Penises, Part 2

Totally Private: Answers to the Questions Lovers Long to Ask
by Joan Elizabeth Lloyd

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Dear Ms. Lloyd,
I've been reading a lot about penis pumps and how they can make it bigger and harder. I know you've never tried one yourself (grin), but do you know anything about them? Do they work? Is it painful?
Lee

Dear Lee,
As you so correctly point out, I have no direct experience, but I have a few letters that might help. I can't, of course, vouch for the truth of any of the statements, but the letters seemed honest and informative, so I've included a few here for you.

Dear Joan,
My name is Andy and I'm a thirty-one-year-old man. Several years ago I decided to try a penis pump to increase the size of my cock. I really wanted the pump to work to make me bigger and sexier, so I did quite a bit of research before buying and trying. I read all the articles I could find, and all the advertisements; I watched videos and visited several websites (mostly devoted to gay men). I also visited a few chat rooms where men who used pumps gathered. All very interesting and educational.

I learned that most of the users of penis pumps were originally looking for a permanent increase in penis size, but finally understood that it just doesn't happen that way. If you get any permanent increase in size at all it will be only fractions of an inch with dedicated use for many, many months. Not what I had in mind when I began my search, but I pressed on.

I was told that, although most gains are temporary, there is a short-term increase in length and girth. For example, an erect seven-inch cock that is five inches around can increase to eight inches in length and six inches around with forty-five minutes of careful pumping.

Here are some of the things I learned about the pump itself. First, you have to have a good-quality cylinder that is the right size for the man's penis. Second, the pump has to have a safety bleed valve and a good pressure gauge calibrated in inches of water. To get the desired results, I also learned that I had to shave my balls and pubic area and use lots of lubricant on my entire cock and groin area to get a good vacuum seal.

I was still willing to give it a try, so with that information in mind I bought a really good pump and tried it out. Following the instructions, I started at a low pressure and built carefully to five inches of pressure. I once tried going to a pressure higher than the recommended limit of seven inches and I got several bruises as blood vessels in my skin burst. I'll never do that again. I gather that you can even get something called a "donut" below your corona from a swollen foreskin.

After several weeks of using the pump, I came to these conclusions. First, despite claims, the increase is not permanent. Like a lot of pumpers, I liked the feel of my swollen cock, and I must admit that a pumped cock hangs heavier for a while. And hang it does, because any pumping of reasonable length diminishes erectile function for a few days after the pumping session. Hmm. I stopped using it when this happened to me, since this wasn't what I had in mind at all.

Well, I still have the pump, a good one that cost me $150.00. For a while, I used it as a sex toy, and it always gets me super hard, but as I think about it now, I realize that I haven't used it in over a year. I guess the extra inches are just not worth the fuss and risk. A hand, mouth, or vagina is ever so much better.
Andy

Dear Joan,
I recently tried a penis pump and found out that I do not like it. Although I guess most men want some kind of permanent enlargement, I just wanted the pump as a sex toy. I thought it might make me temporarily harder or bigger, better able to satisfy my wife. We also thought it would add some kind of spice to our love life.

When it first arrived my wife and I couldn't wait to give it a try. We got it out of the box and started kissing and fondling each other. After I had gotten hard we decided to see what it could do. At first it was just uncomfortable, but as I continued to use it, it actually started to hurt. It pressed into my pubic hairs and groin area too much. We released the pressure and then gave it a few more tries. No luck. I never got any real pleasure from it at all.

In my opinion it was a total waste of money, but you never know until you try. We'll keep looking for ways to add that little something extra.
Anthony

I hope these letters answer most of your questions, Lee.
Joan

Dear Joan,
I have wanted to write to you for quite a while on the subject of small penises. My husband and I have been married for almost eight years, and we have a pretty good sex life, with one exception. His penis is quite small, only about five inches, and it just isn't enough for me. Before I met him, I went with a guy who was really large. I never measured, but I would estimate that he was about nine inches erect. I guess my body just grew accustomed to his size. When I started to go out with my now husband, it was unsatisfying, but I thought my body would adjust to him as it had to my "big guy." It didn't. Let me say right here that he's a great lover and he seldom leaves me unsatisfied. He's got great hands and a very talented mouth, so I usually climax. I just miss that wonderful "filled" feeling.
Any suggestions?
Bea

Dear Bea,
You freely admit that you've got a truly satisfying love life, which is so much more than many women can say. You've got a guy who sounds like a keeper. Do. If you occasionally long for a larger penis, get a gigantic dildo and play, either alone or with him. That might just scratch that itch.
Joan

Dear Joan,
I don't know whether you can answer this question, but when my penis is hard it curves to the right. Is there anything wrong with me? Will my lovers notice?
Thanks for any help.
Stuart

Dear Stuart,
If you aren't having any pain during intercourse, or at any other time, I wouldn't worry about it. Many penises curve naturally, and it shouldn't make any difference in your sexual response or hers. If it has always curved it will probably stay that way forever. If something has changed recently, however, although it can correct itself naturally in time, you might want a urologist to check just in case. If you are having any pain or any difficulties during intercourse, the curvature of your penis might be a result of something called Peyronnie's disease, a condition that a urologist, a doctor specializing in problems with the urinary tract, should be made aware of. The cause of Peyronnie's disease isn't known, and treatments vary from doing nothing to radiation to steroids to surgery. No one is sure whether any of these treatments actually cures the condition or improvement is a result of a spontaneous remission. Only your doctor can be sure of the cause of this problem and recommend treatment.
Joan

Dear Joan,
I've never had relations with a woman, but I'm worried. My penis curves downward and my balls seem to be larger than others I've seen. Why is that? Should I expect any problems during sex?
Dennis

Dear Dennis,
Your penis probably curves downward for the same reason a nose curves up or down. It's just the way your body was made. Likewise the size of your testicles. Genitals are no different than any other part of the body. They just are the way they are. As I've written to others, if you have any pain, discharge, or swelling, either during intercourse or at any other time, seek medical advice. Otherwise, just accept the way your body is and enjoy it. I know your lady-friends will.
Joan

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