Kathryn B. Lord, L.C.S.W.

As much as we all feel that we want a Sweetheart, it is darned scary to actually put yourself out there. So often when I tell people what I do, I get responses that sound like, *Oh, that is so interesting, I'd love to hear more about it. I really would like to find a mate, BUT....* and then come a zillion reasons why they haven't or won't.

If you are reading this, you probably are at least THINKING about going looking. But take a half step towards it, and your fears jump forward, ready to trip you and beat you back over the line to safety.

I want to hear more! Send me (kathryn@kathrynblord.com) any reason that you can think of why you shouldn't go about finding yourself a Sweetie.

50 Ways to BLEEP Your Lover!

1. I have to lose a few pounds first.
2. I just started a new job and am too stressed.
3. I just lost my job and am too stressed.
4. I have to pay off a few bills first.
5. I want to wait 'til my kids are out of the house (they are 6 and 10 now).
6. My parents just died and I need to heal for the next 20 years.
7. I have no track record with eligible and appropriate men so why ruin a perfect record?
8. I might get a nibble with the cyberdating thing and then what excuse would I have!
9. Yeah, I may have lost 51 pounds, but I still have 30 to go and I never found the profile that says their ideal date has 5 pounds of extra skin on her belly!
10. I might have to go to funeral in two weeks.
11. I have to shampoo my hair.
12. I have to shampoo my dog.
13. I have to shampoo my carpet.
14. Since my wife left me, I'm not sure whether I'm most attracted to men, women, or animals...
15. I might actually get what I say I want, and then what?
16. But then again, I don't know what I want, so that shouldn't be a problem.
17. I just don't have time right now to get into a relationship. (But of course I won't give up my soaps and romance novels.)
18. It is not the time to try and blend a family.
19. Men can't be trusted.
20. They're already married.
21. If they are nice, they are gay.
22. They are still living with Mom.
23. I sure would like to have a partner, but I like things just the way they are.
24. I'd have to take off my clothes?
25. I want to love and be loved, but that means caring and risking getting hurt, and I don't want to get hurt.
26. I'd never be able to make space in my closet.
27. I don't want to give up my freedom, have to account to anyone.
28. I wouldn't want anyone who would want me.
29. You mean, go on a date? I haven't been on a date in 23 years!
30. I don't have time.
31. I'd have to clean my house.
32. What would I wear?
33. And make my dog sleep on the floor?
34. I have to walk the cats.
35. My library needs reorganizing.
36. I have to cross-index my videos and DVDs.
37. I have to mow the lawn first.
38. My belly button is full of lint!
39. Still healing from a previous relationship breakup (never mind that it has been 4 years!!)
40. My ex wouldn't like it.
41. He says that this time, he'll leave his wife as soon as she has the baby.
42. My roommate is more attractive than I am.
43. I don't have ESPN.
44. My tan has faded.
45. I'm waiting for the sale at Victoria's Secret.

Tags: Finding Love and Soulmate

About the Author

www.find-a-sweetheart.com
I am Kathryn Lord and I am a CyberRomance Coach. I get people ready for love, help them find a Sweetheart using the Internet, then learn what they need to know for a relationship that lasts.