People To Treat Us. Everything we do, especially our nonverbal behavior, is an invitation to those around us. A smile is an invitation. So is a frown. So is a sad face, an angry face, or a serious face
Personal Boundaries The concept of boundaries relates to our sense of self. At birth and for a long while after, a baby has no real sense of who they are. The worst example of being owned is physical or sexual abuse. Paradoxically, being treated like we are not there can
Helping A Friend Who Is Hurting Sometimes we want to be helpful to an adult friend who is feeling bad. How can we offer personal help to a friend? How can we guard against damaging our relationship with them in the process? THREE GUIDING PRINCIPLES: Do you really WANT to help?
Who Can You Trust? In the general population about one out of ten people are completely untrustable. They are called cons and they live by these rules: 1) Only fools tell the truth. 2) If you can get by with it, it is OK. 3) Joy and love do not exist.