Pleasuring Him, Part 2

by Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed.

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Worship your lover's penis. Okay I know this sounds silly, but there is nothing that will make your man feel more special. Look, learn and examine his penis as if it were under a microscope. Get to know every little inch, nook and cranny. Cherish it, love it and treat it special at all times. Pay close attention to your lovers cues that he will give you by facial expressions and sounds when you are pleasuring him. Take note of what he enjoys and give that to him on a regular basis. Concentrate on the areas you learn are most pleasurable for him.

Sometimes a man just wants a Fuck. There are times that men would just like to have the wild, uninhibited, dirty talking, down and dirty, nitty-gritty fucking without all the other tendings to that women enjoy. Give that to them once in awhile. But also remember that this should only take place some of the time. There should also be plenty of times when you are making love. There should be a balance of the two. If your lover wants to do nothing but fuck then there is a problem with intimacy here that needs worked out.

Many men's nipples are very sensitive and find that having them licked, sucked or touched softly can be very arousing. Try running your fingernails down his back as you suck his nipples. He will shiver with desire. Or stroke his shaft while softly kissing and nibbling on nipples.

Try giving your lover a shower and washing his hair for him and his body. Kiss him softly throughout the process. Pay extra special attention to his penis, scrotum and anus. This can be a very arousing form of foreplay for both of you.

Be the initiator sometimes. A man loves it when the woman lets him know how much she wants him and goes after what she wants. Tell him you must have him right now and be a little forceful. Tell him you want to be made love to (or if you prefer harder words (Fucked) or whatever words feel right for you and turn him on. Take him to an unexpected place, such as a back road in the car and take him right there on the spot or show up at his office unexpected and take him on his desk.(or anyplace where you won't get caught) This will light your man's fire for sure.

Ask your lover what he likes, what he enjoys, what feels good, what would enhance things for him and what he needs. Find out what he thinks is sexy, desirable, erotic and a big turn on. Get to know your partner inside and out. Don't guess at what you think he wants or needs. Listen to what he tells you and remember it so you fulfill his desires.

Write an erotic story for your lover. You can write about something you would like to do to them, or recount an especially hot special time you had together or write about one of his favorite fantasies. You can leave the story as present for him somewhere unexpected or read it to him in bed right before making love.

Make a list of his favorite role-playing fantasies and let him pick one each month that you can play out for him.

One of the most exciting activities for a man is to watch his woman satisfy herself. Let your lover watch you caress your own body. Touch your breasts, squeeze them, lick your own nipples, run your hand between your legs, and masturbate for him.

Take your mans fingers and one by one take them into your mouth and lick, kiss and suck them tenderly. Look him in the eyes now and then as you run your mouth up and down the fingers simulating oral sex. Slide your fingers between your legs and coat them with your juices and then stick them in his mouth. He will hungrily lick them off and this will excite him immensely to taste and smell you and the sensations produced while he is licking and sucking on your fingers will be exciting for you as well.

We are all very unique in regard to what feels good and satisfies us. If your partner tells you something that contradicts what I have said here, then listen to them and always follow their desires. Communication is the biggest factor to sexual satisfaction and intimacy in a relationship.

About the Author

Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., is a writer and sex educator/advisor specializing in sexual intimacy and erotic communication between couples to keep the spark alive. She holds a Bachelors degree in Psychology and a Masters degree in Counseling. Smolderingembers.com She is also the author of the New Hot Sex Guide for couples titled 'SMOLDERING EMBERS' Hot Erotic Stories and Sex Tips to Light a Couple's Fire.