Nurture the red-blooded male in him

by Peta Heskell

Well adjusted, red blooded men like sex. Statistics say that they think about it at least every 7 seconds. If your man is attractive and sexy, the chances are he's going to notice other women and be noticed by them. Instead of trying to stop him, accept it as a part of what men do! If he comments on a woman's good looks, and you agree, say so. If you don't, say so too, and say it honestly and without envy. I've watched men I've been with and noticed them admiring women. I see this as a positive sign that he is a sexually healthy man and I smile knowing he is with me.

Flirt with him. Sure, you flirted with him when you first met, but do you still do it? If you don't you should. If you are intimate, you have a lot of material with which to lace your flirting. Tease him with memories of the passion you share. When you are apart, if it is appropriate, ring him, e-mail him or text him occasionally. Pop a note into his jacket pocket. Keep your communication sexy and short! Don't use a regular pattern like always ringing him at 4.30pm - the surprise goes and it just becomes an everyday occurrence. And keep your fingers off the repeat button. You could cause overwhelm. Unless he's very insecure, overwhelm makes a man uneasy. He may start to dream of 'boiled rabbits' and 'fatal attraction' and you'll find him pulling back.

Remind him about the sexual intimacies that you share and indulge in lots of touching, displaying or whatever turns you both on.

What comes to mind when you think about being a ' cook' in the kitchen, a 'hostess' in the living room and a 'slut' in the bedroom? If you are a well-adjusted female and sure of your own success, you can enjoy these roles too.

If you love to cook, do so and get off on him enjoying your food and if you don't cook just buy in what he likes and serve it to him. Nurturing his appetite is definitely one way to a man's heart!

Being a hostess doesn't mean smiling sweetly and plumping his pillows while he watches TV, It means being your vibrant, sociable and interesting self. It means welcoming him in. And if it pleases you to please him, then by all means plump his pillows and remind him of what is to come when he switches off the TV!

Being a 'slut' doesn't mean making him pay for sex or or treating sex as a chore, it means being wanton, desirous and sexy and it means being available for sex because you like it as much as he does!

Above all show him that you desire him. There is nothing guaranteed to make a man feel good towards you more than a wanton expression of your natural desire for him.

Submission to surrender

When you begin to follow these guidelines for nurturing your man, you may be surprised at how his attitude to you changes.

In the 60's car workers in the UK went on strike. Their wives set up a counter strike. They denied their husbands sex so that they would end the strike. I remember thinking they can't like sex much or they wouldn't be denying themselves.

About the Author

Peta Heskell is the Director of the Flirting Academy which runs classes