Relationship Conflicts

Well-Meaning Therapists
The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage
by Michele Weiner Davis
Often people recognize that friends and family can be biased and, for that reason, decide to seek professional help for their marriage. Unfortunately, going to a therapist when you are having marital problems doesn't guarantee you will leave with your

Introduction
Compelled to Control: Recovering Intimacy in Broken Relationships
by J. Keith Miller
Something is wrong in America. A great, unseen vibration is shaking the country, causing ripples-then waves-of anxiety, stress, anger and shame. These waves sweep across boundaries of race, gender, class and education into the lives of almost everyone.

Getting Off the See-Saw
by James Lucoff
Last time we discussed relationship systems. Like two children on a see-saw who don

Relationship Enhancement for Individuals
by James Lucoff
We've presented a broad outline showing how Relationship Enhancement skills can help couples to enhance intimacy and resolve conflict. But what if only one person in the marriage has an interest in learning the skills? And how about single persons who are

Love Is Not Enough
I Love You More: How Everyday Problems Can Strengthen Your Marriage
by Les Parrott III, Ph.D., Dr. Leslie Parrott
Like most couples deeply in love, Les and I longed to find ways to make our love endure even before we were married. Part of the impetus for our vision came from reading A Severe Mercy, the real-life love story about Sheldon and Davy Vanauken, two lovers

Introduction
The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage
by Michele Weiner Davis
In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship.

Think INSIDE the Square to Keep Those Love Fires Burning
by Dorothy Thompson
I was sitting in my sanctuary in my back yard contemplating the world's mysteries and minding my own business when a fellow neighbor walked up to me and started a conversation. As he looked a little distressed, I invited him into my little spiritual oasis

Resolving Issues, Part 2
by James Lucoff
In our last article, we showed the importance of having a full discussion of your deepest concerns and feelings on the issue at hand before you attempt to discuss solutions. But once you have surfaced all the relevant issues, how can you and your mate

Discovering the Compulsion to Control
Compelled to Control: Recovering Intimacy in Broken Relationships
by J. Keith Miller
You're controlling my life! Sue shouted at Roger. Her face was contorted, beams of hot, red anger shooting from her eyes. You interrogate me about every dime I spend and then you go out and buy a brand new set of golf clubs.

Resolving Issues, Part 3
by James Lucoff
Last time we showed how you and your mate can use creative skills to arrive at win-win solutions. But it’s one thing to come up with a good idea and quite another to get it to work in the real world. How to carry your solution from concept to realit

Change
by James Lucoff
In some cases there is another more powerful force at work - a feedback loop. Our relationships sometimes form dynamic systems that bond and reinforce behavior and that actively resist attempts to change. The old riddle, Does she nag and so he drinks?

BE: Identity and Character
Healing the Heart of Conflict: 8 Crucial Steps to Making Peace with Yourself and Others
by Mark Gopin, Ph.D.
Who we are as individuals has everything to do with how we get along with others. Step One prompts us to ask ourselves, What inside of me is contributing to this conflict, and what do I have to gain from it? Being able to see yourself as you are can be

His grown children will not accept me. What can I do to keep my marriage?
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
My husband wants to leave me because he's tired of hurting me. His grown children, from a previous marriage, will not accept me and they will not let their kids come around me. My husband wants to be part of his grandchildren's lives.

Nick
Why Can't You Shut Up?
by Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.D.
The day begins in the middle of the night. I am not paying attention to anything but the bass in my hand, the noise in my ears. Dev is screaming, Thom is flailing, and I am the clockwork, I am the one who takes this thing called music and lines it up

The Nervous Housewife
by Abraham Myerson, M.D.
The problems of life are not all sexual, and in fact even in the relations of men and women there are more important factors. After all, as Spencer pointed out in a marvelous chapter, love itself is a composite of many things, some, of the earth, earthy