Infidelity

Five Cues They Might Be Cheating
by John D. Moore, MS, CADC
From time to time, its only natural to wonder if the person you are romantically involved with is having sex with someone else. The problem becomes compounded when you have dated someone in the past that has violated your trust. Indeed, cheating is

The Affair
by Paul Mauchline
Do you know someone who is having an affair? Have you ever had, or considered having, an affair yourself? Why is it that so many people are cheating on their partners? What is it that makes someone want to cheat on his or her partner?

Married but in love with another women...
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
I am a 40 year-old happily married male for 8 yrs with two daughters. My problem is that I am truly in love with an another woman, aged 35, who is very happily married for 9 yrs with two children. We have been friends for over 14 yrs. We became closer as

Forgiving an Affair

The discovery of an affair will attack you with shock, anger and numbness. No matter what way you choose to react, your surroundings will look the same afterwards because you have not yet started coping with what has transpired. You find that you are sud

Should You Stay or Should You Go? Can it work to stay in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you?
by Lisa Daily
Every week I get about 50 letters from women and men who want to know if they should stay with someone who has cheated on them. Nearly always, the letter is peppered with reasons why the cheater might have been compelled to cheat, and sometimes even inclu

Love on the Other Side of the Fence
by Paul Mauchline
We all have heard the old cliche, The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. So how do we feel about love on the other side of the fence? Is love on the other side of the fence better? In some cases, it is, but in many cases, it is not.

Is He Having an Affair? And Why?

One third of all married couples admit to having cheated on their mates. Let's not be naïve. That's quite a large number of people taking risks! So why all the playing around? Here are some of the obvious and not so obvious clues to help you discover

Are You Paranoid in Your Partnership?
by EqualityinMarriage.org
So you found a suspicious number scribbled on a matchbook in your partner's pocket. Or maybe an unknown number keeps popping up on the caller I.D. These discoveries seem innocent enough but, in many relationships, the occasional snooping around for clue

My boss is is cheating on his wife with a co-worker
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
Dear Dr. Ellen: I read your advice columns every week and there are two things that have stayed with me in particular. You wrote about someone who was cheating on his wife with a co-worker and a friend of the family felt obligated to tell his children? I

How Great Is Your Marriage?
Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship
by M. Gary Neuman
Answer the following fifteen questions, then tabulate your responses to find out how your marriage stacks up. 1. Your spouse has gained ten pounds and says to you, 'I've really put on a few pounds lately.

He admitted to having an affair & wants to leave our marriage
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
My husband gave me the shock of my life a few weeks ago. He admitted to having an affair that has him believing that he may want to leave this marriage of 6 years to be with this woman.

Happily Married Male for 8 Years in Love with another Woman
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
I am a 40 year-old happily married male for 8 yrs with two daughters. My problem is that I am truly in love with another woman, aged 35, who is very happily married for 9 yrs with two children. We have been friends for over 14 yrs. We became closer as

My husband and she have this connection that REALLY bothers me ...
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
We just celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. We have 2 wonderful kids - a daughter, 16 and a son, 13. My husband has had 2 surgeries on his shoulder that has put him out of work for the past 6 months. Here's MY problem. He's been going to physical

Wherever we go he flirts with other women
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
I am sad and angry at the same time. My husband is constantly looking at pictures of unclothed women in magazines and wherever we go he flirts with other women. If we are at a party he ignores me and spends the whole evening talking to a pretty woman.

Hidden Desires
The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is Necessary in Love and Sex
by David M. Buss, Ph.D.
To understand the origins of sexual passion we must introduce a disturbing difference between the sexes. Everyday observation tells us that men are more promiscuously inclined than women.

I am scared to death I'm going to lose him
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
Dear Dr. Ellen - We just celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. We have 2 wonderful kids, a daughter, 16 and a son, 13. My husband had to have 2 surgeries on his shoulder that has put him out of work for the past 6 months. Here's MY problem. He'

I do believe him when he says the affair is over
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
I'm seeking some advice on how to handle a post-affair problem. My husband cheated last year with a woman he employed in his office. To cut a long story short, she got another job in another state on his advice and moved away.

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To Love, Honor, and Betray: The Secret Lives of Suburban Wives
by Stephanie Gertler, Adrienne Lopez
A provocative look at the lives of 26 married suburban women, offering a fascinating and nuanced portrait of marriage and infidelity. Extramarital affairs are often whispered about behind closed doors. In this groundbreaking book, the doors open.

Love's Labors
Against Love: A Polemic
by Laura Kipnis
Will all the adulterers in the room please stand up? This means all you cheating wives, philandering husbands, and straying domestic partners, past, present, and future. Those who find themselves fantasizing a lot, please rise also.

Author Q&A
Against Love: A Polemic
by Laura Kipnis
Why would anyone be against love? Clearly no one can be against love. Love has vast power over us, it shapes us as selves. But every age also defines love differently, which raises the question of how and why our current definitions of coupledom became