In Boys Should Be Boys, one of our most trusted authorities helps parents restore the delights of boyhood and enable today's boys to become the mature, confident, and thoughtful men of tomorrow. Boys will always be boys - rambunctious, adventurous, and curious, climbing trees, building forts, playing tackle football, and pushing their growing bodies to the limit as part of the rite of passage into manhood. But today our sons face an increasingly hostile world that doesn't value the high-spirited, magical nature of boys. In a collective call to let our boys be boys, Dr. Meg Meeker explores the secrets to boyhood, including

• why rules and boundaries are crucial - and why boys feel lost without them

• how the outdoors is still the best playground, offering the sense of adventure that only Mother Nature can provide

• the essential ways to preserve a boy's innocence (and help him grow up)

• the pitfalls moms and dads face when talking to their sons

• why moody and rebellious boys are not normal - and how to address such behavior

• how and when the "big" questions in life should be discussed: why he is here, what his purpose is, and why he is important

Parents are blessed with intuition and heart, but raising sons is a daunting responsibility. This uplifting guide makes the job a little easier.

I think of this book as sort of The Dangerous Book for Parents. The bestselling The Dangerous Book for Boys was full of fun information and projects that boys love but that too many of us have tried to deny them. Tree houses? Too dangerous. The boys might fall and break their arms. Insects and spiders? Yuck. And you want to teach them about hunting, how to make a bow and arrow, and great battles of history? Are you crazy? Actually, these are all things boys like, and there is no harm in them. As a pediatrician, I've seen plenty of boys with broken arms, spider bites, or who have scraped a knee playing soldier in the woods. But these are just part of growing up. Too many of us parents obsess about healthy diversions that active boys like to do, while not recognizing what is truly dangerous for our boys - like popular music, television, and video games that deaden their sensibilities, shut them off from real human interaction, impede the process of maturation, prevent them from burning up energy in useful outdoor exercise, divorce them from parents, and lower their expectations of life.

In this book I mean to cut through a lot of the misapprehensions, misinformation, and misleading assumptions that too many parents have. It's a book of practical advice based on my clinical experience, relevant scientific data, and the sort of common sense that too many of us managed to misplace from reading too many politically correct "parenting" books. My concern is not with what is politically correct, but with what is true and what is best for our boys. I've seen, and I've learned, that when it comes to raising sons, what is politically correct and what is true are often at opposite ends of the spectrum. I think it's time we put our sons first.

In this book you will learn how to raise healthy and happy boys - boys who are honest, courageous, humble, meek (in the sense of willingly withholding their power), and kind. There are secrets to raising such boys. Among these secrets are the big seven. I can mention them in passing here, but we'll look at what they mean and how to use them in the chapters that follow.

• Know how to encourage your son. One fault is babying and spoiling him. But another is being so harsh that you lose communication with your son and destroy his sense of selfworth. We'll look at how to strike the right balance.

• Understand what your boys need. Guess what? It's not another computer game; it's you. We'll look at how to get the most of your time with your son.

• Recognize that boys were made for the outdoors. Boys love being outside. A healthy boy needs that sense of adventure - and the reality check that the outdoors gives him.

• Remember that boys need rules. Boys instinctively have a boy code. If you don't set rules, however, they feel lost.

• Acknowledge that virtue is not just for girls. Boys should, indeed, be boys - but boys who drink, take drugs, and have sex outside of marriage aren't "normal" teenagers, they have been abnormally socialized by our unfortunately toxic culture. Today, my practice as a pediatrician has to deal with an epidemic of serious, even life-threatening, problems - physical and psychological - that were of comparatively minor concern only forty years ago. A healthy boy strives after virtues like integrity and self-control. In fact, it is virtues like these that make a boy's transition to manhood possible.

They are necessary virtues, and he needs your help to acquire them. I'll show you how.

• Learn how to teach your son about the big questions in life. Many parents shy away from this, either because they are uncomfortable with these questions themselves, or want to dismiss them as unimportant or even pernicious, or because they don't want to "impose" their views on their children. But whatever one's personal view, your son wants to know - and needs to know - why he's here, what his purpose in life is, why he is important. Boys who don't have a wellgrounded understanding on these big questions are the most vulnerable to being led astray into self-destructive behaviors.

• Remember, always, that the most important person in your son's life is you.

Being a parent can often seem a daunting task. But I'm here to tell you that almost every parent has what it takes to raise healthy sons. You have the intuition, the heart, and, yes, the responsibility to change the life of your son for the better. This book is a step toward showing you how.

Copyright © 2009 by Meg Meeker, M.D.

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About the Author

Meg Meeker, M.D., has spent more than twenty years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine. The author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, she is a popular speaker on teen issues and is frequently heard on nationally syndicated radio and television programs. She lives in northern Michigan with her husband and four children.