Creating Your Love Haven

If you really want to feel bliss in your life, learn to integrate balance into all aspects of it. After all it is YOUR life! As you do that you can incorporate these same balances into your sexual life. This fall and winter I will give you an introduction to the Five Keys to Sexual Bliss. We will use the five pointed star of balance as our map.

The Five Keys to Lovemaking Magic and Sexual Bliss:

1. Creating an Environment that is a haven.
2. Creating a Physical Body that is healthy and receptive.
3. Creating an uncluttered Mind.
4. Creating Emotional balance.
5. Creating a Spiritual connection to the Creator

Your personal environment is a reflection of your inner self. Stop and take a look around at your home. What message does it reflect? What feelings does your surrounding den evoke? Is your personal environment comfortable? Is it pleasing to your senses? Is it conducive to your inner and outer growth? Is your love den sterile and cool or does it reflect warmth, heat and safety?

It is important to have an immediate environment where we feel safe and comfortable enough to be able to let down, tune into and hear our inner selves. As we work at eliminating the distracting aspects inside us we will begin to create an outer environment with fewer distractions and visa versa.

Are you currently living in an environment where your plans are sabotaged by the people surrounding you? Do you surround yourself with people that support you? Those that we associate with are also part of our environment.

Generally we have the power to choose with whom we live and associate with on a daily basis. By realizing that it is our choice to live among certain people we empower ourselves to take responsibility for our own lives and to stop blaming others for not reaching our potentials etc.

People even use their children as excuses not to excel, “I'd start exercising if I didn't have to pick up the kids.” Or “I'd love to take on that new job but my husband isn't comfortable with me working nights.” Are these excuses valid? Or are these excuses reflecting your fear of taking responsibility for yourself and your own choices?

So really take the time to look at your environment. Look at your choices of what and with whom you are surrounding yourself with. With daily meditation, learn to get in touch with the inner you and learn to define what it is you want from life, then draw up a plan on how you will improve your environment to suit those needs and goals.

Eliminate the peripheral garbage or abstractions in your thinking process and mind. Focus on the positive and the goal.

A-B-C, It is actually very simple. Nothing esoteric and mystical, the energy we put forth causes a reaction. So be careful and thoughtful about what you want from life and what you put out into the universe. Remember the old saying that cleanliness is next to Godliness? Well, there is a certain truth to the saying. No, I don't mean to imply that we should have that bottle of antibacterial goop with us everywhere we go to please our creator.

I'm implying that if we live in a clean and balanced way, which does not harm our earth mother and those that we share the planet with, we are thinking not only of ourselves but our inherent connection with everyone and everything.

Our environment and Haven is not only limited to our own personal den. As our consciousness awakens and expands we realize that earth is our haven and those we share the planet with are our brothers and sisters... all part of our familial environment.

We can expand farther out from there realizing our connection with other life forms, spirits and angelic type beings and different levels of consciousness out into an infinite universe. How exciting! Remember that we are co-creators and we must accept our roles and our responsibility for ourselves. At the same time we must also learn to go with the flow or not push the river of our Creation/God/Goddess' higher plan. There is a fine line between allowing the universe to flow though us and our conscious effort to create our own reality.

Balance Balance Balance!

We must learn to express our creativity, our love and create beauty in our love dens and in our physical appearances. Your sexuality can be reflected in your boudoir and self and vice versa.

Do you wish to heat things up in your love life? Then add some heat and warmth to your bedroom. Warm base-chakra and heart colors can add heat and depth: deep colors, oranges, reds, and magentas, wine, deep purples accented with blues. Add plants that are life affirming and oxygenate the room. Purchase or make soft cuddly pillows for comfort and propping! Add artwork to reflect your deepest feelings and desires. You may not be comfortable with blatant erotic images, but suggestions of sensuality, warmth and erotic creation energy can do wonders to inspire and help your Eros to unfold. The right lighting can add so much to atmosphere.

Remember that we are spirits living in a third dimensional world. We must integrate what we want and how we feel into the physical. That is what ritual is all about. Ritualize your lovemaking and sexuality. Practice and habit make for physical affirmations of what you want!! Just remember to always keep the positive aspects in mind when affirming. Focus on what you are creating. Not on what you feel you are lacking!

Your reflection is also shown in how you dress. Visualize how you want to look, or how you look in the spiritual plane. Now, how can you reflect that in the physical world? Today, go through your closet and clean out all the clothing that makes you feel less than desirable and frumpy etc. Take those old clothes, bless them with good energy and give them to your favorite charity thrift shop. As you shop for new items keep your visualization of your (real) self clear in your minds eye. Reflect that wonderful, loving, exotic, erotic spirit! By taking the initiative in the physical plane, you are in turn recreating and allowing your spirit to be free.

Recreate yourself and your environment to reflect beauty and love!