The Kama Sutra

by Debora Myers

My husband and I took the leap and signed up for classes on the Kama Sutra at our local Healing Center. We were curious and figured it could help our relationship. It did that and so much more. This is an excerpt from Ladyfire- Part 2, .

Preparing for the Act Of Love

After several classes on the importance of grooming, alluring attire and creating a sexy atmosphere my husband and I were ready to get into the sexual loving. We had decided to abstain from love making during those first few weeks. Our desire for each other was building strongly as we explored, teased and became more intimate than we had ever been before.

"Women, being of a tender nature, want tender beginnings"

"Whenever he sits with her on the same seat or bed he should say to her, 'I have something to tell you in private', and then, when she comes to hear it in a quiet place, he should express his love for her more by manner and signs than by words." KS

It was like meeting all over again and seeing each other with different eyes as we followed the KS. Becoming intimate again rekindled the fires by simply paying attention to all the small details we had come to let fall away as our marriage had aged. We dated and went for romantic bike rides on the waterfront. We took turns massaging and pampering one another. It is like an entirely different marriage. We had dinner parties and laughed and went out with friends. We surprised one another with gifts. We were so ready to commence with lovemaking.

Of The Ways of Exciting Desire

"At the commencement he should rub her yoni (vulva) with his hand or fingers, and not begin to have intercourse with her until she becomes excited, or experiences pleasure." KS "... he may make use of certain things which are put around the lingam (penis) to supplement its length or it's thickness, so as to fit the yoni." KS

"Some women of the harem, when they are amorous, do the acts of the mouth on the yonis of one another, and some men do the same thing with women. The way of doing this should be known from kissing the mouth. When a man and women lie down in an inverted order with the head of the one towards the feet of the other and carry on in this congress, it is called the congress of the crow". KS

The Kama Sutra goes into great details on biting, scratching and striking to achieve arousal. As boundaries differ, this should be done with the couple's own discretion. "The various modes of enjoyment are not for all times or for all persons, but they should only be used at the proper time, and in the proper countries and places." KS

Mouth Congress

Biting the sides: Hold the head of the penis with your fingers, press the sides of it with your lips and teeth, gently nibble. Outside pressing: Press the head of the penis with lips closed together and kiss it. Inside pressing: Put his penis into your mouth while pressing it with your lips and slide it out of your mouth. Kiss, rub and tease the penis with your lips and tongue. Sucking a Mango Fruit: forcibly kiss and suck his lingam. Swallowing up: put the entire penis into your mouth and press it to the very end.

Various Kinds of Congress (Sexual Positions) While the woman lies on her back.. The widely opened position: The woman arches her head back and raises her pelvis off of the bed toward her partner. The yawning position: When she raises her thighs and keeps them wide apart. She can also place them on his shoulders. The clasping position: The legs of both the man and the woman are stretched straight out over each other. The pressing position: After intercourse has begun the woman presses her lover with her thighs. The twining position: The woman places one of her thighs across the leg of her lover. The mare's position: The woman forcibly holds the penis in her vagina with her pelvic floor muscles. The rising position: The woman raises her legs straight up, above the shoulders of the man, who kneels in front of her and introduces his penis into her yoni, She increases the friction by squeezing her thighs together. The pressed position: She places her feet on his chest. Fixing of a nail: Instead of placing her leg on her partner's shoulder, the woman places her heel on the man's forehead. The turning position: When lovers are making love in the classic man on top position the man can lift one leg and turn around without withdrawing from her. Standing Position: The suspended congress: The man leans against a wall while the woman puts her arms around his neck and he lifts her by the thighs or locks his hands under her buttocks. Woman in Superior Positions

"When the woman holds the lingam in her yoni, draws it in, presses it, and keeps it thus in her for a long time, it is called the 'Pair of tongs'. When while engaged in this congress, she turns round like a wheel, it is called the 'top'. This is learnt by practice only". KS

Animal Positions

The elephant posture: The woman lies with her breasts, stomach, thighs and feet all touching the bed, and the man lies over her with the small of his back arched inward.

The congress of a cow: The woman takes a hands and knees position while the man mounts her from behind.

Suggestions for the man for pleasing his partner: Moving forward: The man moves back and forth in a straightforward manner. Churning: He holds the penis with his hand and moves it around in the vagina. Piercing: He penetrates the vagina from above and pushes it against her clitoris. Pressing: Pushing the penis forcefully against the vagina. Giving a blow: He removes his penis from the vagina and strikes it against the vulva. Blow of the Boar: He rubs both sides of the vagina with his penis. Sporting of the sparrow: moving the penis rapidly and lightly in and out of the vagina.

"...if the male be long timed, the female loves him the more, but if he be short timed; she is dissatisfied with him". KS

Doesn't look like much has changed in the ways of sexual gratification. This should keep all of us busy for a while. The Kama Sutra was written by a man, primarily for men in a mans world so take this info with a grain of salt. But it was fun to experiment and the closeness really did help bring us closer together in our relationship. Just the act of sharing something fun and sexy together brought some much needed lightness into our lives.

About the Author

Debora Myers is editor and co-founder of