How To Go About Kissing Her

by adolescent-adulthood.com

Yes, kissing is an art form. The kissing experience is different for each of us but the basic fundamentals of kissing remain the same.

The first step in kissing is known as "Getting into position". The second step is called "Finding her comfort level" and the last step, the last step... well, I leave that to your imagination.

Getting Into Position

Now, there are many ways of getting into a good position for a satisfying kissing session.

The keyword here is flexibility. If you are driving her home, it is a good idea to get out of your driver's seat, walk over to the other side, open the passenger door, and accompany her to her porch/apartment door.

If she declines, just tell her that, "I just want to see you up safely". That saves face.

If you both happen to be watching TV on the couch, arrange it such that she is comfortably wedged at the end of the sofa, her body leaning on the sofa's arm while he is seated at her side. This way, she will not be able to edge away from you when you try kissing her.

Finding Her Comfort level

This involves gauging whether she is ready for the kiss. Remember, there are always other options.

You could avoid kissing altogether: a little gesture to remember the occasion with, a nice bow with a flourish, a good handshake (although personally, it feels really weird shaking your date's hand. A pat on the shoulder perhaps, but a handshaker?)

Well, I guess it is a matter of taste, really., a wave goodbye, a gentle caress of her cheek. You could make it a neutral kiss: throw her a kiss, kiss her hand, kiss her cheek, a quick peck, kiss your finger and touch it to her lips. And of course, there's the kiss.

In general, you should follow everything mentioned in Dating, Ending the date. If you are going to tell her you are going to call her just to have something to say, do remember to call.

Most men do this (Even I am guilty of this one. Never mind, it just means she will call me and gripe about it. At least then we will have something to talk about) and it drives girls crazy because guys never do call.

How to Kiss Her

But I digress. Now, back to the kissing stuff... When you are alone with her on her porch/door, place your arm around her in a gentle, non-threatening way. If she does not cringe away from you or push your arm off her, you can proceed to the next step. Next lean your head against hers, appearing to rest it.

She should do the same. Then take your hand from hers, make a shape like you were going to pull the trigger on a gun. DON'T whatever you do, firm your hand, relax.

Let it flow. Place the tip of your index finger ( the tip = the joint farthest from you hand ) under her chin and lift her head to your mouth. Do all this in slow motion. She will remember it better if you do it slow. Don't rush it. Kiss as though you have all the time in the world. But don't prolong a kiss beyond its natural life.

If she pushes you away, she is just not ready. Do not push your luck and never ever push your way hoping to get "lucky". You can always end things is by giving her a nice big hug.

We (us Americans) seem to have become a nation of huggers (why not a nation of kisses like in France? They kiss for everything there. They kiss to say good morning, they kiss to say hello, life is so unfair.)

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