Sex and Bleeding

by Debora Myers

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Multiple orgasms are easier to reach for many women that have mild menstrual periods. Many women report a feeling of being totally open, full and in their power while menstruating. We know that we are extra sensitive during our menses. The stereotype of women being cranky and short tempered at this time is one reason we have been indoctrinated to avoid sexual intercourse while bleeding. Realize that sensitivity can work both ways. While speaking with women on the subject I have found that women that are comfortable with their bodies and bodily functions are more apt to enjoy a heightened sexual experience during their menses. Some of the ancient myths and traditions viewing the menstruating woman as "unclean..." have followed us throughout the generations and have perpetuated a subconscious fear for the menstruating woman. Semi-modern terminology such as "on the Rag" or "She's got the curse" show societies ignorance and repugnant attitude toward the bleeding woman. Menstruation was viewed as holy and sacred in matriarchal theologies. As the patriarchal religions came into power they showed a hysterical fear of menstruating women and of menstrual blood.

Myths from the early patriarchal religions perpetuated fear and distrust to the extent that from some cultures a man would lose his strength, vitality, wisdom, sight, and could even die from coming in contact with a bleeding woman. What wimps! Little did they know what they were missing. But my guess is that many women are so intensely sexual at this time that they outlasted their men in the bedroom, making the men feel belittled and weak in their virility.

The blood itself turns some people off. Most women bleed heavily the first three days accompanied by stronger menstrual cramping with light spotting toward the end of her menstrual cycle. These last two or three days of her cycle can be an exciting time for enjoying sexual intercourse. Subconsciously she knows that her chance of becoming pregnant at this time is unlikely, therefore allowing her to not worry about an unwanted pregnancy. (Reality shows us that one can become pregnant during her period, our bodies being unpredictable at times; so always make sure you are using some form of birth control if you do not want another pregnancy. Also remember to avoid sexual activities while bleeding if you are high risk for transmitting HIV or hepatitis.

The main point I'm trying to get across in this article is to honor your body and your inner self! Women are wonderful beings that have been put down for far too long! We must take back our power! We must demand that our men respect, love and cherish us. If we do not stand up for ourselves and each other the more aggressive (generally speaking) men will walk all over us, taking advantage of our nurturing, peaceful, creative natures. We must work together to overcome the negative attitudes that have squashed us for generations. With steadfast love, strength of spirit and most importantly by loving ourselves we can overcome oppression and fear based myths that have degraded women for too long.

About the Author

Debora Myers is editor and co-founder of