Marriage

Happy Marriages, Do They Exist? Part 2
The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts
by Judith S. Wallerstein, Sandra Blakeslee
An acquaintance of mine-a highly regarded psychologist who has done extensive marriage counseling-called me when she became engaged. She said, I want to spend several hours with you, drawing on your experience.

Happy Marriages, Do They Exist?
The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts
by Judith S. Wallerstein, Sandra Blakeslee
ON A RAW SPRING MORNING in 199l, I shared my earliest thoughts about this book with a group of some one hundred professional women-all friends and colleagues-who meet each month to discuss our works in progress.

Think INSIDE the Square to Keep Those Love Fires Burning
by Dorothy Thompson
I was sitting in my sanctuary in my back yard contemplating the world's mysteries and minding my own business when a fellow neighbor walked up to me and started a conversation. As he looked a little distressed, I invited him into my little spiritual oasis

His grown children will not accept me. What can I do to keep my marriage?
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
My husband wants to leave me because he's tired of hurting me. His grown children, from a previous marriage, will not accept me and they will not let their kids come around me. My husband wants to be part of his grandchildren's lives.

This is not the first time my husband has not stood up for me
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
A pool salesman was at my house today. He was a high-pressure type of salesman. You know the type. They offer you a better deal if you are ready to sign on the dotted line today. I made mention of the fact that I did not appreciate his type of sales

The Equality Equation: Are You In An Equal Partnership?
by EqualityinMarriage.org
In the early stages of a relationship the intense chemistry and mutual love of Chinese take-out while watching old movies may seem like more than enough. After you've gained that inevitable five pounds that comes with the transition …

Cohabitation Nation - The Real Scoop About Living Together
by EqualityinMarriage.org
While the marriage rate is at it's lowest level in four decades, cohabitation between non-married partners has increased 1,150 percent in the last 40 years. A recent USA Today article attributes this trend to twenty and thirty-somethings being disillusion

Shaping Your Mate
by Bob Grant, L.P.C.
Some years ago, while building my counseling practice, I was constantly looking for the most effective strategies for my clients. The theories in Graduate School were very interesting, but I also yearned for the practical applications.

Take Two? Should You Give Marriage A Second Shot?
by EqualityinMarriage.org
You may have gotten off the roller coaster ride of your first marriage a little pessimistic about hopping on any other attractions in the future. However, divorcees often find themselves in a new relationship, contemplating the pros and cons of riding dow

Has Your Marriage Been Attacked? Can Tragedy Trigger Divorce?
by EqualityinMarriage.org
We all know that couple. They are always bickering, never content - yet somehow it seems they will always be together. Then, out of the blue, one of the pair plays the divorce card, leaving all those involved wondering what knocked them off the fence and

I have met a wonderful man but he is married …
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
I need some advice. I have met a wonderful man. We work in the same organization. He is married and has clearly stated that his marriage is not going anywhere. I have not become involved with him romantically, and have kept him literally hanging on until

She Says That She Can't Stand My Mood Swings
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
Ellen: I have been a stockbroker for over 15 years and my job causes me a lot of anxiety and stress. My wife has threatened to leave me for the first time in our marriage. She says that she can't stand my mood swings, which are tied to the stock market.

She Is Constantly Putting Herself Down
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
I have only been married for 2 years and I really need your help. My wife is a wonderful woman. My problem is that she is constantly putting herself down. She’s not happy with her weight, her looks or her brains. She says things like, I’

Compatibility
by James Lucoff
I often hear about couples breaking up because of incompatibility. The concept of compatibility has been around for many years, and many have accepted this as a fundamental truth of relationships. According to this axiom, people, like chemicals, can be

See More Clearly with the Pre-marital Inventory
by James Lucoff
It is important to understand that the pre-marital inventory is not a compatibility test. Its main purpose is to bring to the surface the conflicts that are in every relationship so the couple can address these before marriage.

Looking for the Positive
by James Lucoff
Marriage researcher John Gottman has made an intensive study of how people interact in their relationships. Not surprisingly, he found that in flourishing marriages the participants express more positive, appreciative comments toward one another than

Building Love in Your Relationship
by James Lucoff
We recently received the following question: Can this help people who were

Eight Tips for a Better Marriage
by James Lucoff
1. Conflict is your friend. There are differences in every relationship - what makes or breaks a marriage is how partners choose to resolve those conflicts. Ignoring them is not the solution. That would be like ignoring cancer in the hope that it will go

Introduction
Love is No Guarantee! What you Need to Know before You fall in Love
by Peter Hector
One in every three first marriages in the U.S will end within ten years, and one in five will end within five years, according to a November 2001 report issued by Centers for Disease control and Prevention. The report First Marriage Dissolution, Divorce

Women's Complaints about Men and Men's Complaints about Women
by Robert Elias Najemy
Throughout 30 years of working with couples and groups, I have observed that women have the following complaints about men. Women's Complaints about Men. 1. They are not understanding enough. 2. They are not sensitive to feelings and needs