Relationship Communication
66 Articles & Excerpts
Barriers To Relationship Intimacy: Avoid the Dirty Dozen
 The Relationship Handbook
by Jan Maizler, MSW, LCSW
The following twelve areas are pitfalls in any relationship, that if allowed to flourish will cause that relationship to degrade and suffer. 1. Insufficient shared information creates a relationship vacuum and promotes guessing, projection, and suspicion.
Occasionally we are confronted by persons who play the role of the interrogator. Basic to dealing with "i
by Robert Elias Najemy
Occasionally we are confronted by persons who play the role of the interrogator. Basic to dealing with interrogators is to understand why they function in this way and how we are affected by their attitude. It is also entirely possible
Communicating With Those Who Play the Role of the Victim
by Robert Elias Najemy
The role of Victim (poor me) is a favorite with many of us. There are so many benefits we can ensure by playing the role of the victim. 1. We automatically gain self-worth. Follow this reasoning closely. As a victim, we are the one to whom injustice
Communication That Really Improves Relationships
by Alina Ruigrok
Communication is something we all know is necessary to keep any relationship strong and loving, and although we are aware of the importance of communication, we still seem to be clueless about what exactly good communication really is.
Understanding the Sexes
by Robert Elias Najemy
Although each gender tends to express itself quite differently, most philosophical teachings agree that the soul is neither male nor female. As souls, we incarnate into a gender in order to learn through that experience. Through our experimentation
Avoiding Miscommunication
 This Darned Elusive Happiness
by Theun Mares
Joe and Susan, an otherwise normal couple, had problems communicating with one another. Whenever Joe voiced his opinion, Susan would interrupt him mid-sentence because she thought she knew exactly what he was going to say.
The 5 MUSTS of Intentional Listening
by Jan Pedersen
According to Webster, to intend means to stretch out for, to aim at. An intent is a purpose, object or aim. Communicate means to exchange information, ideas or messages in any way, as by talk, gestures, writing, etc.
Communication and Customer Service
by Jan Pedersen
This week I suffered the inevitable. Travel enough and eventually you'll experience the frustration of a delayed flight. As I sat waiting to learn exactly what time my flight from Kansas City to Denver would really leave (versus allowing myself to be s
The Seventh Principle of Intentional Communication: When All Else Fails, Tell the Truth
by Jan Pedersen
As a speaker and trainer of communication skills, I often have participants in my workshops who are in pain somehow, struggling to right relationships or stand up for themselves or change their circumstances. Over and over, I am asked: How do I tell
The Sixth Principle of Intentional Communication: Nothing is Personal
by Jan Pedersen
Several years ago, while we were enjoying a year in France as the guests of my husband's employer, my husband and I took a Sunday stroll through a quaint, 16th century village. While we were looking up at the magnificent gothic spires, and taking
The Fifth Principle of Intentional Communication: Listening for Results
by Jan Pedersen
A lot has been written about listening in the past few decades. Most of it has to do with the doing of listening. Active Listening, they call it. Does this sound familiar? I don't know about you, but I can spot when somebody is active listening me
Communication is Choice: The Third Principle of Intentional Communication
by Jan Pedersen
Webster defines to choose as to pick out by preference from what is available; to decide or prefer or think proper. To choose implies the exercise of judgement in settling upon something offered or available. Choice is defined as the right, power
All Communication is Creative: The Second Principle of Intentional Communication
by Jan Pedersen
In my seminars, I often get questions that start with (Fill in the Blank) is really driving me crazy... It's hard for me to respond with a straight face anymore, when what I really want to say is, Hey, from your mouth to God's ear
Everything We Do Communicates: The First Principle of Intentional Communication
by Jan Pedersen
The human species is hard-wired for communication. There is literally nothing we can do to NOT communicate. Why? Because communication is the fundamental means by which humans have evolved into the dominant species on the planet.
Seven Principles of Intentional Communication
by Jan Pedersen
I've been playing with two metaphors for communication. The first metaphor: Communication is like stepping on a rake. When I snap at my husband, he tends to snap back at me. On those rare occasions (yeah, right), when my frustration leads me to raise m
Asserting Yourself : Getting over the Intimidation Factor
Obviously we all have experienced first hand overcoming intimidating people that use anger, fear and just plain meanness to get what they want. Whether it is the best table at a restaurant or lower airfares, they seem to push their way toward their goal
Do People Bug You And You Don
Is there someone that continually rubs you the wrong way? Or plays people against each other in front of you? Or talks about people behind their backs, making you uncomfortable? All of this isn't good of course, but the worse part is, you don't know how
Nurture the red-blooded male in him
by Peta Heskell
Well adjusted, red blooded men like sex. Flirt with him. Remind him about the sexual intimacies that you share. If you love to cook, do so and get off on him enjoying your food. Above all show him that you desire him. Statistics say that they think about
Arguing, Power Struggles and Emotional Communication
by Susan Lanir, M.S.W., C.S.W.
My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. We truly love each other and plan to be together forever. I left for school this year so now we have a long-distance relationship. We have been having problems lately that we cannot pinpoint. We
The Art of Touching
by Paul Mauchline
All of us - young and old, single and in relationship - need touch. Actions, in many cases, communicate more than words. Physical contact is a prerequisite both for a healthy individual, and for a fulfilling, mature, loving relationship with a partner.
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