Sexual Projection

by Debora Myers

Sexual projection is the sexual energy you emanate to those around you. You may not even be aware of the message you are sending. Are you projecting lack, insecurity and neediness? Or are you projecting a strong, self-assured sexual dynamo? It isn't difficult to figure out which projection is the correct one for drawing what you want to you. Remember that a thought put forth is energy. We are electrical beings and our thoughts and feelings are like electrical currents that go out to the universe.

What is the message that you wish to project? Are you currently looking for a love partner? Or are you taking some time for yourself, for inner reflection and solitude? Think about what you wish to put out in your psychic beacon and guide your projection with positive thought.

Be careful not to let negative energy leak into your projection.

Steps for Projecting & Drawing a Prospective Love Interest

Take a quiet moment to write down what you are looking for.

Visualize yourself happy, full and complete. Visualize what you want and how you want to feel. Use the list you made earlier to help you. Try to imagine and feel the feelings you wish to draw to you. You must project the feelings that you wish to draw back to you. Do you wish to be adored, loved, respected, sexually ravaged? Imagine how it would feel.

Do what you must third dimensionally to help you in your creation process. If you wish to project a sexual dynamo then dress the part. You don't have to dress where you feel uncomfortable or like a ho or anything. Just dress and take care to do what makes you feel sexy and good about yourself.

Now take these thoughts and feelings and wrap them around you. Visualize them as an aura pulsing and surging, surrounding your body. Push the light or energy of your thoughts and feelings outwards. You first must feel them from within then push them out with your heart.

If you have shut down and cannot seem to get the energy up and flowing outward, you may have to deal with energy blockages that are holding your creation process back.

Childhood Sexual Abuse and Sexual Projection

Far, far too many of us have been sexually abused. The memories of childhood sexual abuse may be deeply buried within your subconscious. These memories can fester –blocking the natural flow of sexual energy. The results can be devastating, causing us to shut down altogether sexually. These blockages can result in low to no sexual desire, self-hatred and terrible feelings of guilt.

Sexual abuse affects us in different ways. The opposite of the shut down can occur. The sexual abuse may have the devastating affect of the sexual energy never shutting off. These victims of sexual abuse sometimes deal with these memories by becoming sexually promiscuous and end up projecting the fear, anger, self-hatred and guilt, leaking and projecting the pain to the world. What do we draw to us in such a state? We end up drawing an angry, guilty, fearful person that hates himself back to us...(usually). Two wrongs rarely make a right. (Unless they are both willing to do the work and heal themselves.)

So it is imperative to reach out for help if we find ourselves in one of the above states of mind and body. We must do the work. I mean WORK. It is scary to face those issues and the old yucky feelings that go along with them. But if we don't we may never be able to have a healthy sexual life and love partner. Seek help from a professional. I have hesitated to share my story because I felt I wanted to keep it to myself. As I analyzed my feelings on the subject I realized that even after years of therapy and "work" on the issue I still carried feelings of guilt and shame. So ladies I'm going to share this with you in the hope that those of you suffering from the same feelings can find the inspiration to ask for help. Sharing also helps me to let go of the shame.

I was sexually molested for two or three years when I was little, I think I was 6 & 7 years old. In my early teen years I remember the girls talking about what the first time would be like. I can recall several girls talking about how they were going to wait until they were married to have sex so that it would be special etc. I remained very quiet during these talks but on the inside I was fuming. I can recall thinking, "What am I waiting for, I'm already ruined. I actually felt like I had been ruined. I carried that black cloud around with me for many years. Luckily, when I went to marriage therapy with my first husband, I started to figure out why I had been so angry. I started to realize that my marital problems were not all his fault. I had begun my long journey into healing that sweet blond little girl with the big smile and green eyes. I learned to forgive my abuser. After years of work I learned to love myself and grow into a strong and self-assured woman. It just takes perseverance.

About the Author

Debora Myers is editor and co-founder of