Oh Fiddle-dee-dee, I'll think about it tomorrow!

By Kathryn B. Lord, L.C.S.W.

Does your approach to mate finding sound suspiciously like Scarlette O'Hara? Though Miss Scarlette's famous phrase was "I'll think about it tomorrow" that was most certainly not her strategy for finding a husband. Miss Scarlette was quite deliberate when it came to finding a man.

Deliberately looking for a romantic partner is not only terribly anxiety provoking, but also runs counter to our romantic ideals that True Love is just supposed to happen. Thinking about it tomorrow not only sounds like a good plan, it becomes THE plan. Day after day rolls buy, you do nothing, and nothing happens. Combine that with the admonition from others to stay busy and the demands of our fast-paced culture that you do just that, and an un-busy tomorrow never comes.

But days and time passing are your worse enemy in the mate finding arena. At the very least, you are getting older and older. The mate market does not favor age. In particular, each decade birthday marks a decided shift in perception of marriagability - particularly for women, but for men too.

• I haven't got the time. That's right, partially: You haven't got the time to WASTE.
• Maybe this summer, when my life slows down. That's what you said last year. And the year before.
• I have to lose weight first. That's what you said last year. And the year before.
• I don't know anything about computers. I hate to write. There's help. You can find someone to teach you. Ask me.
• I don't want to be rejected. I can help with that one too. You can learn to be grateful for rejection. Just ask me how. It's true.
• How will I tell them about...? You fill in the blank. Boy oh boy, can I help you with that one!
• I can't afford a) a romance coach, b) a computer, c) dating sites, d) a face lift. When was the last time that money got in the way of something you really wanted - or needed? I'll bet you can find a way to afford whatever it is you really want.

Have you considered that every day you don't do something proactive about finding your true love, you are deciding NOT to find him or her? No decision or no action is a decision and is an action. It's a decision NOT to find a mate that day, and it's NO action geared towards romance.

And when you stack those days up? No Sweetheart.

Is that really what you want?

If not, do something about it. If you don't know where to start, call me. Here's my number: 601-619-0030. That's a great place to start! And you can do it right now.

About the Author

www.find-a-sweetheart.com
I am Kathryn Lord and I am a CyberRomance Coach. I get people ready for love, help them find a Sweetheart using the Internet, then learn what they need to know for a relationship that lasts.