Depression: Its Causes and What You Can Do About It

by Loren Parks

Of all the mental health maladies, some depressions and phobias are the easiest to cure or at least make them so they are no longer a serious problem. It takes only a matter of seconds in some cases such as guilt following an abortion or other death, but usually there are a bunch of upsetting incidents in one's life that you have to get disconnected from emotionally. And you don't do that with chit-chat with a therapist or trying to reason.

The subconscious has to be given commands (suggestions) that are acceptable to the conscious mind. The only way I know to do that on untrained subjects is by voice, either in person or recorded. And usually you have to find several incidents of rejection or guilt or betrayal or whatever and disconnect emotionally from all of them. Time to get on with your life and live for the future, not letting yourself use the past as an excuse to feel bad and create problems for those around you.

To disconnect old emotional baggage you should play the streaming audio or hear the automated telephone therapy several times choosing different targets. My experience with people who've done that is the depression gradually lifts, and sometimes rather quickly.

By all means, disconnect yourself from emotional upsets you experienced with family members and former lovers. If your father was abusive or hurtful when you were young but you get along with him OK now or he's out of your life, do the disconnect of father (or mother) or if either died disconnect from them. The good feelings will remain, but the trauma of the illness and death will be much lessened. The message only disconnects the upsets, not the good stuff. When you've hit the right target, you'll likely feel lighter. This is extremely important.

Another reason to do the disconnect exercises for mother and father is that they were your disciplinarians as a young child and we ALWAYS disconnect the earliest emotionally upsetting experiences we can find. Next, disconnect love affairs gone bad, starting with the earliest, by disconnecting a person. Then disconnect any other person with whom you've experienced an upset.

Look, UPSETS of various types are the main causes of depression. DISCONNECT them! They're over and done with! You don't want them dragging you down. The memory will be there but that's not a problem. The emotions will be gone if you target the right upsets with my voice exercises. Then you should feel better, immediately. Your down periods will be shallower and farther between. If you're suicidal, seek professional help.

You must realize that if you are now in an upsetting situation, which includes loneliness and worry, you have to take care of those things yourself.

Chronic depression, in my experience, is the easiest to work with because its roots are from long ago — stuff that is over and done with as a rule. Like being born a girl when they wanted a boy, or vice versa. It's common to find that a mother told her child "I wish you'd never been born." Makes you feel good all over, doesn't it? Oddly, the death of a beloved pet does tremendous damage to some, often involved in allergies. You have to take all these things out, whether you think you're over them or not. And if grandma is the only one who loved you and she's gone, disconnect her and you'll get the funeral too. If you lay guilt on yourself because you didn't go or didn't get there soon enough or often enough before a loved one passed away, you have to get rid of that guilt. Guilt causes depression — and you do that to yourself. Get rid of it. You can't change the past. We all do things we wish we hadn't done.

The basic problem is that most depressed people are carrying excess baggage, old emotional upsets they don't consciously relate to the present, yet they have a telling effect. One unconsciously retrieves the emotions of the related event, but not the memory. When I do therapy personally, I always go first to the earliest depressing experiences and clean them out, even though they may have been forgotten. They still remain in the subconscious to a lesser or greater extent and exert their influences when triggered by current events.

It is not necessary to remember all the events or use hypnosis to do this. It is not necessary to tell the therapist anything about the event itself, only the people involved. (mother, father, former lover, etc.)

Easiest to alleviate is long-standing depression. If the cause is something that is over and done with for some period of time, like months or years, it's easier. Depression is almost always the result of numerous upsetting incidents from the past. In person or by phone, I take out the stresses one by one or grouped. I usually take out 8 or so for the average depressed person. I always ask "When did the depression start?" "Have you had an abortion?" (women). It gives me a starting point. "Did you feel your parents loved you as a child?"

Acute depression is often helped but because the condition causing it may still exist, results are not as good. This may require professional help or even drugs. I'm not sure ALL depression is psychological, but certainly most of it is.

Chronic depression is caused primarily from three things — rejection, guilt and loss of a loved one. What a doctor has said to you can cause feelings of HOPELESSNESS THAT MUST BE TAKEN OUT! You must realize that there have been cures of virtually all illnesses and psychological conditions. To retain an attitude of hopelessness means you think your knowledge is greater than that of anybody else in the world. That's ridiculous. How can having an attitude like that give you any chance of recovery. Attitude plays a primary part in getting well, and is probably more important than any other mental thing you can do. Keep hope alive!

Just today I worked with a man whose headaches never ceased. Without neck and shoulder tension that meant either guilt or allergy. He had been taking strong prescribed medication, usually twice a day. He was laying guilt on himself because he wasn't being as productive and industrious as he had been in the past (he was near retirement age, financially secure). I relieved some garbage from his past and took out hopelessness feelings. Then I asked him how his head felt. He said he didn't have a headache. I know he couldn't believe it. I told him to let sleeping dogs lie. We'll see how things go down the road (9-12-02)

Emotions come out of the subconscious mind. Therefore the subconscious must be REprogrammed to effect a cure.

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