Relationships

Nagging
Why Men Don't Have a Clue and Women Always Need More Shoes : The Ultimate Guide to the Opposite Sex
by Barbara Pease, Allan Pease
Nag: verb to annoy, badger, bend someone's ear, berate, breathe down someone's neck, worry, harrass, hassle, henpeck, pester, plague, provoke, scold, torment; noun a person, especially a woman, who nags. Nagging is a term used almost exclusively by men

Eight Tips for a Better Marriage
by James Lucoff
1. Conflict is your friend. There are differences in every relationship - what makes or breaks a marriage is how partners choose to resolve those conflicts. Ignoring them is not the solution. That would be like ignoring cancer in the hope that it will go

Shame as a Form of Control
Do I Have To Give Up ME to be Loved by GOD?
by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
One of the most common forms of control is shame. It can be a little difficult to see how feeling ashamed is a form of control. Let's start by reviewing how core shame - the false belief that you are essentially bad - begins. When, as infants and young ch

Will we ever understand them?
by Peta Heskell
Will women ever understand men and will men ever understand women? Let's say a guy named Dougal is attracted to a woman named Patsy. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner

Bringing Out the Best in Your Relationship

Ideally, these guidelines work best when both partners follow them; however, a change in one partner's way of responding often encourages a change in the other partner. Relationships bring out the best and the worst in us. Here are some ways to bring out

Honesty in Relationships
by James Lucoff
Honesty or rather lack of it has made major headlines this year. Serious breaches of integrity involving religious & business leaders have surfaced with repercussions yet to be realized. It is clear that honesty is vital to the health of all

Platonic Relationship: Waited 3 months before I kiss you & it is still too fast?
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
All I was wanting was a little kiss to see if something was there and we both agreed it was. The next day she came up to my work and told me that that little kiss was too fast for her.

Achieving Relationship Satisfaction In The Face Of Differences
The Relationship Handbook
by Jan Maizler, MSW, LCSW
People want satisfactory relationships. Two major factors that play a key role in achieving this are dealing with compatibility dynamics and tolerance of differences. In relationships, compatibility basically means the harmony and/or agreement that you

Feeling Like You Belong
by Tony Schirtzinger; ACSW, CICSW
We all want to have the sense that we belong among people we know. You belong where YOU say you belong! The decision about whether you belong with others is your decision, not theirs. In the adult world, we are seldom kicked out or excluded from any

The Equality Equation: Are You In An Equal Partnership?
by EqualityinMarriage.org
In the early stages of a relationship the intense chemistry and mutual love of Chinese take-out while watching old movies may seem like more than enough. After you've gained that inevitable five pounds that comes with the transition …

Loss and Trauma
Heartwounds: The Impact of Unresolved Trauma and Grief on Relationships
by Tian Dayton, Ph.D.
Any creature that bonds grieves when it experiences separation-whether it be an elephant kicked out of the herd, a duck that has lost its mate or a mother who sends her child off to college. As humans, we are biologically designed to form kinship bonds

Safe Relationship Spaces

In the depths of our souls we all yearn for love and connection with others. That yearning reflects a basic, even biological, human need. Infants, for example, thrive physically only when they feel deeply loved and cherished. As adults, we experience wren

Love, Sex, and Relationships
Ask Barbara: The 100 Most Asked Questions About Love, Sex, and Relationships
by Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D.
How can I stop mothering my husband? How can a couple learn to trust love? Should you give a cheating partner another chance? Why can't my wife just have spontaneous sex sometimes? What signs should I look for in the beginning of a relationship to make

The Gender Myth, The World of Personality Type
Just Your Type : Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type
by Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron-Tieger
There's no denying that those who espouse the viewpoint that gender is an inevitable barrier to good communication have struck a chord with millions of people who are frustrated with the way they deal with their partners.

10 Ways to Add Excitement to Your Relationship
by EqualityinMarriage.org
If you've been together for years, chances are you're missing that spark. Here are 10 ways to add some zest to your partnership. 1 Be Cheesy Think like a kid in love and come up with an idea that brings some of the warm fuzzies back into your relationship

Selves In Relationship: Mapping the Bonding Patterns
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
As a therapist how does one approach this? First, we would like to reiterate our view that this is a perfectly natural interaction in relationship. There is nothing pathological in this bonding pattern and much can be learned in terms of both relationship

Are You Fit To Love?
by Allie Ochs
Are You Fit To Love? is the most important question we'll ever ask ourselves. Let's face it, our relationships are extremely important. In fact they are the essence of our lives. Yet, for many relationships are the cause of pain and struggle often

Tyrants Of Self-Concept: Ruling The Rulers
by Terry Rich Hartley, Ph.D.
Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge confronts us, walls restrain us, and a mob of spectators mocks, sneers, or cheers us. Each and every day brings new

Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship
Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship
by Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone
Partnering is the next step in the evolution of relationship. It is the vital, exciting, and challenging linkage of two energy systems so they can work together harmoniously to create something new and sacred. Partnering is cooperative and replaces th

Giving Love Another Try: Are You Relationship Bound, Or Just on the Rebound?
by EqualityinMarriage.org
If you are like most people, your thoughts on your past relationships are probably bittersweet - feeling fondness toward the positive memories and sadness or anger toward the situations or circumstances that led to the relationship's end.