Relationship Communication

He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo
Because if he likes you, trust me, he will ask you out. Many women have said to me, 'Greg, men run the world.' Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we could be incapable of something as simple as picking up the phone

The Gender Myth, The World of Personality Type
Just Your Type : Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type
by Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron-Tieger
There's no denying that those who espouse the viewpoint that gender is an inevitable barrier to good communication have struck a chord with millions of people who are frustrated with the way they deal with their partners.

How to Respond Empathically, Part 1
by James Lucoff
It used to be that when my wife brought up some problem, I would immediately try to fix it. For example, she would mention a difficult encounter with a coworker, and I'd say, Well, why don't you just tell her... Finally one day my wife blurted out

Communication and Customer Service
by Jan Pedersen
This week I suffered the inevitable. Travel enough and eventually you'll experience the frustration of a delayed flight. As I sat waiting to learn exactly what time my flight from Kansas City to Denver would really leave (versus allowing myself to be s

Communicating With Those Who Play the Role of the Victim
by Robert Elias Najemy
The role of Victim (poor me) is a favorite with many of us. There are so many benefits we can ensure by playing the role of the victim. 1. We automatically gain self-worth. Follow this reasoning closely. As a victim, we are the one to whom injustice

My husband has a hard time with communication and showing any emotions
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
My husband has a hard time with communication and showing any emotions. I, on the other hand, wear my emotions on my sleeve and crave lots of conversation. He is a good husband in other ways and a great father but I want to feel closer to him.

Asserting Yourself : Getting over the Intimidation Factor

Obviously we all have experienced first hand overcoming intimidating people that use anger, fear and just plain meanness to get what they want. Whether it is the best table at a restaurant or lower airfares, they seem to push their way toward their goal

Tips for Talking
by EqualityinMarriage.org
That argument you had before work about who was responsible for buying new milk probably isn't the best example of effective communication. All partners talk to each other, but very few really use communication as a tool to build and revitalize their

Understanding the Sexes
by Robert Elias Najemy
Although each gender tends to express itself quite differently, most philosophical teachings agree that the soul is neither male nor female. As souls, we incarnate into a gender in order to learn through that experience. Through our experimentation

The 5 MUSTS of Intentional Listening
by Jan Pedersen
According to Webster, to intend means to stretch out for, to aim at. An intent is a purpose, object or aim. Communicate means to exchange information, ideas or messages in any way, as by talk, gestures, writing, etc.

I Can't Even Open My Mouth: Separating Messages from Metamessages in Family Talk
I Only Say This Because I Love You : Talking to Your Parents, Partner, Sibs, and Kids When You're All Adults
by Deborah Tannen
The allure of family - which is, at heart, the allure of love - is to have someone who knows you so well that you don't have to explain yourself. It is the promise of someone who cares enough about you to protect you against the world of strangers who do

How To Say What You Feel, Part 1
by James Lucoff
There are a lot of reasons why I hold back from saying what I really feel to someone who's close to me - but usually it all goes back to one emotion: fear. Fear of getting an angry response, fear of making myself vulnerable by revealing what is really

Making Your Relationship Bank Account Grow
by James Lucoff
Dr. Willard Harley talks a lot about our relationship bank accounts. Think about the significant persons in your life. Your current overall feelings about them are probably derived from the sum of all the transactions you

Wife Repressed In Being Able To both Communicate and Express Her Sexuality
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
We’ve been married for 28 years, and my wife has been very, very repressed in being able to both communicate and also being able to express her sexuality. We’ve been in therapy for this for 2 years and it’s getting better, but my patienc

Seven Principles of Intentional Communication
by Jan Pedersen
I've been playing with two metaphors for communication. The first metaphor: Communication is like stepping on a rake. When I snap at my husband, he tends to snap back at me. On those rare occasions (yeah, right), when my frustration leads me to raise m

“You Say Tomato, I Say Tomahto”
Just Your Type : Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type
by Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron-Tieger
Susan and Jeff thought they were perfect for each other. They met in college, enjoyed some of the same interests, came from similar backgrounds, and married after both had had time to establish their careers.

She Doesn’t Ever Feel That I Back Her Up and See Her Side of a Situation
by Ellen Kreidman, Ph.D
We have always had problems, specially since she feels that when she gives her opinion, I always come back with reasons why she shouldn’t think or feel that way, and she doesn’t ever feel that I back her up and see her side of a situation.

Communication
Men Fake Foreplay ... And Other Lies That Are True
by Mike Dugan
Communication is the most important element in a relationship. Without communication, there is no relationship-you're just two people in the same room. Many men would sincerely tell you they believe sex is the most important element.

The See-Saw
by James Lucoff
This story is a metaphor about relationships that become systems. In this article we draw from the field of systems thinking, which itself is based on cybernetics, the science that provided the foundation for industrial automation and computer

What Is Your Relationship Value?
by EqualityinMarriage.org
There are always going to be those days when it seems the world is focused completely on your partner - and not at all on you. Maybe he or she has a big meeting coming up at work, or maybe he or she has just come down with the flu.