1. Men are more sensitive than realize.
Most women don't believe me when I tell them this. Men statistically have a harder time coping with a breakup than do women. They are not biologically designed to have the capacity of processing through feelings like women. Because of this men have a hard shell around their heart that keeps them from getting hurt. They only open up that shell WHEN IT FEELS SAFE. Not when a woman is demanding for them to “Open Up.” A man feels safe when he thinks a woman understands him. They don't have to agree with them (even though that is nice), but they need to convey that they have considered his opinion. What often happens is many women want a man to open up and when he begins talking, they take over. Soon the conversation is focused on the woman and the man simply quits talking. In his mind, “What's the point?” Remember ladies, you are probably better at communication than most men. Because of this most men don't want to feel they are competing with you to talk. Help them out by listening and in time they will seek you out more.

2. How you think about yourself makes more of an impression on men than having a perfect body.
Men don't obsess about a woman's body has much has women think. I know you think I'm wrong but I'm not. Men certainly are more visual than women but what men notice about a woman is primarily her ability to be at ease around men. If she seems to like herself, men will have a much more favorable view of her. I have known women who were stunning to look at but once they opened their mouth and words came out, all desire for her evaporated. Most men are like this. One of the best ways to act confident is to ask questions. They don't have to be the funniest or clever, but simply show an interest in him (this works for wives has well). Someone who is pressing in to get to know us will always seem more attractive. Every man would tell you that they want to date/marry someone who is stunning. Yet many men tell me that they dated someone whom they did not initially think was their “type” but after they got to know them they couldn't imagine being with someone else. A woman who feels she is a good catch will have come across has relaxed. That quality is what men long to marry.

3. Men respond to a woman's invitation.
John Gray pointed this out well in his famous book, “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus,” that women send the signals and men respond to them. Yes, sending a signal is who a woman gives the man a “go” signal. Men need some indication that a woman will say yes before approaching her. This is often not the case in bars where guys go up to women whether there is a “you may approach me” signal and they have terrible results. Their hit to miss ratio is horrible. Women send signals whether they realize it or not, yet many women fear they will come across has “pushy,” or “easy.” Here is an “easy” way to let a guy know you are interested without walking up to him. It comes for the book, “Getting to I Do,” by Dr. Patricia Allen. It is called the 5 second stare. If you see someone you are interested in, look at him and simply stare at him for a FULL five seconds. Remember to smile when you do this. I promise he will get the message. The rest is up to him but you will definitely have let him know that it is safe to proceed.

Copyright by Bob Grant, L.P.C. 2004 All rights reserved.

About the Author

Bob Grant, L.P.C. is widely recognized as a leading expert on relationships. As a professional Coach for over 14 years, he has helped hundreds of clients in goal achievement. In addition to his hit book, "The Woman Men Adore… And Never Want To Leave." Bob has also been a frequent quest on the radio program, "Marriage and Family Today," in Atlanta, Ga. www.relationshipheadquarters.com More