Dear Samantha,
I don't think you're doing any harm. The foreskin is lined with a mucus membrane which helps to lubricate the end of the penis. As long as he enjoys it, go for it.
Joan
Joan,
My new boyfriend isn't circumcised and I notice that when I try to perform oral sex, there's a bad smell. From everything I read, it's just because he's not cleaning himself well enough. How can I tell him? I really care for him and I want to do these things, but I'm really repelled by the odor.
Jane
Dear Jane,
Telling a man that he's not "kissing sweet" is always difficult. You might blame it on your unusually heightened sense of smell that's "Always given you a problem." If that's too difficult, try making love in the shower or tub. You can wash his penis as part of foreplay and then perform oral sex. He might get the message.
You also might cover the odor with chocolate syrup or whipped cream. However, there's no substitute for just telling him. Since most men, your lover included, really enjoy receiving oral sex, I would think that if there's something he needs to do to make it easier for you, he'll probably be more than willing.
Remember to be sure not to blame him. Keep it light so he doesn't get his feelings hurt or get defensive. If it doesn't improve, I'm sorry to say that you might have to leave oral sex out of your lovemaking.
Joan
On Vasectomies
Dear Joan,
I'm considering having a vasectomy. I've visited my doctor and gotten all the information I can. There's one thing they don't tell you. Can you tell me whether a woman can notice the difference when she gives head?
Tommy
Dear Tommy,
In my varied past, I've probably been with men who had had vasectomies, but I've never been able to tell that from the look or taste. I have gotten a few letters from other women on that subject.
Dear Joan,
My husband had a vasectomy after the birth of our last child and it was the best decision that we have ever made. I'm here to report that almost nothing is different! I truly enjoy oral sex and was somewhat concerned about possible changes, but if there is a difference in taste or amount, I can't tell. The only difference is the appearance. Due to lack of sperm, his semen is now practically clear instead of milky white.
Shirley
Dear Joan,
My now ex had a vasectomy after our third child was born. It was a while before we could do anything after the procedure, and when we finally did get back to our "playtime" I did not find any difference in the taste or quantity. He did seem to be more sensitive in the scrotum area (where the cuts are made). I hope this information helps those with questions.
Pam
Dear Joan,
Yes, come does taste different after a vasectomy! Not better or worse, just different. If you have difficulty with the taste you might want your lover to drink pineapple juice, as it makes his come taste sweeter, but it takes a few weeks.
Eunice
Tommy, if you want to have it done, do it, and don't worry about the taste. It's obvious that the change, if there is one, is minor and certainly not unpleasant.
Joan
Male Nipples
Dear Joan,
Here's a strange question for you. In novels, men always seem to have sensitive nipples. Well, I've never noticed any man I've been with who's enjoyed any kind of nipple play. Have you?
Jeanine
Dear Jeanine,
I'll admit that I've never been with a man with sensitive nipples either. I did get a letter recently from a man who tells me his are very sensitive. I asked him to elaborate, and here's the letter he sent to me.
Dear Joan,
My nipples weren't always sensitive, but over years with my wife, they've become really hot. In the beginning she loved to play with them and it didn't really do anything for me. But as time passed, they began to get really erect when she did, and now all she has to do to get me in the mood is tweak me. Maybe it's just habit, or knowing that she's telling me she's in the mood for lovemaking. Who knows? Who cares?
Art
And here's one from a woman whose husband enjoys nipple play.
Dear Joan,
My husband just loves to have his nipples played with. At first I was surprised when his nipples became erect just like mine do, but I learned that his body seems to react the same way mine does in lots of ways. When he's excited his nipples swell, and so does another part of him (giggle). So now I tweak his nipples to get him hot.
One more thing we enjoy. Slow dancing in the living room, naked to the waist with our nipples rubbing together. What a blast!
Marla
Some men obviously get a thrill from having their nipples played with, so try it and see what reaction you get.
Joan
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