Abuse and Violence

Codependency and the Enabler
I'm Sorry
by Jay Krunszyinsky
When you were a child, did you grow up in a home where your parents or caretakers took little to no responsibility for their problems or behaviors? Did you witness a parent support the behavior of the other regardless of how destructive it was?

'The Loser' Warning Signs You're Dating a Loser
by Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D.
Very few relationships start on terms other than sweetness and politeness. In the beginning, the honeymoon of the relationship, it's difficult to determine what type of individual you are dating.

Invisible Scars: Verbal Abuse

The origins of verbal abuse begin in our homes. Children are not held responsible for the pain they inflict on brothers and sisters because it's just normal sibling rivalry. If children can't take the teasing, they are seen as wimps or sissies.

Why Are You Treated The Way You Are?
by Tony Schirtzinger; ACSW, CICSW
95% Of The Time, We Get Treated The Way We INVITE People To Treat Us. Everything we do, especially our nonverbal behavior, is an invitation to those around us. A smile is an invitation. So is a frown. So is a sad face, an angry face, or a serious face

The Verbally Abusive Man
by John D. Moore, MS, CADC
When You Keep Hoping and Thinking He’ll Change. When being in love means putting up with his relentless name-calling, you are involved with the verbally abusive man. When most of your comments are edited, in fear of how he might respond

Loving vs. Controlling Behavior
Do I Have To Give Up ME to be Loved by GOD?
by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Loving behavior is personally accountable behavior that nurtures and supports our own and others' spiritual growth and highest good. It is behavior that is consciously intended to give something helpful - like support, compassion or understanding - to our

Power Struggle in Relationships
by Joseph Ghabi
The greatest asset we have in human existence is our soul growth, but somehow we have that confused with becoming powerful. Power does not bring growth unless we understand the essence of sharing that power. The struggle for power is a main characteristic

Personal Boundaries
by Tony Schirtzinger; ACSW, CICSW
The concept of boundaries relates to our sense of self. At birth and for a long while after, a baby has no real sense of who they are. The worst example of being owned is physical or sexual abuse. Paradoxically, being treated like we are not there can

Chapter 1
Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners - Understanding Covert Incest
by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D.
Did you have a parent whose love for you felt more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more instrusive than nurturing? Did you feel trapped in a psychological marriage with this parent? If so, you may be a victim of covert incest.

What Trauma Does To People
The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
by Patrick J. Carnes
Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds-chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiation

Are You In An Abusive Relationship?
Before It's Too Late
by Robert J. Ackerman, Ph.D., Susan E. Pickering
It's regrettable that so many women can identify with Cathy's story. If you can identify with her physical, sexual, emotional or spiritual pain, then you may also be in an abusive relationship. It isn't easy to admit it.

Help – I’m Being Stalked! When Love Becomes an Obsession
by John D. Moore, MS, CADC
If you think you won’t be stalked, think again. According to statistics put out by the National Center for Victims of Crime, 1 out of every 12 women will be stalked during her lifetime and 1 out of 45 men will be stalked during his lifetime.

Abusive Relationships
Before It's Too Late
by Robert J. Ackerman, Ph.D., Susan E. Pickering
This book offers straightforward answers to the most frequently asked questions about women in controlling or abusive relationships. Robert Ackerman and Susan Pickering reveal the warning signs of controlling relationships and how women get caught in them

Shame as a Form of Control
Do I Have To Give Up ME to be Loved by GOD?
by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
One of the most common forms of control is shame. It can be a little difficult to see how feeling ashamed is a form of control. Let's start by reviewing how core shame - the false belief that you are essentially bad - begins. When, as infants and young ch

Physical Abuse: Screening and Treatment
by Debby Schwarz Hirschhorn, PhD
Do not be fooled into thinking the percent of battering victims (about 16%) in this country is small. Stripped of the obfuscation of statistics, that comes to between two and four million (Medical Education Group Learning Systems, 1997) and 8.7 million

The Roots of Abuse in American Society
Saving Beauty from the Beast: How to Protect Your Daughter From an Unhealthy Relationship
by Vicki Crompton, Ellen Zelda Kessner
IN THE EARLY 1980s, as a prevention specialist in the movement to end violence against women and children, Barrie Levy spent a great deal of time in California classrooms defining rape, sexual abuse, and battering as crimes against women -as experiences

Abuse
Beauty For Ashes: Receiving Emotional Healing
by Joyce Meyer
Some of the terms Webster's Dictionary uses to define abuse are: (verb) - misuse; to use wrongly; to hurt by treating badly; mistreat; to use insulting, coarse or bad language about or to; revile; (noun) - wrong, bad, or excessive use; mistreatment

Love and Stockholm Syndrome: The Mystery of Loving an Abuser
by Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D.
People are often amazed at their own psychological conditions and reactions. Those with depression are stunned when they remember they've thought of killing themselves. Patients recovering from severe psychiatric disturbances are often shocked as they

In the Presence of Danger
The Gift of Fear
by Gavin de Becker
He had probably been watching her for a while. We aren't sure-but what we do know is that she was not his first victim. That afternoon, in an effort to get all her shopping done in one trip, Kelly had overestimated what she could comfortably carry home.

Introduction
Burned Alive: A Victim of the Law of Men
by Souad
When Souad was seventeen she fell in love. In her Palestinian village, as in so many other villages, sex before marriage is considered a grave dishonor to one's family and is punishable by death. This was her crime.