Personality

Overcoming Self-Doubt
by Crystal Woods
Do you have a dream of something you would love to do, achieve, or be? Are you chasing it? What's holding you back? It's hard, sometimes, to believe in your ability to be or do everything you dream about. Even the most determined person has their d

The Inner Critic

In this article, we would like to concentrate upon a self that assumes major importance in the lives of most people and is of particular interest to psychotherapists, the Inner Critic. This Inner Critic is a voice within each of us that criticizes us

Selves In Relationship : Working With the Bonding Patterns
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
Relationships challenge us to grow. Each relationship carries within it the guidance for our further development and growth as well as the seeds of its own destruction. We as therapists are in the position to move deeply into the mysteries and complexitie

Selves In Relationship: Mapping the Bonding Patterns
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
As a therapist how does one approach this? First, we would like to reiterate our view that this is a perfectly natural interaction in relationship. There is nothing pathological in this bonding pattern and much can be learned in terms of both relationship

The Dance Of The Selves In Relationship
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
There is a natural ebb and flow in relationship, a movement between intimacy and distance. Even the most ideal relationships have moments in which intimacy is interrupted and good will is in short supply. As we studied the rhythms of relationship

Changing the way you look at Yourself

Day by day, the majority of us have a painful war with ourselves. It is a constant fight that includes constant criticism, pressure, anger, sadness and endless cruel comparisons. It is an everyday struggle that gets in the way and keeps you from seeing yo

Embracing Our Dark Side
Do I Have To Give Up ME to be Loved by GOD?
by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Our wounded self is our dark or shadow side, not because it is bad but because it is cut off from the light of God. It lives in the darkness of fear and the heaviness of false beliefs instead of in the light of love and truth. Moving toward enlighte

Experiencing The Energy Of The Selves In The Aware Ego State
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
We want to mention one final part of the process which is quite sophisticated and requires real sensitivity to energetic changes. Let us say we have worked with an Action system on one side and a Being system on the other side. We have had the subject

The Experience Of The Awareness Level
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
Never judge a Self. When a part feels judged, it gets very upset and often disappears. If a facilitator feels too judgmental about a particular part, the work should be stopped and the individual put back into the ego place. It would then be appropriate

The Voice Dialogue Method
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
In the last section of this chapter we wish to describe to you the method of Voice Dialogue and how it may be used in clinical practice with individuals and, to a lesser extent, with couples. It is the basic attitude towards the work and the selves

Our Definition Of Consciousness
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
The first point to consider is that consciousness is a process, not a static entity. There are three distinct levels or processes that make up the basic process of consciousness. The three levels are : The Awareness Process; the Experiential Process; the

The Primary Selves In Relationship
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
In every relationship there is a dance between the Primary and Disowned Selves. The understanding of this dance is critical to understanding the kind of parent/child bonding patterns that are with us constantly in relationship. These bonding patterns occu

Primary Selves And Disowned Selves
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
We can see, then, that what is generally seen as the ego, or as one's personality, is basically the Protector/Controller selves and its friends. The job of the ego, as always, is to provide an executive function for the psyche. It needs to make choices, l

Theoretical Considerations - The Birth Of Personality
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
The key issue in thinking about the development of personality is the understanding of vulnerability and the pivotal role that it plays. We are all born totally vulnerable and in our early months and years of life, we must be taken care of by other people

The Emergence Of Voice Dialogue
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
The discovery of the reality of these inner selves was quite dramatic for the two of us. Our relationship has always been one in which we spent a good deal of time doing personal work with one another. In one of our very early work sessions, Hal asked to

Embracing All Our Selves
Embracing Our Selves: The Voice Dialogue Manual
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
Despite a good deal of encouragement from many of those whom we have trained in our methods, we have consistently refused to institute any kind of formal certification training in regard to Voice Dialogue. We see the facilitator as a creative musician

Self-Love : Is It Selfish?
by Leslie Karen Lobell, M.A.
Is self-love the Greatest Love of All? Or is it selfish and self-indulgent? Learning to love yourself may be the greatest love you ever experience and achieve. Self-love is not selfish or bad. When you love yourself, you will feel good about

Maintaining Your Individuality in Love
by Paul Mauchline
Mature love is a partnership in which both individuals have room to be themselves even while being together. Do not give up your own dreams and goals for the sake of a relationship. Mature love requires giving your love with no strings attached