Reality Check

Cinderella Was a Liar
by Brenda Della Casa

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Are You a Great Date,
or Do You Suffer from
Dating Behavioral Disorder?

1. Every dateable maiden knows that the best thing to wear on a first date is:

A. Something sexy, slinky, and cut up to there. You want to wow him with your gorgeous gams!

B. Something conservative to show him that you take yourself seriously and he should not expect sex - you are a respectable maiden.

C. Something comfortable and stylish but not over the top.

D. Jeans and a T-shirt - you're a laid-back girl.

2. Makeup on a date should be:

A. Glamorous and striking, like a night on the red carpet!

B. Extremely light and mostly in nudes.

C. Flattering; you highlight your best features and cover up little imperfections.

D. You don't wear makeup.

3. Great date hair is:

A. Washed and touchable, and it moves freely.

B. Blown out, teased, glossed, sprayed, and pinned.

C. Trendy: pigtails, berets, braids, or a side ponytail.

D. Pulled back in a ponytail.

4. The best date conversations include:

A. Deep, dark secrets about your crazy sister and wacky friend.

B. Friendly banter and a few jokes - where you went to school and what movies you have seen.

C. Biting sarcasm.

D. What your therapist thinks about your dating style.

5. When drinking on a date, it's best to:

A. Keep up with him so he thinks you are a cool chick.

B. Have a spritzer between glasses of wine because you are not a big drinker.

C. Order a round of shots for every round of drinks he buys.

D. Do body shots at the club!

6. The hostess screwed up the reservation, the waiter messed up your order, and the busboy just spilled red wine on your pants. You:

A. Smile through gritted teeth and silently eat your dinner.

B. Berate the busboy and demand to speak with the waiter. What is wrong with this staff?

C. Graciously accept the busboy's apology and the manager's offer to dry-clean your pants. Ask your date if he wouldn't mind stopping by your place so you can change.

D. Call it a night; your pants are ruined, your meal is cold, and you're miserable!

How did you do?

You are a great date if you chose the following answers:

1. C. You want to look attractive and as though you put in some effort, but you also want to be comfortable and not too over the top. Wear an outfit that is versatile and alluring, and do the sit-down test before you go out.

2. C. Again, you want to look like you take care of yourself and put in some effort but not as though you are wearing a mask or going to a job interview. Always perform the "natural light" test to ensure your makeup is light and flattering and not too orange/white/thick. On the other hand, if you really dislike makeup, dab a little mascara on your lashes, comb your brows, and wear a little clear gloss on your lips. Pinching your cheeks will give you a nice rosy flush.

3. A. A date isn't a baseball game, and it isn't an awards ceremony either. Keep your hair cleaned and polished, but avoid going overboard with anything too extreme, trendy, or cutesy. Think Jennifer Aniston, not Gwen Stefani.

4. B. Dateable maidens know that a date is all about a little chemistry and seeing whether there are things in common. Talking about personal demons will make him feel like a therapist (and that you need one), and mentioning that you have one will make him wonder what other issues you might have. Be personable but not too personal.

5. B. A dateable maiden knows her limits and that she is responsible for her behavior regardless of how much she has had to drink. Having a beer is fine, but if drinking two gives you the urge to dance on tables, you might want to sip the first one slowly. Besides, getting intoxicated on a date is a major turnoff for a prince. It shows him that you do not care about making a good impression, have no self-control, or, worse, want to use the alcohol as an excuse to do something you know is inappropriate. A toad, however, will love you - for the night.

6. C. How you handle a crisis and treat others is extremely important to suitors, and rest assured they are watching your every move. Maintaining your composure, treating people with respect, and making the best of the situation (and not taking it out on him or canceling the evening) will put you in a league all your own.

Copyright © 2006 by Brenda Della Casa

About the Author

Relationships expert, Brenda Della Casa, is a journalist and casting agent who has spent the last six years interviewing single men and women for a variety of television shows and articles. Last year she interviewed almost a 1,000 single, married and coupled men world-wide, together with hundreds of single women for her breakthrough book, Cinderella Was a Liar.